What's a glove got to do with love......?  

amberabercrombie 37F
11929 posts
5/12/2006 12:12 am

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What's a glove got to do with love......?

I hate condoms...always have, always will. I haven’t been on birth control in years simply because it makes me sick to my stomach.....in other words I haven’t had sex without a condom in years either...I’ve never carried a condom in my purse..and wonder if other females are the same..do you think it’s a man or womens job to remember that anyways...?

One thing I know....I miss the feeling of a cock that’s not wrapped in shrink wrap...the feeling of his messiness exploding inside me...there’s something about not using protection with the one you love that brings you that much closer together...not having to stop during explosive sex...and not searching for minutes on end to put one on.......yet always safe to be safer....

Are you a condom kind of guy..a condom kind of girl...would you prefer to have sex with or without the condom...are you a no glove no love kind of person....do you always remember to carry the protection...does it matter which gender supplies it...does having one on feel any different to you...? Well my friends....which is it...what’s that icky condom mean to you......?

Side note: Ive edited this post to include this link to the lovley Whispers post...I believe its a post all should read
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tillerbabe 55F

5/12/2006 12:48 am

Hate 'em! This is why I don't have one-night stands and only engage in sexual contact with a monogamous, relationship partner after a prolonged seduction! I use an IUD for birth control - they rock!!! It doesn't fuc-up my hormones and it's "goo-free"! LOL! (it's actually the best form of birth control other than absinance!) If I was "out there" engaing in gratuitous sex...fuck buddies etc....yeah I would carry condoms - but I wish the guys would do it...I mean they know what they like right?

rm_komodo0 52M/53F
9 posts
5/12/2006 12:52 am

I'm not a condom guy, I prefer to have sex without a condom. I got sunkissed a couple fo years ago and I'm glad I did. There is a certain feeling I don't really know how to explain it. It also takes away from the romance when you have to stop and put a condom on. These are just some of my opinions any other coments from anyone.

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
5/12/2006 1:00 am


I don't like to wear condoms, and with just my lady and I right now, there is no need for condoms.

But...if I were to 'play' with anyone else, condoms will be in my bag of tricks...period. Not just for me, but to cover any toys, such as dildos, vibrators, etc...

It's too dangerous nowadays to not take precautions...imho...

NG61...fading back into the shadows...

rm_lust2u2 51M

5/12/2006 1:05 am

Amber, must say I pretty much agree with your argumentation.
A man without a condom in the travel kit, is not "well dressed". But, no matter which gender supplies it. Yeah, no doubt a "barrier" (the good and evil situation...).

alphuctup 40M

5/12/2006 1:05 am

A friend of mine used to say wearing a condom is like taking a bath with your socks on!

Personally I always use 'em but I would much rather go bareback for all the reasons you state.

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
5/12/2006 1:27 am

No, I don't carry them with me either. I'm not really one for one-nighters. The people that I'm with...are more of steady friends with benefits. Everything has been discussed and we've made the decision together as to how to handle things. I'm on birth control, so STD's are the only concern.
Of course safety is first, but I don't like condoms at all. It takes away the spontaneous nature of it all...having to stop and deal with the hassle of it just isn't all that fun.

joecarlos34 41M
6 posts
5/12/2006 1:36 am

I'll have to agree and disagree with what every one has been sayin.
But first of all Amber what a neat little blog you have going here.
I agree that there is nothing like feeling the wetness of a pussy slide down my uncovered shaft. or a ladies hot tongue slurping her own jiuces that have trickled down to my swollen sacks and back up to my thick hot shaft taking in the thick head barely able to fit it into her mouth but at the same time loving the taste and feel of precome rolling he head back and forth allowing it to rub over her face

charlieff 76M
264 posts
5/12/2006 1:43 am

Haven't used one for over twenty years. Wife had a hysterectomy; after my divorce I had only monogamous relationships; got a vasectomy for one relationship and since then all the women I've been with have been post-menopausal. Isn't getting old great? It doesn't sound like they've improved much from the comments and I remember that aside from their inconvenience and lack of sensation, your pubic hair gets caught in them, unless a guy shaves, and they make her smell and taste like rubber.

rm_kneel_be4me 48M
457 posts
5/12/2006 1:44 am

I think most people hate em... But hopefully most people still use them... We can dream cant we?

I will use them until I am in a serrious one on one relationship, and we both are confident the other is D&D free. Then another form of birth control will be required (and not pulling out in time isnt birth control) before we would have unprotected sex with each other. If it was an open relationship any other partners we had would need condoms.

As to who is responsible to bring them. I beleave it is the mans responsibility to bring them if he wants to have sex.... BUT and it is a big BUT.... It is ultimatly the womans body and she needs to take responsibility for herself... SO... If she is going to be responsible she should have one just in case....

