Would you dare.....  

amberabercrombie 37F
11929 posts
5/15/2006 12:32 am

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Would you dare.....

If we were all nice to one another..respected one another...liked one another...this world would be a much better place don’t you think?...I’ve been reading some nasty emails people have been getting from others lately and I'm disgusted to see that bullying still exists in our generation...I’ve always said don’t judge the book by its cover... you never know what lies beneath the skin....

Everyone is beautiful in their unique individual way...whether it be looks..be words...something deep...someone more....
have it.... don’t let anyone tell you different...here..in real life...or however you converse with one another...never ever let anyone bring you down...

If we all took a moment...a little time out of our day, to smile to someone, reach out to someone..help someone...or in this case scenario.... leave a nice comment to someone....think of how you could make that persons day...think of the potential smile you could be putting on their face....Wouldn't’t it be nice to be able to smile in return?...

When’s the last time you did something nice for someone...whens the last time you did something nice for yourself.....the last time you helped someone out...made someone smile...had someone make you smile....Id love to see some nice comments left about anything and everything....heck if your so inclined let me know the last nice thing you did while making love....or perhaps a nice thought about a loved one..one you care about...go on try it ....I DARE you...make mine and your own day....say something positive about ANYONE today!...

rm_lust2u2 51M

5/15/2006 1:10 am

Hear, hear!
Among others, I´m "helping/supporting" a child in South America...

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
5/15/2006 1:29 am

Well, my lady does nice things for me all the time...

As far as to whether I do nice things, you'd have to ask others for that assessment...I personally view myself as a cold hearted bastard loner....

NG61...fading back into the shadows...

rm_LoyalCumpany 46M
3204 posts
5/15/2006 2:13 am

Oh hell no, no more dares for me...

Oh, all right. I don't do anything specific for anyone except try to make them smile. Always like to see a smile.

Crap, now I have to think of something funny to say to prove my point.

Never spray cologne on freshly shaved private parts. It hurts.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
5/15/2006 2:41 am

Sunday morning....Dad and Sis and I woke up really really early, went outside and finished all of the weeding in the garden. Mom has been really busy and her flower garden in front was being taken over by grasses. Finished clearing that, then came inside and cleaned the house, made Mom breakfast in bed and told her how much we loved her.

alphuctup 40M

5/15/2006 2:47 am

I'd just like to say a big thank you to you Amber and all the other bloggers whose funny, sexy, insightful and often bizarre ramblings never fail to impress me, and always brighten up my day.

I think this calls for a group hug, apologies in advance for any inappropriate groping that may occur!

rm_KirkVW44m 54M
688 posts
5/15/2006 2:59 am

Each day is a new day that we choose to either view it as negative or positive.. The gift of a smile is priceless. Putting somebody first above self is also rewarding which can be a simple as opening and holding the door for somebody at a store or market. It doesn't take much to make huge difference in somebody's day or life when we drop some of our own selfish needs. Nice post hon!

Knot4Everyone 40F

5/15/2006 3:10 am

Amber - I agree with you 100% on this one! It seems that even children these days aren't as cruel as some "adults" are...

As far as nice things go, I try to be as positive as possible. I smile at everyone I pass, in the hopes that they will smile as well. I'll lend a listening ear to anyone who needs one - all they have to do is start talking. I try to lend a helping hand whenever I can, even if it's just holding the door for others.

As far as this site goes, there are several blogs that I truly enjoy reading. I don't like it when these bloggers are feeling down for any reason - I always want to fix their problem, even when I know I can't...

Good post, Amber. Very well stated!

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
5/15/2006 4:09 am

i do it daily ,smiling is such a free gift to give someone

I'm a

i'm here to stay

ilsuconu 56M

5/15/2006 5:39 am

This is a tough one... I seldom lose my temper (in public) or show my impatience to others; I tend to just keep those things bottled up because I know that if either one got out, someone would get their feelings hurt. So... the ride the storm of those emotions alone, and sooner or later (often sooner, after thinking things through) the storm passes.

smoothnjuicy4u 50F

5/15/2006 5:53 am

In this day and age it is so important to give , reach out in anyway you can. But you know what, when I try and do things for some people, they look at me like what is your motives, it is so sad, but I keep doing them anyways in hopes of oneday they will see it for what it really is, no games, nothng to be gained ,just someone trying to be nice.

