Sexy is as Perceiver Thinks  

annierocks 61F
164 posts
7/10/2006 5:47 am

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Sexy is as Perceiver Thinks

Sexy: Some like blatant, overt, in-you-face sexuality. I prefer the subtle, slowly unfolding sensuality that comes from a building relationship. I prefer sex that involves caring.

annierocks 61F

7/10/2006 11:13 am

I agree completely. Sex is much too intimate to have with a stranger for me. Different people feel differently, and that's fine...whatever works for the people involved. Soooo...the question is how does one find a person with whom mutual affection is a factor without spending months building that? And how does one do that when meeting someone on a sex site? Afterall, I'm here for a reason, you're here for the same reason....doesn't that affect the tenor of the relatioship?

intoxicator1000 55M
1 post
7/10/2006 2:34 pm

What do you think about this, Annie? an idea from psychology: fetishes are often linked to childhood experiences. So, the fetish may result in arousal even when there is no other intimacy established. True?

It kind of depends on what really attracts a person sexually. Sex with strangers? Could be VERY sexy in the right context and if that was your thing. For me- "sexy" varies from person to person- one woman has a sexual nature quite different from another woman. That's the fantastic thing about discovering a woman's essence- to find the treasure that awaits! Never ceases to fascinate.


annierocks 61F

7/10/2006 3:40 pm

I think sexy varies from person to person. That is, in essence, the purpose of this explore those differences. I go with the old "two consenting adults behind closed door" school of thought. Me, however, it is not the case that anything goes. However, as long as animals or children are not involved, I'll be as broad-minded as I can be.

I have little knowledge of fetishes. One could easily make a case that all significant facets of our personality have roots in childhood. In fact, I don't see how one can divorce childhood from any aspect of personality if you look at enough antecedent causes.

so, what do I find sexy? Sublety. Don't send me photos of organs. Send me a photo of your eyes. Respect. Concern. Liking. All of these things can and do exist outside of a romantic love context.


rm_strider9965 59M

7/19/2006 7:21 am

Time ot everyone.

Sex has nothing to do with love.

As mentioned in an earlier posting, sex is primarily the fulfillment of a need to procreate. Sex has become romanticized to the point that we now connect sex to love, but it is not a requirement. I agree that sex can also be a display of affection, and that when two poeple are in love or some sort of emotional connection is there the the act of sex is more rewarding and emotionally fulfilling. But lets not confuse sexuality and sensuality with sex.

annierocks 61F

7/19/2006 3:14 pm

I wholeheartedsly disagree. But...there is no way to get empirical data on this is there?

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