Sexual Cotton Candy!  

angelofmercy5 58F
12148 posts
6/5/2006 7:11 am

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Sexual Cotton Candy!

Cotton Candy....that sticky, sweet, melt in your mouth stuff that none of us needs....but most of us can't resist. In our lives, there is alot of sexual "cotton candy" offered to us. We have to choose to eat it and lick our fingers afterwards or not.

I was thinking how innocent I was when I got far as sex goes I mean. Oh...I thought I knew it all. I knew how to turn a guy on....I loved to kiss...and I did so with my whole heart, mind, body and soul. And I liked sex....and sleeping in the same bed with my husband and not having to go home to my own bed was wonderful.

But we were truly innocents. I'm reading some of your tales of sexual prowess here...and I'm remembering things. Things that happened long, long ago...and if we had taken advantage of them....we wouldn't be such sexual "virgins" now. And maybe we wouldn't be wondering what sex with someone other than our spouse would be like.

My husband was career Navy. There were many times that his fellow sailors would make a pass at me.....and I turned it down. There was a young girl in Key West Florida that was in our apartment full of friends all stretched out on the floor begging to be taken....and no one did. There was the neighbor in Naples Italy that thought she and my husband would make great babies together....and we laughed. There was the "old" (to me) Italian man who was our landlord that tried to seduce me every time he came to collect our rent.....I never even considered it! Then there were the gorgeous Italian men....who tried to seduce you all the time! Yea...they even laid by the pool side in their speedos and stroked themselves until their hard cocks would be peeking out of the speedo. I looked....didn't ever touch.

Then there was the "spiritual" connections that could have easily developed into something else....didn't go there. How about you? Is there something you let pass by that you wish you had taken advantage of? I'd love to hear about it.


firestarter665 42M/39F

6/5/2006 7:43 am

I have never had the opportunity present itself for me to turn it down. There are those flirtatious moments that make you think that it might be an opportunity, but not being sure of the situation makes it difficult to know if I did let something pass me by.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 7:49 am:
Firestarter...I know just what you mean! But what if, the next time there is a flirtatious moment, you make a bold move and see what happens? That will make a great story.

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
6/5/2006 8:48 am

It's never really been offered in a fashion like you describe. Kinda makes me sad. Very vanilla experiences back when I was having sex. I know so much more now and am just looking for the chance to explore and learn even more.
When I was younger I think I would have passed things up as well. Now is another story. Something to do with being starving but also a little more bold and confident.
Now as far as turning it down. I would not go to bed with a woman for the first time if she was very drunk. I really wouldn't want her to regret things in the morning. I would rather be the gentleman. And maybe some women wouldn't respect that and might get the wrong impression that I didn't want them. But I wouldn't want to feel that I took advantage.
Revenge sex? I don't know if I would have sex with a woman who was looking for that.
comfort sex when emotionally drained, etc? Probably.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 9:28 am: are a perfect gentleman. I'm glad that you wouldn't take advantage of a drunk woman...even if you could. And I could understand comfort sex. I just wonder how many times we "could" have had sex....and either didn't see it or just didn't do it for whatever reson.

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
6/5/2006 9:53 am

My radar I think is pretty bad. I don't think I really notice when a woman is looking at me in that way. I'm sure I missed lots of opportunities to strike up a conversation that might have lead to somewhere. Although, in my younger days if I had the nerve to pursue it I probably wouldn't have done very well. Not the smoothest guy in the world. Still need to work on it. Ain't self confidence a bitch?

I did notice this gay guy eying me when I was out Saturday though. OK, a nice complement but not for me.

I tend to be very focused. The direct approach works for me. And when I'm taking to a woman my mind is on the conversation and not what my next move should be or what I should be doing to send the right signals.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 12:04 pm:
SR....I don't know you....but I like you. And judging by what I see from your picture...I'll bet there are women looking at you that way. Your radar needs to be turned on maybe. ~giggle~


6/5/2006 10:18 am

It has never really been offered or my radar is way off..There are the flirts of course.. and I just take it as that.. cause I'm a flirt to..

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angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 12:03 pm:
Mrsmuffland....I honestly know what you mean because I'm a bit of a flirt too. I think that in sometimes wonder if they meant a little more than flirting.

horny4770 60M
8158 posts
6/5/2006 11:06 am

I was wild when I was young and sampled just about everything 'sweet' before I was married that showed up on my radar screen. When 'SHE' blipped on the screen and I sampled that...why have unsalted, unbuttered, stale popcorn when you can have freshly spun sweet cotton candy that you can never get licked off your fingers? We're talking about tooth decay sweet here! lol

Other blips on the radar were just that...blips. The radar was in operation, the airport just became privately controlled.


angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 12:02 pm:
Horny....I love the way you describe the love you had when "SHE" blipped on the screen. I think that is exactly the way all women would like the man they love to think of them. That they are the freshly spun why chase after stale popcorn. Unbuttered no less. Thank you for such a wonderful comment.

