What is love?  

angelwithahalo 59F
146 posts
6/1/2005 7:07 pm

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What is love?


I was asked this if i loved a certain person last week. I couldnt give him a honest answer, so I had to think about it. I know i dont love him as a mate not sure I would ever fall for that again.I do love him as a very good close friend.So what is your definition of love? I read some of these blogs and they seem to be so unhappy in their marriages I get emails from married people unhappy in their marriages if they are so unhappy and not in love with their mate why do they stay? Why compromise the person you are to make another happy? I did that for years and it got me nothing. So when this person asked if I loved him I was hard pressed to give him the answer he wanted to hear.
What is your definition of love?

rm_tonystew32 55M
1 post
6/1/2005 8:39 pm

Two people will not always agree on everything. Love is about giving and taking. If one can't give, but only take, then there is no love there; get him/her out of your life!


shaved4ualover 56M
4 posts
6/1/2005 9:06 pm

Love is action, Love is spirit channeling action though us. Love is always considering others above ourselves. Love is humility. Love is not a feeling, or a desire, it is a commitment to be selfless, it take practice for me. seek and you shall find, knock and it shall be open.


rm_77651andmore 59M
3 posts
6/3/2005 9:28 pm

Angel,
You ask what love is. For a person who has been hurt in the past and is hesitant to be hurt again, the answer is not a simple as we want it to be. For those who carry "baggage" love can only be defined by them, in their own time.
Yes, I have asked another if she loved me and got the non-commital reply. I opened myself up for the pain and stuck with it for a very long time. Finally I had to move forward, without her.
Fun is fun and sex is sex but real true love is real, for the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of a relationship
Hope you continue to be successful in all your endeavors.


hardliquor7 67M

7/13/2005 3:20 am

Love is the most overused word in the English language. There is love, and there is sex. Most of the people who say they are so unhappy in their marriages are searching for more sex, different sex partners.. Seems to me what everyone wants is open sex with others. They are not as unhappy in their marriages as they say. They are looking for more fuck buddies. Maybe things have changed and that is the way of the future. Surely looks that way to me, I am 55 and really have seen a big difference in sexual attitudes. May see people on the roadside with signs reading " Will fuck for Love"


gemini0157 59M  
6842 posts
7/19/2005 11:08 am

To me....Love isn't a science of course so there is no actual defination... It's more of a sense or feeling.... So lets say... If you think about someone all day long.... Chances are you are in love.


rm_jb1ab2 53M/52F
8 posts
7/20/2005 4:34 pm

My definition of love is simple, there's only one biscut left, I want her to have it. Where do I want to go, wherever you want honey,(Thank God she hates shopping)
Mostly what ever , when ever, where ever is better with her, than without her.
After all these years and all these kids she is THE ONE!!!!
If you feel that , can it be anything but love?
Ohhh and by the way, she don't have to tell me she feels the same , she shows me EVERY day.


lumiere62 54M

8/9/2005 5:58 am

Hello angelwithahalo! First allow me to express my admiration to your photo (actually you).

I think that the unhappiness in marriage comes with years and I would not think that one person is happy and another is not but rather that both people are 'unhappy' (make compromises, etc.). In fact, if you married for love (what most people do these days, I hope) then I would not say that people are unhappy, but rather that the circumstances have changed, either children, hard work, etc., as if you were passionate lovers once why you couldn't be now?

My dictionary says...

Love
fondness combined with sexual attraction: The young pair are in love (with each other). | They fell in love at once: it was love at first sight. | a love story
CULTURAL NOTE Some people, esp. women, think of love as being something perfect and better than reality. They read love stories and believe in love at first sight (i.e. that two people can fall in love the moment they first see each other). They imagine love as leading to a beautiful white wedding and continuing happiness. Love is often represented by a red heart or by CUPID.

...and I cannot define it any better. It looks like love includes some sort of deep feeling, some kind of irrational dream distanced from direct physical sex but can be easily employed to one. Still, I think love is sexless (in physical sense), sex is only 'lower' felling compared to it, although there are different sexual experiences and maybe the two (feelings) can be mixed (a good orgasm can have both flavours), but if you are in love you can be content without having sex (do not mean for a long period, of course).

My personal opinion is that if you do not know if you are in love you are not, I think you will feel it clearly when it comes.

Also...

orgasm
the highest point of sexual pleasure

climax
1 the most exciting, important, or effective part in a story, experience, set of events, etc., which usu. comes near the end: The climax of the film is a brilliant car chase. | The election campaign reached its climax last night, with a televised debate between the two candidates.
2 the highest point of sexual pleasure; ORGASM

...and I do not believe that love (feeling) as opposed to sexual pleasure has its climax in the real sense of the word, although there are oscillations.

Of course, many people would agree that love is a 'higher' felling than sexual pleasure, but if you look how your body reacts when you are having a good orgasm one cannot be sure if that climax in a few seconds is the 'highest' one can experience. But, only you know how you feel in both cases and the judgement is left to be decided by an individual. If most people say love is better, than maybe it is.

I think love last longer and is less intense but different (from sexual pleasure).


Dallas_Male_35 47M
255 posts
11/18/2005 1:18 pm

What is love?

Obviously, I don't share the views of other people here; but, then again, this is what I think.

First, friendship is based on trust, faith, honor and respect; and you must have the ability to communicate openly. You can't be "Friends" if you don't have all of those qualities.

Friendship is the best foundation for love. Love is like friendship that caught fire! It's hot. It's dangerous. . . and it can hurt you if you play with it.

If you love your "partner" as a friend, it's the best start you can ever have. I envy him. You may not know what you have there, and you may feel like it's "less" than what it should be, but don't let other peoples view of what love is ruin your relationships.

Love doesn't come around often, and when it does, you have to grab onto it with both hands . . . . and try to never let it go.

Like I said, that's just what I believe.


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