Swing with Grace  

avgjoe19602 56M
189 posts
5/17/2005 6:45 am

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Swing with Grace

Well, my last post was denied and I was so pissed that I left some rather bad poetry. I hope you will all keep reading, I will get the hang of this sooner or later. I am really a curious person by nature and there is a great deal that I wish to learn mostly about myself.

That is why I like this Blog concept. You put out something that is on your mind and others weigh in with their opinion or at least give you their slant. You do not have to let them decide for you but it sure is nice to get a glimpse of how others think. The experience behind their reaction and the beliefs that come through to color their thoughts is nothing short of amazing to me.

One question that I have been dealing with a lot these days is what makes relationships last? I see so many of you couples on this site that have reached a point where you can play sexually with others and it seems to strengthen your relationship. Then there are others who really want to find that “special someone” and settle into a strictly monogamous relationship. I think that most people fall into the latter category which just makes me more curious. What does it take to adopt the swinging lifestyle? You must be really great communicators!

Imagine...A world with no jealousy?

If you are a swinging couple, how were you able to broach the subject in the first place?

What would you have done if your partner had been totally against this idea?

Was there a time that you had to work through to both get comfortable with the idea?

Finally, what happens if one of you is attracted to another couple/individual but the other is not?

Insights from non or wanna be swingers also welcome.

Inquiring Joe

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/17/2005 8:08 am

I am not into "swinging" myself per se; but, I do know couples who are. They communicate well with one another and it seems that they have chosen their lifestyle without any hesitation. I would often babysit their kids for them; I didn't care how they enjoyed their lives as long as they were very much into each other and thought about the kids.

The wife was a friend of a group of us that hung out with one another. She had approached another one of our friends in our group about joining her and her husband for a rendevous event. That friend was aghast at the couple that we all thought we knew.

Some people are more open to it than others. To me..., while I am open to the concept, it is just such a huge emotional turmoil for me where I don't accept 3somes or a swinging lifestyle, but that is just me. Some people are just more close minded and won't consider anything of the sort at all.

Bottom line, though, you are correct in presuming that the communication factor is key in this process. If you can't convey your thoughts or fantacies to your loved one, your relationship will be constricted to just that one life that you live in day in and day out.

expatbrit49 62M

5/18/2005 3:15 am

Oh Rose, I am shattered what do mean you don’t swing… Oh no I have been having that fantasy ever since I saw that boob getting out, well thats it, gonna stop blogging, WOW, and I so thought that you be into having a couple of guys and another woman all working you at the same time LOL....Start new Fantasy Rose and You....Hmmmmm

Oh yeah Joe, What was the question again LOL

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