campfirecozy 66M

6/5/2006 11:43 am

We're talking about the "if only I knew then what I know now" kind of thing...I would have been even worse when I was younger. I was bad enough as it was in my college days...I do know better now and show much better restraint.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 12:01 pm:
Cozy...that's exactly what we're talking about. I wonder if I would have done things differently if "I knew then". Probably not. But you do wonder.

puntachueca 105M

6/5/2006 12:25 pm

Had an interesting experience when I was younger...was actually kind of famous in a local context, and had "fans"...but I ended up probably feeling like what a lot of women do when they're hit on just because they present some kind of trophy. The most important thing to me is trust...and that does not come easy. So I've passed on many opportunities, and still do that. There's a lot more to good sex than naked bodies.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 12:32 pm:
Ah my good friend have really hit the nail on the head when you say there's alot more to good sex than naked bodies. And now I am intrigued about your claim to fame! Did I ever tell you I had an inquiring mind????

westhill2006 53M

6/5/2006 12:29 pm

I've always eaten I'm afraid,slut that I am,lol...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 12:33 pm:
Westhill...then you shall have no regrets for opportunities not taken. Do you have any regrets for taking them all? lol

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
6/5/2006 1:27 pm

I've always eaten, licked the sugar from my fingers and gone looking for more.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 4:13 pm:
Curious...that was the cutest comment! I could almost see you licking your fingers!

Looking0100 54M

6/5/2006 2:08 pm


This is how I feel reading this post: and . You and pretty much every other blogger around has had such opportunities. But I haven't.

In all of my adult life (or even late teens for that matter), not one person has every put me in a position to answer yes or no to anything sexual or even romantic. I have missed out on an entire lifetime. The only girlfriend I ever had was an online relationship that lasted two weeks this past April. But, she was really a scammer.

Not one person where I work now, or have ever worked ever suggested the possibility of sex with me. I do not go to bars because I cannot stand alcohol. I do not know if people can smoke in bars still, but if that is so, then that makes it much, much worse. I cannot breathe around smokers. And the smell of alcohol is nauseating. I have not been too many places in my life. But no one offered me anything remotely sexual or romantic at any of these places.

I have lots of friends or so-called friends online. I thought they were all real. I still believe that at least three are real. The rest I am not at all sure of. Not one of them wants to date me, and of course one of the is already in a relationship. I have put myself way out there in hopes of finding lots more friends, and a lifelong partner. I have made more than a hundred contacts in about two months in a different web site. Several have turned me down. A few of these have said that I am too old. A few others were bad, leaving derogatory notes about my looks (which I cannot really control). But, so far not one has even suggested being more than a friend.

I will not give up (at least at that web site; I will do so at this one because the blogs are a lot less fun now than they were {because of Hippie and Shaye; how they felt about me when I hurt them, and the fact that I did hurt them, and that makes me very sad }). But, I continue to have faith and loads of hope (I constantly give out so much hope because I have too much for just one person). These keep me going on when everything in my head tells me to quit and just lie down forever. I am not that kind of person. I may never prevail, but I will do what it takes to succeed.

Angel, I have given you much of my hope in your times of need. I have also give much hope to many of my friends, particularly my California friend, who is my best friend. I have even given hope to those people I do not know at all (including my friend's friends and relatives). I am full of so much hope that I am able to stay online looking for someone to complete me, my soulmate, my life-long partner, the other half of my soul, and the one to whom I will give all of my heart. That is all one woman, I just haven't yet met her.

Please check out my blog and my last post for me. Just this once. I will be leaving AdultFriendFinder within two weeks (I extended my stay) if I receive no support or encouragement anywhere on my blog You do not have to comment of course. But, it would be very much appreciated.

Take Care,

Jon C.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 4:15 pm: will find that right woman. And probably when you least expect it. I have hope for you there.

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

6/5/2006 2:44 pm

I NEVER have passed up on "cotton candy..!!!" I always brush my teeth.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 4:17 pm:
Pragmatic....are you feeling better yet? Good enough to eat some cotton candy??? I 've been thinking about you alot.

VATraveler1948 68M

6/5/2006 3:54 pm

Angel, I think that you and I may be very similar in our sexual history. I don't know if my "fidelity" was because I didn't recognize the possibilities that I now can see pretty clearly were all around me when I was young. Maybe it was because of some code of moral values that was instilled in me, maybe it was because I was afraid of rejection... or failure, maybe it was because I was just plain scared, or... maybe it was because I was dumber than a box of rocks. Whatever the reason, I was still a virgin at age 23 when I was married and what's more, I don't regret that for a moment.

I have admitted this before and I'll say it again, I had what I would say was a "spiritual connection" with another woman this year. I don't know why it didn't go anywhere... maybe it was the same things that held me back when I was younger. I know that I regret the hurt I caused my wife, I know that she lost a great deal of faith in me and I know that I certainly lost the level of trust she had in me previously. What's done is done, I am only looking forward now.

