What is attractive in a woman?  

annierocks 61F
164 posts
7/11/2006 5:27 am

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7/27/2006 3:38 pm

What is attractive in a woman?

What is beautiful varies from person to person. The cultural standard of beauty for women is young, extremely thin, and with child-like features. Few "real women" look this way. What do "real people" find attractive in women?

WestSideAl2004 70M

7/13/2006 2:20 pm

Attractive? Self-confidence. Energy. Kindness.

Unattractive? Production line, manufactured appearance. The more women strive to look alike, the more average they become.


annierocks 61F

7/13/2006 3:56 pm

Your comments all say a great deal about the sort of men you are...and the sort of men I wish more were! The cultural standard, that pushed by Playboy and Cosmo, is one of plasticity and phoniness. Also, the standards they set are impossible to measure up to. Research shows that if men look at Playboy and then rate the attractiveness of their partner, they see their partner as less attractive than if they had rated her without seeing the photos first So, they set impossible standards, and real women fare worse due to the comparison.

rm_dancer_640 65M
17 posts
7/14/2006 4:31 am

Annie, I agree with your points, as you well know. However, its not only the "Playboy" sources that sets this standard, but more realistically the western world in general. How many tv commercials, billboard adds, magazine adds does one see where the female subject is not "fashion magazine" quality? However, its not just women who are placed into this unrealistic position...what of the men? What adds does one see where the guy doesn't qualify for the cover of GQ?

hotrod352006 67M  
555 posts
7/14/2006 6:20 am

I don't know until I see it...hear it, or feel it. First, there is probably a visceral jolt followed by, well, do you remember "The Scent of a Woman"? To me it's an experience, and when I leave the presence of a female something lingers in my mind and keeps coming back. I experience the need to go to and be with that female and further absorb what it was that caught my attention. Nothing smarmy or needy, just being in the moment with the experience.

annierocks 61F

7/15/2006 6:05 am

Very nice. I like!

historyreader 63M
2 posts
7/25/2006 2:15 pm

I love a women with strong hands as opposed to long an slender.I love a women that's strong enough to take care of herself and yet doesn't feel weaked my loving another person.There is a spot on the back of her legs behind the knee that I find appealing.I love the way a small breasted women can make herself more sexy that a large breasted one.They are way more creative.Just a few of the things I love about women.

rm_lastinglovr 56M
4 posts
7/26/2006 7:52 pm

Annie... I think you were wrong with the comment you made on the 13th. (First let me appologize that my first entry in your blog starts a little negatively) But most men I know, DON'T rate women by the impossible standards that you assume they do. The women do that. Why compare yourselves to some beauty queen when you and all other women have your own set of "impossible standards" in some other aspect of your life.... be it wittyness, brains, motherhood, generosity, humor... or whatever. The research you mention is flawed, in that the men responded positively to the pictured women as being more "open" or "outgoing" since that is what most pictures suggest. Their wives, on the other hand, are already etched in thier minds as who they know them to be, no metter how nice the picture is. It's an unfair comparison. But most men see great beauty in thier wives every day, but may become a little lax in showing it. It's just too bad that so many couples can't get over that 'comparison' thing, because fantasy wins over reality every time.... but we live, and love, in reality.

annierocks 61F

7/26/2006 8:16 pm

Interesting post. And I love being challenged. One question: Have you read that study? If you have I need to go back and review it. Thanks!

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