Men At The Supermarket!  

angelofmercy5 58F
12148 posts
4/15/2006 10:19 am

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Men At The Supermarket!

Ok...I'm making a list and checking it twice. I'm going to send my husband to the grocery store! Now, don't ask me why I'm sending him.....he will call me about every 2 minutes...or as long as it takes him to get to the next aisle. "Is this brand ok?" "What size should I get?"

You know...its my own fault! Honest it is. In the past, I would complain if he bought the wrong thing...or the wrong size. And he really just wants to please me....yes, even in the grocery store.

But maybe I've grown. Because, honestly, I don't care if it's the wrong brand, or the wrong size. We can make do. And we can always make another trip.....usually have to anyways. I'm just grateful that he went...and that he came home. Trying to please a woman could send men all running to the hills......except there wouldn't be any women to have sex with there....unless they could find the hills that [blog Mzhunyhole] lives in!



rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
4/15/2006 10:41 am

*Trying* to *Please* anyone who has their mind set
that they aren't going to be pleased is something that
just seems to happen *a lot*

I think that most people get a little bitchy about being
with someone who is not *naturally* pleased by what one
prefers to give into the relationship. RELATIONSHIPS can
be work...they certainly are about open and honest communication.
Maybe the goal needs to be to just go to the grocery store and
know that pleasing someone isn't at the top of the list. If it IS
at the top of the list then both parties would do well to
acknowledge that and be present accordingly!

As for me, I observe that the second wife usually is alittle
easier to please...perhaps it is the lessons in life that are
the real grocery list.

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:46 pm:
Goddess..I think you are right that it is the lessons in life...not the grocery list! And I have learned that it just isn't worth losing sleep over. I lose enough sleep as it is!

fantasylover_05 62M

4/15/2006 10:43 am

You are absolutely right Angel

Does it really matter? His heart is indeed in the right place!!

Now with all that said.... I have not grocery shopped for or with my wife in probably 25 years.... the very last time we went together I kept asking if we needed this or that which she was trying to buy... and I looked at the labels and told her which was cheaper by volume or content... and well... I was just simply a total pain in the ass... she left the cart where it was and WALKED OUT of the store.. and we have not been back together since!!!

She has gone on extended vacations (a month at a time) to Hawaii several times in the last few years leaving me home alone (somebody has to work and pay for it! LO and I have shopped for myself then.... but otherwise she won't let me have anything to do with it!

And I am sure all you women will think that was my "plan"... well it was not.... not that I "miss grocery shopping" LOL LOL but it was not my intent......

Okay.. so now you all think I am a horrible cad.. I truly am not... maybe some things just aren't meant to be admittted?


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:49 pm:
Fantasylover...now I don't think you planned it to happen that way. But here's a thought. Next time she takes an extended vacation to Hawaii....lets have a slumber party at your house. Goddess and I will take you grocery shopping. Let's see, cucumbers, bananas, carrots, zuchinni.........pineapple, whipped cream, strawberries, chocolate syrup.....new sheets for fantasy's bed for when we ruin them with the chocolate.....never mind! I'll make a list. lol

expatbrit49 62M

4/15/2006 10:46 am

hehehe I love hanging out at the supermarket, I still cant shop but its one of the best spots to watch women lol

Thank You for Your Time and Attention


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:49 pm:
Expat...and if we just knew where you shopped...we'd all hang out to watch you! lol

VATraveler1948 68M

4/15/2006 10:53 am

You know, I can relate to this poor guy. I am eternally grateful for cell phones. I have one of those little wireless bluetooth ear pieces and I wear it whenever I go shopping for my wife. If I don't make 2 or 3 calls while I'm on my errand it's an absolute wonder. I think people have gotten used to hearing us poor husbands walking up and down the aisles of the supermarkets seemingly talking to ourselves.

And yes, my motivation is PRIMARILY pleasing my wife... BUT, keep in mind the corollary to pleasing her is pissing her off and that's somewhere I don't want to go.

Now, please don't tell her that I spoke up about this, she might not understand...


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:50 pm:
VAT...poor baby...at least you have a cell phone to keep in touch with.

oldude1946 70M

4/15/2006 10:59 am

I have a hard time finding women here in the Ozarks


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:51 pm:
Ah Oldude! Race that car down here to Virginia Beach...we'll find some women for you.

playtime44uandi 52M
6545 posts
4/15/2006 11:04 am

I just hate it when they send me for something Ive never even heard of before!!! Funny how things have differant names here on the east side of the country. Maybe its that for some reason I never had or tried it & apperently never even looked at it before. How is that possible?
Thank god for cell phones anyway! lol...

