backtothescene2 48M
31 posts
7/3/2006 8:59 pm

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11/27/2006 10:26 pm


I often wonder what the true thoughts of the people here are. I'm sure there are just those looking for sex. Others are seeking more. I know some are fake, others are being very genuine. That makes me ask, "Why are you here?" I truly enjoy people, and what they are about. I'm not a shining belle of the ball when it comes to being outgoing. I am easy to talk to and hold a conversation very well. I don't like to talk on and on about myself, but love it when others do. I do it in my day to day life. I'll meet someone through my job, say, and find out they are from another state far away, or even a foreign country. I find that fascinating, and my question always is, "What brought you here?" I know that without some contact of some sort, you can't learn anything about another person. Does a profile portray enough about you to interest someone else? We all have our fears and insecurities about how others see us. How do you overcome yours? I've always been a little intimidated by very attractive women. I am very hesitant to approach them. I ask myself what about me would be of any interest to them. I have been guilty of thinking women like that to be shallow, when I know that isn't the case the majority of the time. I also find that when I chat with a woman for the first couple times, they always point out flaws to me. "I'm not Barbie." "I'm a plus sized woman." Why do we point these things out to people so quickly?

rm_hotmamaNcols 39F
445 posts
7/3/2006 9:57 pm

People will point out their own flaws either because they have a complex about it or they are just being honest-getting it out there so there are no misconceptions. While we are talking about flaws- mine is my highly expressive face. Makes for a lot of losses during poker, LOL!!

rm_KarmoHunny 54F
888 posts
7/3/2006 10:04 pm

Plus-size women point that out because there are a lot of men who are not interested in us. I've read where some men have met women only to be surprised that they were plus-size. And I don't mean pleasantly surprised. So, in order to avoid rejection, we are up front about it. This society is obsessed with youth and thinness. Everywhere we turn there's commercials and such touting diet pills and weight loss programs. People have even resorted to surgery to be thin. Hell, if I could, I'd weigh 110 pounds! But the reality is I don't weigh that little. So, I'll continue to be upfront about being plus-size to avoid any unpleasantness.

DISCLAIMER: This is just my opinion on the matter.

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