My Philosophy on relationships  

babylovebee 34F
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7/7/2006 12:58 pm

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7/11/2006 4:44 pm

My Philosophy on relationships


Ok, this might be too "deep" for some of you to understand so maybe go smoke a little, grab a beer, come back and it will make more sense.

I see a complete, happy relationship/Marriage being a filled in whole "perfect" circle. At one point in time every relationship was whole, or at least felt that way.

Eventually that perfect circle will start to lose pieces. Those pieces are things that are missing from your relationship, like love, trust, security, sex, anything that goes into a relationship. Most times people can get by when only a few of the pieces are missing, but some relationships, like mine, have LOTS more pieces missing.

You try to patch that circle up, but sometimes it does not work. What you end up doing is looking for those missing pieces in other people to make your relationship feel whole again. Not even the relationship at that point, but you wanna make yourself feel whole again.

out_for_a_ride 35M

7/11/2006 12:26 am

I'm surprised nobody else has commented on this thought because it seems the more I watch the world, the more of this compensating action I see. It's not so hard to understand as everyone in the world is guilty of such an action, the hard part is understanding that the void can not be filled until it is identified. Compensating action is just like patch work, it's action in the now to fill what is void, but as it is action in the now, it only works in the now, so as the moment passes the void is revealed to the soul once more, and the cycle of patch work begins again for those unable to break it.

In regards to breaking the cycle, it is imperative to identify exactly what we want to experience within each section of life, and from segment to segment within each section....i.e. if one needed a new car, s/he wouldn't just buy any new car without identifying the purpose behind it. whether it's for carpooling or cruising, one would by the car that best suits their purpose. and while this is common sense, in life situations we often fail to define our purpose. especially in relationships. more often than not, it's solely the desire for company (or rather, the desire to not be alone) that drives intrigue into new relationships, not a definitive answer to the exact character physically, mentally, and emotionally. and then as we start to realize the unfulfillment in the undefined, we take action to compensate. it is my promise to the world that such action will not end in happiness, but we already know that.


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