~We'll Leave The Light On~


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:53 pm:
Playtime.....it is funny how different the products can be. I can remember going to the grocery in Ohio to buy some soda....you know Diet Coke? And when we asked for soda they sent us to the backing aisle.....for baking soda. Because they call soda "pop" in Ohio! Thanks for stopping by.

cru1972 44M
4407 posts
4/15/2006 11:05 am

I'm with mack, other than I have learned to not even bother with a list


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:54 pm:
Cru.... I really like your new picture! Want to go shopping for me?

helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
4/15/2006 11:19 am

Angel, you are one lucky lady to have a man who would do that for you. Mr Hansen does not shop. Period. BUT I know he would walk on hot coals for me, and you know what? That's good enough for me!!

We should all appreciate what we receive, especially when we know it's coming from the heart.

♥♥H♥♥


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:55 pm:
Helga...I know that I am lucky! And I have learned to appreciate the fact that he does things he doesn't even really enjoy just to please me. I am blessed! Happy Easter!

horny4770 60M
8158 posts
4/15/2006 11:53 am

Angel...Never could be convicted as being a shopper, more of a buyer. Being a detail person by nature I kept track of what was in the pantry, Brand Name or generic.

Keeping things in perspective; it's only food and last only a few hours and ends up being ....! Not like the kids are being auctioned off or anything.

Being simple has it's advantages; if your're with the one you love at the end of the day, does it really make a difference what label was on the can in the afternoon?

btw, bringing home the right 'size' never seemed a real issue.

H.


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:58 pm:
Horny....you are a sweetheart...you know that? And you are right....at the end of the day if you are with the ones you love....what does it matter?

digdug41 49M

4/15/2006 12:01 pm

well I'm good at shopping coz ma dukes taught me well matter of fact quite handy the only thing I cant do is sew lol

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 6:59 pm:
Well Digdug...I can teach you to sew...and then you'll be by far the all around man!

papyrina 50F
21133 posts
4/15/2006 1:49 pm

Mr papy hates shopping but has realised over the years if he goes it costs a lot less

and your right there are more important things than what brand size ect.
Happy easter


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 7:02 pm:
Happy Easter Papy. Mr Papy sounds like a great guy in many ways....why is it that they just can't be perfect?

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

4/15/2006 3:05 pm

Wish I had known he was a grocery shopper...I would've "borrowed" him today, instead of going out and doing it myself..!


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 7:03 pm:
Well, I would have loaned him to you. Send your list along next time.

rm_BigDnLady 43M/40F
1140 posts
4/15/2006 5:04 pm

I use to do the same thing to D!! Especially when I was pregnant oh my goodness did I give him a hard time. But now I am like just get whatever. I could careless about what brand it is unless when I say I want Oreos. DO NOT BRING BACK Cremos!! I want OREOS!!! LOL!!!

Lady


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 7:04 pm:
Now lady....I have to agree with you that there is no substitute for Oreos! Bring me the real thing or else! Thanks for stopping by!

seek_u_topia 50M

4/15/2006 7:23 pm

It is so like you to appreciate the effort your husband makes to please. I wish more women appreciated those little things. for those of us that aren't flashy, the little things are where we show our love. It is painful when those gestures are not noticed or appreciated...I think that's how I became numb...that and other things, but that's another story all together....

you are such a good, sweet woman Angel


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 8:05 pm:
Seeku.....I haven't always been as appreciative. I think it is easy to fall into a pattern of taking each other for granted. To my husband's defense...he never stopped trying to please me...even when I didn't seem to appreciate the effort. Thinking about some of those times make me feel sad...and a little angry at myself. But, I will NEVER take him for granted again. And he always showed me unconditional love...because he loved me even when I wasn't acting very lovable. You have such a sweet heart Seek. I am honored to be a friend.

SacredStarDance

4/15/2006 7:51 pm

hubby kinda spoils me when it comes to shopping for me.. but one time I was in one of those moods " eat the entire gallon of chocolate ice cream moods" you know in one sitting.. the craving.. you got have it or you die...and he brought home pineapple yogert and said " it was better for me and less fatning" ugggggggggggggg
He's ok now and can walk now with out a cane...lol but he learned about pms= chocolate + no comments the hard way.

oh well he tried....lol

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/15/2006 8:07 pm:
Mrsmuffland....I'm glad to hear that Mrmuff is okay now. Yes...I can absolutely relate to the PMS..I need chocolate kind of thing. And we had two daughters and a female dog in our house. So if we ever had a week that someone wasn't PMSing...the dog would go into heat! LOL

swallowsdontspit 64M
276 posts
4/15/2006 10:27 pm

aom5, well you could take his cell phone, but since he is being helpful, maybe just overlook this small insecurity on making decisions at the store and trying to get it right. my wife (and youngest daughter)don't change the toiletpaper roll, just leave the empty cardboard on the dispenser with the fresh roll balanced on it. for some reasom as a child, i always liked to switch out the roll ( is that psychoanalytically anal, sheets to the front or back?). i think over the years she just overlooks this and subconsciously thinks the roll fairy changes it. many of the comments on this post remind me of the story about the picky woman who was a divorcee. she said with her first marriage she wanted the towels folded a certain way (funny my wife is the same-fold width wise first, i'm a length wise first guy). anyway, after the divorce she realized she just wanted someone to fold the towels any which way. many times we don't realize and appreciate what we have, til we don't have it anymore. don't sweat the small stuff. so what if the toilet seat isn't down or the top is left off the toothpaste. i must in all honesty relate this story: when newly married, i left the toilet seat up. early the next morning she went to use it, didn't check and sat down, falling into the commode. lol i got the riot act thrown at me. to this day i pull the seat down. for you single woman out there, one way to see if a man is house broken/ domesticated or not is if he leaves the seat up or down.