Peace and Hugs

honeycomb1974 44M/42F
282 posts
5/15/2006 5:59 am

You are right words can hurt so people need to think before they open up their mouths. As for what we do for others I guess it would be the way we seem to be the neighborhood parents. All of the kids come here to hang out we take them places and listen to their problems. Some times we end up being the go between with their parents. I like the fact that kids feel like they can come and talk to us about things that are bothering them. Honey

puntachueca 105M

5/15/2006 6:09 am

You are on to something really important!

Think of all the people we encounter during a day...we're a little part of their lives, and they are a little part of ours.

Why not try and make each and every encounter special. Something to remember at the end of the day..."that was nice".

The first step is simply to "see" eveyone else. Not be wrapped up in our own whatever. See them doing whatever they are doing. Say something nice. Recognize their effort. Thank them.

There is no much anger, fear, resentment..negativity flowing around, we tend to reflect it back, fueling the tidal wave of negativity that envelopes the planet.

The best way to turn that tide is to radiate positivity.

Djeeper1987 47M

5/15/2006 6:37 am

I agree, I have been reading a lot lately of women getting bullied for there looks or taste. I am rather getting sick of it really. People with good hearts should get the best of everything.
I wish....

Carpe Diem

PurplePeach72 44F  
9199 posts
5/15/2006 7:01 am

Totaly agree with this post and have said very similar things in some of my other posts. My husband and I spent the whole weekend doing and saying nice things to and for each other. Like Nightguy, I often view myself as a cold-hearted bitch who prefers to be a loner but most of my family and friends would say that I regularly do nice things for them. Great post, maybe if we keep saying the mean people will go away, right, we wish! Thanks LeeAnn & Steve


rm_bigb950 54M

5/15/2006 9:26 am

Hi Amber, this is a great topic. The thing that I like to do is simply smile at people. I almost always get one back and it costs absolutely nothing...and I have a near infinite supply. As for lately, I was surprised when my wife thanked me yesterday for cleaning up after she threw up all over the bedroom. I can't imagine not helping someone when they need it, whether I know them or not. Have a great day and smiles to you, Blair.

somethingelse40 74M
14676 posts
5/15/2006 10:43 am

STUFF HAPPENS! Love endures! Sometimes it all depends on the BODY LANGUAGE!

Reach out and touch someone ...


I think I'm about ready for it!

honeypot7473 43F

5/15/2006 12:11 pm

love the little kim possible...lol.
As for doing nice things, I do as much as I can.

ChrisDL 47M

5/15/2006 12:21 pm

What a great entry - it's good to know there are still nice people in this world

1 post
5/15/2006 12:30 pm

I've got a dare for you hun. Try meeting someone from the internet that is not a crack-head. I'd like to meet you and see if my theory is wrong. you up for a real challenge?

imaxtoy 33M
1289 posts
5/15/2006 12:51 pm

I'm planning to volunteer for the Special Olympics this summer. It starts in June. Is that nice enough?

imax, the toyed

Phuc_Buddy 46M

5/15/2006 1:01 pm

I attempt to do something nice for someone everyday. I figure it is best to stay on the good side of Karma just in case I need a little extra help down the road.

I hadn't planned on commenting since this is the first time I stopped by your blog but since you wrote such a wonderful post and you have the most amazing picture on your profile I thought I would just say hello.

Dildo_replacemen 38M

5/15/2006 1:52 pm

Oh, I love to make people smile, and anything to make their day. I purposefully go out of my way to cheer family, friends and loved ones up. Actually sometimes it drives them nuts, which eventually turns comical so I succeed.

Hmm, recently... cheered up a few depressed co-workers today!

