Do you believe in "The One" ?  

ashyguy35 47M
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11/14/2005 10:14 am

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Do you believe in "The One" ?


This is probably quite a question on a site which seems mainly to revolve around sex more than relationships, although I'm pretty sure there are more of us 'relationship' type people around here than one might think.

Do you believe in the existence of that one person that is destined to be your perfect match? Do you think you've met that one person, or even had them pass you by? Do you think it's possible for that person to exist and for you to miss the opportunity? Do we all have more than one perfect match? Tell me what you think.

These questions have been racing through my head a lot lately, mainly with respect to someone I lost that I truly thought was 'the one', I didn't believe in this concept before I met her and now I'm left wondering if the concept is true now that I've lost her.

I met her shortly after my wife and I seperated, we were introduced by mutual friends and had a considerable distance between us and busy enough lifestyles to make meeting rare and difficult. Even now, I am still blown away at the closeness I found with this woman, a closeness that seemed like she was a part of me... that I could feel her inside myself. When we were together the intimacy was mind blowing, we could truly communicate without speaking a word and sex was unlike anything we'd ever experienced. I'd always found sex awkward and unrewarding, but with her it was a remarkable experience, we would make love for three, four or even five hours sometimes and be able to please each other in ways neither of us had ever experienced before, it was like we could read each others minds. She would have orgasm after orgasm, seemingly so effortlessly, and I would orgasm inside her only to keep on and on just wanting to please her more and more. Sex with her wasn't a quest to fulfill ourselves, but more to fulfill each other.

The relationship ended when she simply decided she was going to go back with an ex-boyfriend of hers, feeling guilty that her children were fond of him. My god, that hurt and still hurts, I can feel her still, still sense her presence. How does one recover from that?

I truly don't think I ever knew what it really was to love someone until I met her, despite being married twice. It's an experience I will remember for the rest of my life. How can I help but wonder if I truly missed my chance?

sleeplessknight1 68M

11/14/2005 10:43 am

A message of Hope.....
I believe that if you see, meet, "the one" as yu put it,
it will happen....
No... you won't miss the opportunity and neither will they.


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wanttoplay380 57M/56F

11/14/2005 11:50 am

My dear, you will always wonder. It may fade, but it never goes away. Don't ever think of her as a loss, she brought something to your life that you've never had before. You have experienced what few people have, or ever will. I have experienced this with 2 men. The first I lost through an untimely death, and the other for reasons that seemed important at the time. You did not miss your chance, you've only had your first.


leyndokona2 49F

11/14/2005 11:55 am

Yes I believe in the one, yes I found him (only too late). Wish I had a solution for you but apparently you were not her "one" so maybe she's wasn't your "one" either. The real "one" is (I think) made for you and you are made for her. She will probably enter your life when you least expect so don't waste all your energy looking for her.


silkysmoothlegs3 105F

11/15/2005 5:36 am

That was beautiful

treasure the memories you will always have them babes

love silky xx


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