Jeez, I answered a simple question with a biography, I didn't mean to try to take over your blog but I tend to get carried away sometimes. I don't regret the missed opportunities, I just am thankful that I still have my wife and family.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 4:09 pm:
VAT....great comment....and....YOU ARE MY 7000th COMMENT! Wow...thanks for that VAT! I'm sure your wife realizes what a gem she has in you.

oldude1946 70M

6/5/2006 4:28 pm

I ate a Junebug once, does that count

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 4:41 pm:
Oldude...of course it counts! And the very fact that you can scare away a snake with your own "snake"....well, that says it all.

westhill2006 53M

6/5/2006 5:06 pm

I've always said I never regret anything I've done in life angel,all part of the journey.
The truth though is,yes I do...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 5:08 pm:
Westhill....then you are human like the rest of us. But you can't look back, only forward! I loved the jokes on your blog by the way......well....most of them! lol

normalornaught 34M

6/5/2006 6:42 pm

Two times I passed on the cotton candy:

The first time was when I was in the service and my best friend in the service wanted me to do his wife while he was away. We were all good friends the three of us and there had always been a certain electricity. I told him I couldn't go there that they were too good of friends. With my understanding of the lifestyle now, I sometimes say I should have done it but in retrospect I am glad I didn't it could have damaged a very close friendship.

The second was just wrong, still in the service but two years later, I was married she was married. We were nextdoor neighbors and all played cards together almost every night. I took leave for a week and just stayed around the apartment, she came on to me, I was just about to go for it and my now ex-wife showed up early from work. I was glad then, and am glad now but sometimes think back to my hot neighbor. Ouch she was hot and I wanted her bad but it was wrong.

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 8:12 pm: there were at least a couple of times that you were offered too. What it is about you men in the service????? I guess you can't really regret it though....but I bet you wonder sometimes if things had been different....

nodrama1958 60M/58F

6/5/2006 7:41 pm

Dear, I must admit we lived in an opposite universe. I wanted given a total ride to a private all girls college when I was 17. {On a NURSING scholarship!} Total admission was less than 800 so everyone knew you and you knew them. I heard about a job that was in a strip club about 30 miles away. It was in a strip club but I would not be stripping. I would just serve food and drinks to the clients. (innocent enough) The owner turned me down until I was 18 and then I applied again. When I started working there I learned so much about the sexual side of life. I almost took the job as a study of human behavior and the money was great! Soon I learned about the VIP room.....OMG, did I find out a lot of things that a small town girl never thought of!!! I was making $100 an hour minimum (great wages for the early 70"s} and getting all the pleasure! I only worked week-ends and no one in my school or family ever knew exactly what I was doing. (They just could not figure out why I was driving a Corvette) As far as they knew, I was going home or to see an old friend. I learned more there than I could ever imagine. Then....I thought I found the love of my life. Dated 3 years and married 15 years and the sex life was dead. (It is very demoralizing to have to beg for sex!!!} Divorced for 9 years. Then my true mate appeared. {Jon C it will happen - you just never know when) Now I am the innocent! A question was asked on one of these sites if anyone knew what a "fluffer" was...I didn't know. However, my husband advised me that it was a girl that gave BJs to guys to get them ready for porn movies. I did this in the 70's and didn't even know the name of what I was doing!!! I am just trying to get caught up with times and having a great time doing it!

Gee, I guess I just spilled my guts. Time to go........

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/5/2006 8:10 pm:
Cheri....your comment mesmerized me! I could have read more and more. So....your blog will go on my watched list. Thank you. I didn't know what a fluffer was I've had my education for the day. This site has been a real education for me!

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
6/6/2006 12:51 am

There have been those opportunities that I've let go....and wondered about later....but time marches on.....know what I mean?

I guess I've never found out where the 'cotton candy' vendor was located.....

NG61....disappearing into the shadows...

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/6/2006 8:08 am:
Nightguy....yes, time marches on. And you can't go back and have a "re-do"....remember those from childhood? And I think the "cotton candy vendor" is here in Virginia! lol

rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
6/6/2006 1:33 am

Missed Opportunities... yeah several. I "never" took advantage of anyone who had drank too much... even when it was offered. Couldn't, and won't do it still.

I always joked with them by saying, that I wanted them to be able to remember what all happened. Got the opportunity a couple of times later in a more sober momemt, got laughed at, which was cool, and even got yelled at a couple of times. 143, me

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/6/2006 8:10 am:
Unlistedone....I would have been shocked if you had said you took advantage of an inebriated woman! You are the ultimate gentleman. Or perhaps I mean a romantic wolf in gentleman's clothing! Anyways....I think you'd definetely want them to remember all that would be the time of their life. 143

HBowt2 58F

6/6/2006 1:45 am

in a don't look back mood at the moment....wondering what might be in the future...after all ...they're not finished making candy floss are they?

angelofmercy5 replies on 6/6/2006 8:12 am:
HBowt2....nope! They are still making the cotton candy! You are in for the ride of your life sometime real soon! lol

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