And Amber, you're blog is amazing quite inspiring actually. One of the highlights of my day... now about giving you that massage, would it put a smile on your face.

digdug41 49M

5/15/2006 2:02 pm

well amber I left offline messages to all the mothers on my messenger, if I talk to them now or not. I felt it was only right, I mean I always think of queen latifah's jam "ladies first." and it truly is ladies first so why not acknowledge that, I do, I figured I'd let the ladies know it too. other than thatI just try to make ppl laugh with my antics whether its in real time or the matrithe internet) its all good

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

concupiscentKid 40M

5/15/2006 2:47 pm

I've got the goodwill bug.

JoLeeS 40F

5/15/2006 2:56 pm

I do nice things for families, friends..... Last night someone did something very special for me...over...and over...and over again...... I thought I might pass out..... 6 hours later I did pass out from exhaustion..... He sent me over the edge so many times... I had the hardest, most wonderful, breathtaking, toe curling orgasms I have ever had in my entire life.......... If that's not the nicest thing ever... i don't know what is...

Twister2bed 47M
617 posts
5/15/2006 3:25 pm

Just being polite every day in my job is Godlike hehe rude people suck.
Great post Amber

rm_tlaw781 38M

5/15/2006 4:57 pm

"You may say Im a dreamer but Im not the only one. I hope someday you'll join us and the world will be as one..." A great song lyric from a great man about living in peace and believing in the idea that you can live for today with no need for separation. Sadly as you pointed out Mrs. amber there are bullies. Not so much a person as it is a state of mind and how you see things. They see things in a much different way, often times a condescending and mean one for their own reasons. However there are the complete opposite! Honestly I try everyday to be the opposite but I have seen both sides of the story from my own eyes. I see what it means to be nicer to someone than mean and how much more you can really effect them and change yourself in the process. So first allow me to personally thank you for taking the time out of your own life to think of another thoughtful and insightful blog.I'm not sure how many people you may have affected in your generosity of thought except for one, myself. Thank you. I would hope everyone has a foundation from which to help the world and each other and maybe someone can use you as an example in whom to draw inspiration. It sounds like your daughters are pretty lucky gals even if they don't understand it yet. I believe life is lived in every moment and I try to do nice things as much as possible. I probably don't do enough for myself but I get recharged to go on with such comments as yours and don't worry so much about me. I'll offer one more bit-a light story if you will- when I was young I was pretty poor- didn't have what everybody else did but i was a kid like them and got excited about toys and such. I really loved batman and I saved up all the money I could to buy a batman magazine. So I ran to the local gas station as fast as I could so excited so happy. Grabbed the magazine and headed straight to the counter only to have the clerk tell me I was a quarter short and I was heartbroken literally. Then from my right this lady with her son came over and gave me a quarter. I never forgot that lady and I've been giving "quarters" whenever possible since that day and that was over 17 years ago. Have a great day and good luck with your next blog idea. Ramble ramble...

oldude1946 70M

5/15/2006 5:16 pm

I gots the bad attitude

Kamikazewild2005 37M/29F
10 posts
5/15/2006 6:23 pm

I have to agree its truly disgusting the attitudes some people have in this world. I guess maybe it was just the way I was raised.

I remember one time I was at Union Station and I saw an older woman struggling with a suitcase trying to get up to the train platform. I saw one dude pass her and he says "theres an elevator just over there" I almost slapped the dude ! I walked up to the lady and asked if she would like some help with her luggage, picked up her bag and helped her up the steps. As I was leaving to go back downstairs and catch my own train. A woman walked up to me and congradulated me for being such a decent young man and hoped that her son would grow up to be the same That story always makes me feel good !

intierzha 43M

5/15/2006 6:31 pm

I think this is a great post and more people should certainly follow suit and realize how wonderful they really are. The heart and soul does what it must, and every day we get up and decide whether we will be nice, do good, help others... or not. You seem like a person that would do the former as I hope most of us are (of course that is terribly naive, but a little hope can go a long way).