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:22 am:
Swallows...what a wonderful comment. I have to agree with the toilet seat thing...there's nothing worse than falling in the commode when you are half asleep. Now to teach my grandson that.

PS. The toilet paper goes "over".

MOfunNOWWOW 55F

4/15/2006 11:49 pm

You two are lucky! He makes an effort and you appreciate it. That's what it's all about!


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:18 am:
Mofun...we are lucky. And we actually realize it!

campfirecozy 66M

4/16/2006 4:21 am

We're spoiled rotten...two grocery stores within a quarter of a mile from the house. I hardly call it shopping when it's either a quick trip or a nice walk...and the grocery store is mine, by the way. If I'm cooking, then I'm choosing the ingredients! So there!

Hugs,
Cozy


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:23 am:
You go Cozy....and by the way...you can cook for me anytime!

Fox4aKnight1 43F

4/16/2006 5:22 am

LOL Happy Easter Angel *G*


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:24 am:
G....Happy Easter to you too!

loadeddice05 44M

4/16/2006 5:32 am

Maybe I'm a bit jaded?? But I never try to please a woman??? Not that I go out of my way to be an ass!! I just don't really like the pressure most guys put on themselves trying to do so!!! Like hmmn wrong stuff from the grocery store??? Get it yourself next time!!!

Yep! Chivalry's not lost on me????


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/17/2006 6:57 am:
loaded...I don't know if I'd call you jaded....but I definietly wouldn't call you chivalrous!

campfirecozy 66M

4/16/2006 5:38 am

lol, angel...
cooking for you would be a pleasure...you could choose desert, although I have some low calorie, hot, steamy suggestions *grin*

Hugs,
Cozy


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:45 am:
Cozy...dessert would be my favorite! Especially if it is low calorie and good for me too!

VATraveler1948 68M

4/16/2006 5:40 am

It's Easter morning, has the easter bunny hid any eggs at your house? Would you like him too? What's the best place to hide a filled chocolate Easter egg (something like a Cadbury egg)....


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:46 am:
No Vat...the Easter bunny didn't hide any eggs at my house. However, I have heard from another blog on here that there IS a special place to hide a Cadbury egg......but only if there is someone available who really likes to EAT those eggs.

coldonstage 44M
4 posts
4/16/2006 5:53 am

Morning lovely....Its almost time. I cant wait.

adieu


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 7:47 am:
Morning Coldonstage....and Happy Easter.

rm_pagan380 64M
4405 posts
4/16/2006 1:38 pm

I did the shopping, I did the cooking, I took care of the accounts, cleaned house and took care of the outside too. She left me, said I was to controling. All I did was take care of her the best I could. I worked at home and had the time and skills to do it all. Sorry, don't know where that came from.
Truly,


Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.

Digambara


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:42 pm:
Awww...Pagen...that came from your heart. I think you sound like a caring man....and pretty competent too! Happy Easter.

mycin62 54F

4/16/2006 2:15 pm

NEVER, NEVER send a man to the grocery store. Even with a list!!


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/16/2006 5:42 pm:
Thats cute mycin....and probably true!

meresu 56F

4/16/2006 8:44 pm

i thought I was reading about me !
Yes my husband is now badgered by my sons when he does the shopping thats not what mum wants so he sends them


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/17/2006 6:58 am:
Meresu...I know I spoke to many women here...and many poor men who just try so hard to do it "right".

angelofmercy5 replies on 4/17/2006 6:58 am:
Meresu...I know I spoke to many women here...and many poor men who just try so hard to do it "right".

rm_gubbub1 68M
18 posts
4/16/2006 9:35 pm

Angle, his heart is in the right place, but just give me the list and I will make it happen, and at the same time, I will check out the moms, but I WILL BE RIGHT BACK TO YOU.


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/17/2006 6:59 am:
Gubbug...how sweet! And feel free to "check" out the other moms....just bring the groceries home! lol

swallowsdontspit 64M
276 posts
4/17/2006 12:06 am

aom5, you might wanta hip mzhunyhole to home depot/lowe's


angelofmercy5 replies on 4/17/2006 7:00 am:
Swallows...that is true! Maybe you should suggest that to her on her blog too.

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