Judging People  

angeldevillvr 53F
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1/20/2006 4:26 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Judging People


Sometimes we are all guilty of this but I know myself I have been trying real hard not to judge someone by the way they look or the things they may sometiems say. We all have bad days where the thing swe say come across differently than we mean them to to someone else.

Last night I had a few people judge me by soemthign I said of which Im not for sure what but my feeling swere hurt very much. Unless you know someone really well it is best to not judge someone because you have no idea where they are in their life and what is happening in it.

I had thought the group I was in was supposed to be one where you were allowed to say what you wanted and not be judged but last night I was being judged very much. I knwo Im not perfect and I don't want to be. I am up here where there isn't alot of people that want to do more than just be online friends and I am looking for friends to go out with and have fun with. That includes online friends of which I thought I had a few but after last night in the chat room I am very seriously thinking of just totally disappearing. I wonder how that would make the ones that were being so rude to me feel knowing that they took away something zI enjoy just because they decided they didnt like me when the one guy has never even met me and the others in the room have met me just a couple of times but have never really taken the time to get to know me.

I know I am at fault here to and that is why I kept my mouth shut and didnt argue the facts in the chat room. Instead I just went to bed and cried. You may all think I am over reacting but since my divorce and some ruff times I now live with my parents who are both over 65 wehich makes a lovelife sometiems very hard to do because of the way they look at sex with others. I wanted out of my marriage so I got stuck with alot of the bills so I am trying to get them all paid which leaves me with little money and I haven't had much luck meeting people up here so I don't have any one I go out with and have fun.

I am on this site more to make friend sand if Im lucky to find that one guy to brighten up my life. Not sure if I ever want to get married again but would like a guy to go out with and do things with and it could even be a couple of guys so as not to have anythign real serious. I would love to have some gf's to go do woman thing swith, like shopping, parties, discuss our love lives, etc. I had hoped I was finding them in the group I was in but sometiems I wonder if there is such a thing as true friends anymore and even more so I wonder if there is love.

Well I am going to do some serious thinking of whether the few people I have connected with on here makes it worth hanging around or if I should just step back and become a hermit and just go to work and back home. I guess alot of that will depend on reactions and those people I thought were becomign my friends.

To those that do care you can reach me on the ole yeehaw under the same name as I have on here. I know a play on words there but you gotta do it sometimes.

Luv ya all!!!

angeldevillvr 53F

1/20/2006 2:01 pm

True...but yes it is hard to just let it roll off your back. I knwo I shouldn't let things like that bother me but some days when you are already down it just really hits you hard and makes life unbearable. Yes I know to attack another person without knowing them you have to be a very weak person and not very nice but it still doesnt make me feel any better when it happens to me.


SaintorSinner30 42F

1/26/2006 7:29 am

Angel I didn't leave a comment on your post on the board regarding this situation because what I had thought of saying wouldn't have been very nice to several others on there. That out of the way, I am one of the least judgmental people around, I feel that right is reserved for the man upstairs. NO ONE has the right to judge another person in my opinion. Yes we all have bad days, and here lately I have been having several of those. I have read several of your new posts as well as your posts here, and I can still say what I noticed about you from the beginning. You are a very beautiful, sensitive, caring and loving person. I say that as a friend, and as someone who has had the honor of getting to know you.

SaintorSinner


angeldevillvr 53F

1/26/2006 2:14 pm

    Quoting SaintorSinner30:
    Angel I didn't leave a comment on your post on the board regarding this situation because what I had thought of saying wouldn't have been very nice to several others on there. That out of the way, I am one of the least judgmental people around, I feel that right is reserved for the man upstairs. NO ONE has the right to judge another person in my opinion. Yes we all have bad days, and here lately I have been having several of those. I have read several of your new posts as well as your posts here, and I can still say what I noticed about you from the beginning. You are a very beautiful, sensitive, caring and loving person. I say that as a friend, and as someone who has had the honor of getting to know you.
Saint.yu are such a sweetheart. Thank you and yeah I just want all the crap to stop. We all make mistakes and learn from them and I have done that. Just makes it harder to trust again. Luv ya and cant wait to party with you again.


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