btw, I know it has been awhile since I have posted, but I was out of town and then my laptop fried as soon as I got back. But I have a new laptop and things are better... and it was a pretty good day

beatpoeme 53M

5/15/2006 7:46 pm

I hold doors, offer parking unexpired parking tickets to incoming people, I respect the elderly, help when I can. Must admit though I don't go out of my way, and I'm not a fan of fiscal charity. Family is where I concentrate those efforts time is in short supply. I shop for my wife and child, toiletries, clothing, books, music and so on. I share all the workload I can when I'm around and not on the road.I refuse to let another do for me what I can do for myself including cooking and laundry. Now thats a nice husband for ya and a good son. But I have my moments te he.
basically though treat others as you would be treated yourself. I think first before I act, yet speak my mind. Actions are louder than words. If you cant say something nice don't say it at all and so on.

At times the right action and life can be as important to others as it is to you..


jd29992z 54M
3888 posts
5/15/2006 7:52 pm

I always try to leave a nice or helpful comment. some times I have to speak my mind though but I try to do it in a humorous way. You have the prettiest eyes and the nicest smile when I look at your picture I just melt hmmmmmm did I make you smile? I hope so. See your post still make me get exited today oh well at least I will go with a smile on my face. See you and keep smiling girl I hope all the comment you get all make you smile see you JD.

docdirk 47M

5/15/2006 8:09 pm

I saw the cutest little puppy by the side of the road near my home today. I didn't flatten him with my car. I thought that was pretty nice!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
5/15/2006 8:21 pm

I try to do something nice for someone on a daily basis, hopefully it has caought on with a few people. something nice for myself? well, I read your blog.

rm_whohababy 47M
1 post
5/15/2006 10:46 pm

Hey Amber, I'm new to this site and have to say that your blog has been the most interesting thing I've seen so far. Very soulful.
Looking forward to reading more!

rm_IMHOTEP0069 42M
21 posts
5/15/2006 11:06 pm

I helped a co-worker save hundreds of dollars on her car insurance! I fixed it so she wouldn't have to buy a new one! It's the little things we can do to help each other that we don't realize how big of a difference it makes. Hands moving faster that brain please hold

tillerbabe 55F

5/16/2006 1:17 am

Everyday.. everyway..every chance I get! Nice post!

closer2u1971 45M

5/16/2006 2:58 am

I always jump at the chance whenever it comes to helping people that are truly in need. believe it or not whenever my family is in need for money I am there and they have always paid me back (without pressure). whenever a situation arises that calls for help i always keep a sign that i read one time in my life that states, "Please do not feed the pigeons". i use this slogan because i only help those who are able to help their own selves.

_CoffeeNoCream_ 52F

5/16/2006 3:31 am

a lovely post, thanks for sharing

liefs C

somethingelse40 74M
14676 posts
5/16/2006 5:18 pm

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Stop spamming my blog LOL...im kidding, its a beautiful post and everyone should read it!
STUFF HAPPENS: LOVE ENDURES! Sometimes it all depends on the BODY LANGUAGE!

Reach out and touch someone ...
I'm ready!

Is that not perhaps a trifle better now, my liege, in response to your post? Actually I’m highly selective, you know? I only spam the best … those with reasonably good sense, a functional moxie, and a tolerable sense of humor. You seem quite stable and responsive on all three counts.

[ Moxie] is the bird that sings when the dawn is still dark.

Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as meaningless experiences go, it's pretty damned good. ~ one Drew Carey

My blog is certainly not for everyone: I’m not sure that I’m always ready for it either. My cranium seems to be a mixed bag of barnyard droppings, funny farm fodder, and lots of BS.

Phuc_Buddy 46M

5/16/2006 5:25 pm

My face??? How the hell are you seeing my face? Now you are the one with the gorgeous eyes. All I got it the five pack...sorry drank one already!

rm_IMHOTEP0069 42M
21 posts
5/16/2006 10:05 pm

continued from post 347722... I hate it when my brain and hands don't cooperate. anyway i wish to thank you Amberabercrombie for always puttin a smiley on my mug

rm_lust2u2 51M

5/17/2006 2:09 am

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Lust that is beautiful! Boy or girl? Not that it matters.
It愀 a boy, 11 years old now (and from what I扉e heard and read from his letters, he prosper fairly good in school, etc - I惴 happy with that).

