Not a Happy Post.  

anchcpl4fun 40M/44F
358 posts
10/11/2005 10:14 am

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Not a Happy Post.

THis isnt a happy or fun post in any way shape or form, so if thats what you are looking for today, im sorry, but since this is MY blog i will write about what is most on my mind today.

I have a teenager, a beautiful loving and charismatic teenager who tends to make alot of friends. Three months ago I moved my kids out of Anchorage to the valley because the neighborhood we were living in was turning to shit. But i still loved "my" kids. "my" kids were the gaggle of teenagers that were at my house every fucking day, playing x-box, eating all our food, calling me mom and telling me all thier problems. I used to lecture them all the time. "think about everything you do before you do it, one step today is going to help make who you are in ten years". I cant even count how many times I had that conversation with any of them at any given time. I am a young mom so they figured i wouldnt treat them like 10 year olds and talk to them on an older level, and i did, i was blunt with them and they liked it. and they followed my rules. NO drinking, NO drugs, and NO fighting because i will knock all ya'lls heads together. I would tell them all turn off the x-box till this place is clean, and i would have 8 kids cleaning up the living room, made for fast work...
well yesturday we got some really horrible news. It seems a few of them went to an older kids house and were drinking, the older kid 19 decided to show the 16 and 17 yr olds his guns. needless to say the world is one teenager short today. All i can see when i think about Des is him kicking ass while playing halo 2, and riding around on his bike with the crew. he and another of the boys used to have competions and who could get thier hair in the biggest fro! stupid teenage shit, stuff teenagers are supposed to do, NOT PLAY WITH GUNS GODDAMNIT! Its sooooooo stupid and soooooooo senseless. then i think about brandon, the boy who has his whole life planned out, one of the few who does, or did. Now he is sitting in the youth jail, waiting to be charged as an adult for the death of one of his closest friends. I assume they will bring some of the charges down, and even if they find it was completely an accident he will never be the same, one moment in his life is now going to make who he is in ten years. and who his friend isnt going to be. They always thought i was being just like all the other adults when i told them WHY teenagers shouldnt drink. BECAUSE THEY MAKE STUPID CHOICES!

djmuggy 39M

10/11/2005 12:21 pm

I am sorry that it happened fun, hopefully it sobers up the kids to make them realize the seriousness of the world and what can happen. BIG HUGS AND BIG KISSES THEN LOTS MORE BIG HUGS.

Synn74 42F
1206 posts
10/11/2005 1:29 pm

oh Anch my heart bleeds for you and your "kids"
I almost lost my 16 yr old niece and her 19 yr old bf in seperate car accidents that should have killed them both within 2 months the thought of not seeing them would devestate my world..I can even imagine your pain..


I welcome you to the House of Syn...

1586 posts
10/11/2005 2:18 pm

Sorry for the loss of your young friend.

Well, actually I guess it's more like two friends. As you stated, the boy that did the accidental shooting will never be the same.

Unfortunately, teenagers aren't the only ones that make stupid-ass decisions when they're drinking.

If it's any consolation, it's really cool that the kids thought enough of you to respect your rules and want to call you mom.

Your own kids are lucky to have you.

Take good care.


saddletrampsk 54F

10/11/2005 4:07 pm

Oh sweety..I am so sad for your pain and loss..My heart goes out to you..I am also an "adopted" mom of many neighborhood kids and I can't imagine what you are going strong, your kids need you..

SanityDysfunk 41M
1 post
10/12/2005 9:20 pm

No offense intended - but if your children, this one incident were where you disallowed them to be, that sort of (mis)behavior was becomming common enough that they were caught.

Any youth anywhere who is killed by someone else is a loss to mother earth. EVERYONE should have firearms education, especially kids. If guns are absolute evil or antithesis for family and kids, denying same family and kids gun education increses "taboo" and notoriety of firearms in general, and when these kids get ahold of a gun - "accidents" are almost guarenteed.

I'll pray for those teens.

anchcpl4fun 40M/44F

10/13/2005 2:50 am

MY kids were here in there beds where they were supposed to be, I KNEW where the children i had born were. I ALWAYS know where MY children are. Doesnt mean those other kids arent of my heart, and right now its breaking for all of them.

AS for firearms, I agree, MY children are taught how to use and RESPECT firearms, just as I was at an early age. I may get hate mail for this, but i believe to teach FEAR instead of respect is ignorant. Teaching your children about guns isnt saying go show this to the nieghbor kid, its teaching them why we DONT go show it to anyone. you know that old saying, guns dont kill ppl, ppl kill ppl, its true. I also believe ignorance kills ppl. And for those with young children to young to understand, have your shit locked up. thats what they make gun safes for.

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
10/13/2005 4:28 pm

This is awful. I can't find the exact words to express how i feel, this is such a tragedy.

rbnf440 55M

10/16/2005 7:43 pm

I had the same thing happen to some neighbor pals years ago.
One shot his brother to death by accident.
He just didn't know the gun was loaded.
This kind of stuff is so sad and causes so much pain...and sadly some people NEVER recover.
I think about that incident every now and then.

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