Aggressive?  

angelcoed1980 36F
128 posts
4/16/2005 11:27 pm

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Aggressive?


Why is it that guys are scared off by a girl who is non-aggressive. Why is it that when you want to jump over a couch to jump a guy, we (women) feel bad or sort of harness ourselves for polietness sake. Why is it that a guy who is getting the GO AHEAD signal wont just go ahead they also feel they should harness themselves, COME ON GUYS YOU HAVE THE BALLS JUST FUCKING GO FOR IT.

rm_reisender04 53M

4/17/2005 12:11 am

Just one humble thought, have you considered the concept of Matching? also known as Mirroring. When she is hesitating and I don't know her, I'll frequently exercise a little caution. While the alternate is dramatic and cavalier, "just fucking going for it" sort of gets those Balls in a vice when what surely seemed like a GO AHEAD signal really was something quite different. this all revolves around clarity and directness for me. And where did you get the idea that aggressive wasn't OK? Jumping over the couch, crossing the room, sharply dropping his zipper and towing him out of the room by his cock might be a little over the top (by the front of his trousers would do nicely though). Truth is I doubt it's much more comfortable for him than you so maybe a little overt reciprocity? Good luck cutey


rm_me_again419 50M

4/17/2005 12:50 am

The signal for the go ahead isn't always very clear. You don't want to find yourself explaining to the county sheriff that "She asked for it"

But seriously, that you not just jump over a couch and jump a guy isn't just shyness nor politeness. How about fear of rejection?


daydreamer928 55F

4/17/2005 1:03 am

Angel,men hate to be rejected also,We know women can give out different signals..men love if you would even just get up get him a drink and sit closer to him on the couch,then have you leg touch his...If he is uncomfortable he might just say,can we talk? If he wants it,he will go for it,I would think? Right men?


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
4/17/2005 1:14 am

The reason for this very simply is the prevalence of accusations false or otherwise of , Sexual Assault and Sexual harrassment, men wont in the majority take the initiative anymore, for the sake of their own skins,

Women wanted things better they got it, now they have to live with what they got!

not what all these feminist protesters had in mind hey? although half of them aren't straight so don't have anything to worry about, except that if they make a report of violence perpetrated by a woman they aren't believed, but I don't think they had considered that result a possibility either.....

WyvernRose


rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
4/17/2005 7:51 am

The reason for this very simply is the prevalence of accusations false or otherwise of , Sexual Assault and Sexual harrassment, men wont in the majority take the initiative anymore, for the sake of their own skins,

Women wanted things better they got it, now they have to live with what they got!

"not what all these feminist protesters had in mind hey? although half of them aren't straight so don't have anything to worry about, except that if they make a report of violence perpetrated by a woman they aren't believed, but I don't think they had considered that result a possibility either..... "
Absolute nonsense. And it makes you sound homophobic.
Most likely reason a woman would hesitate would be her upbringing. Ideas about men, women's roles and sex are ingrained beginning when we are children. It takes a long time to get those voices out of your head.


oneononeal 71M

4/17/2005 8:42 am

What is wrong with a lady making the first move. Men are hesitant for the above reasons. Awoman has many ways to let her intentions be knowen. It does not have to be blatten.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
4/18/2005 2:00 am

Ahh so that explains it Jay your in your late 40's believe it or not the guys you see and the guys myself and angel would see, we ar incidently 30 years younger than you, are actually ENTIRELY different, as are the women dear, this is because we are the result of feminism, this generation NOW you are what lived through the end push of feminism, there is a MASSIVE gulf between our age's in terms of upbringing and social expectations......

WyvernRose


rm_sharksnsails 46M
738 posts
5/11/2005 9:54 pm

definately on the jayR63s "
The reason for this very simply is the prevalence of accusations false or otherwise of , Sexual Assault and Sexual harrassment, men wont in the majority take the initiative anymore, for the sake of their own skins,"
I agree 110%

sharks
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NoNeedToHideIt 39M
15 posts
6/26/2005 11:37 pm

To be honest, if a woman gave me the "signal" I'm not sure I'd pick up on it. Then again, I've alwasy been a little naive and shy. I was at a friend's house and there was a female friend there talking with me. As far as I knew, we were just talking. After she left, all my male friends were telling me about how brazenly she was coming on to me. I was married at the time, and she knew it.


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