Helper874 45M

5/17/2006 10:56 am

I try to do it everyday Amber. What a great post, and You are so correct on that. Have a great day, and touch someone's happiness....

rm_lust2u2 51M

5/18/2006 12:37 am

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Thats wonderful ..you are a remarkable peron! My daughter actually sponsers a boy from the Christians Children Fund, alittle boy as well 8 years old..she actually does this from her own allowance!
My compliments! I think you have been successfully in giving your daughter a sound and solid "base of empathy and concern" (even a small contribution, what ever, could hopefully make a big difference...)

zaprudnev 37M

5/19/2006 7:47 am

Is anybody from Cyprus here? Strange website, all for money ;(

LookandWink 63M

5/19/2006 8:14 am

I guess it's the latent Boy Scout in me, but I try to do a good deed every day. Hold open a door for people, help them carry thing, bring in a shopping cart, pick up trash (pet peeve there!) I always smile and say hello ... I even wave at people I don't know ... freaks some of them out, but most of them wave back wondering "Who was that guy?" LOL! Good question Amber!

Ubermik 49M
209 posts
5/19/2006 7:13 pm

Well if you put it into a complete context most "nice" things people do also make them feel good for doing them

Do you really think they would do it as often if that WASNT the case?

Course not lol, so it makes it a self serving, self rewarding act most of the time and for some who seem addicted to such acts I reckon they have deep issues that means they have to keep doing such things as its the only way they can look themselves in the mirror and feel any degree of self worth

Even when I look back at the things I would superficially class as good things I have done there has been a feel good factor ingerrently associated with doing it, thats why its called a "good thing" after all, the closest to not having that I can think of is with an ex where we both loved each other, but each time we got together we would end up argueing over past issues and split again

I reached a point where as much as I still wanted her and could have got her back yet again it was outwieghed by a sickening feeling of being a negative in her life and being sick to death of seeing tears in her eyes and being the cause of them so I didnt try to rebuild bridges and ignored her attempts to make contact when she realised I wasnt going to do the running that time

But even with that the break ups werent easy on me either, so even with that situation where I in effect had a huge negative of doing something "nice" for someon and losing someone I loved because of it I also lost the pain of the repeated break ups and the heart rending sight of seeing someone you care about being unhappy

So in the absolute purest sense of the word I dont think there is any kind of truly altruistic act, because even ones without a measurable positive reward for the person doing them will often have an avoided and very measurable negative one that would have occured if they hadnt even if that is an internal and emotional one

rm_LocalMan666 59M
3 posts
5/21/2006 12:04 am

It's funny to see this, because I just this aftyernoon I had the opportunity to help someone.

I picked up something at the Taco Bell & the drink was screwed up.
So, I parked the car & as I walked back to the store, I noticed someone digging in the trash for food.

So, I got him a taco as I was getting my drink fixed.

Thank the Lord for what you have.
Most of us are just a paycheck away from being homeless ourselves.

rm_LocalMan666 59M
3 posts
5/21/2006 12:09 am

I love your Icons.

rm_kamchak2003 38M

5/21/2006 4:39 pm

Kindness and love, the very things that define life. Great post btw, Amber you never cease to amaze. I've always been the nice guy my whole life. Always put others first, did everything I could to help others. Whether being a shoulder to cry on, a sympathetic ear, a helping hand, a kind word or gesture. Big or small, deeds of kindness make a difference in the world. I always did like the motto "One man can make a difference", and I'm glad to see that so many other people feel the same way. And for me it was never about the "fuzzy feeling" of doing a "good" deed or the gratitude from the recipient. Quite the contrary, I prefer people not show their gratitude. If they truly valued it, pass it on. Do something for someone else. I was never the boy scout for the emotional boost, I always do it because to me, there is no choice. It's the right thing to do. How else can we make the world a better place for everyone? And again, Amber good job on another brilliant blog, keep it up, always a good read.

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