Also I think it would be safer if the woman carried them.... the condoms would be safer from heat and less posibly damaged in a womans purse VS anywhere a man can carry them.

joecarlos34 41M
6 posts
5/12/2006 1:48 am

But on another note if sex is cassual it can be alittle like a lottery only if you loose you dont just loose a couple of bucks it could be you loose everything... I doubt if at any other time in history there has been as much cassual sex as there can be found today. And with the rising opportunities to have sex so too do the risks of catching crabs or something alot worse. As for pregnancy we have tried them all but none so fullfulling as pulling out and comming on her at the last minute... Ill admit its not as good as forcing my cock into her humping twat as hard as I can grinding into her in long hard circular motions feeling the beginnings of a mind blowing orgasm as she comes hard moaning so loud the neighbors can hear and exploding gushing all 5 days of pent up and pure testesterone deep into her belly... But hey I guess you gotta cut your losses.... If I were to meet someone on the side I would want to get to know her. Feel secure that she can handle being dumped on the spot as cassual tends to get bagagy if things linger too long. But Amber, I agree that sex with someone no matter how cassual needs to have a hint at least of tenderness and careing. That emotional side of any relationship. But cassual....Joey and no expectations other than total descretion. Am I wrong?

rm_smosmof2 67M
3240 posts
5/12/2006 2:01 am

I don't like using them. (I think it's more like wearing a raincoat to take a shower with, instead of socks...with socks you still feel wet, even if it's a yucky kind of wet. with condoms it's just pressure, no texture.) I hate trying to put the thing on.

In any number of ways I think I could see the end of the tunnel of my last significant relationship when she decided that she didn't like what the pill did to her "emotionally". I couldn't argue with her logic, but I sure never detected any change whatsoever in how she responded to anything from before she got off the pill to after she got off of it. Other than when she quit taking it she went for something like 4 months without a period, and finally had to go to her doctor for something to get it kick-started again, after which it proceeded to follow a reasonably close to every 28 days schedule for the first time in her life.

Sure, the man should supply it, but men tend to travel light, and a condom in a wallet is not good either for the condom, or the guy's profile. That just means that if the opportunity presents itself, he should be the one to go obtain it. They don't seem to be quite so well concealed in the places where they're on sale these days...

oldude1946 70M

5/12/2006 3:49 am

No rubbers for me, the women I run with have already had their plumbing fixed

closer2u1971 45M

5/12/2006 4:47 am

Oh I long for the days of no diseases (did it really exist?) and that timing was everything...hehe

I personally don't carry one around because well, it makes me feel like a man whore. However for all safety sakes I always use one until I am in a relationship that is one on one.

There is nothing better than the feeling of cumming inside of the female. Pushing the cock deep and hard inside and exploding. You just don't get that same feeling with saran wrap and it feels unnatural. ...\8

honeycomb1974 44M/42F
282 posts
5/12/2006 4:48 am

Well my husband had a vasectomy so we don't have to worry about the pregnancy thing, but when we play with others we always wear a condom. We both carry condoms just in case, you never know what life might bring. Better to be prepared than have to do with out! Honey and Runt

Dildo_replacemen 38M

5/12/2006 4:51 am

If you think she's spunky, cover your monkey!

I think a man should come prepared and dressed for the occasion. It doesn't matter who supplies it. Yes it's more pleasurable without, but it's also fun when she puts it on you.

arribaarriba69 51M

5/12/2006 4:58 am

Amber, bare necessities !

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
5/12/2006 5:28 am

I hate condoms, but insist others use them when we play, but I dont make Sail if he doesnt want to. I use b/c and yes I hate it, but being almost 40, I dont want anymore kittens.

Purry {=}


Fletch8491 50M

5/12/2006 6:47 am

Like everyone else, I prefer sex au naturale, but when I'm with someone that I don't know well, I always wear a condom and always have a supply with me. I had myself fixed not too long ago, so getting someone pregnant is not a concern. The risk of catching something is too great to not protect yourself and your partner.

MyRealLoverOne 46M

5/12/2006 6:56 am

I have to always suppy the condom....women generally don't carry around the extra extra extra tiny ones.......

ilsuconu 56M

5/12/2006 7:23 am

I don't wear a raincoat in the shower, either... but if my partner really wants me to, I will... and then I'll supply the "ultra thin" ones.

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
5/12/2006 7:29 am

Except with my ex-husband, no man has been inside me without a condom since I was 16. One nasty bout with an STD left me unable to have children. I don't want the next one to be a death sentence. I carry a six pack in my purse at all times.

Old joke: Woman walks into a pharmacy and asks if they carry extra large condoms. The pharmacist says yes, and asks if she wants to buy some. She says, "No, but can I just hang around until a guy does?"

rm_Horsn_round 56M
126 posts
5/12/2006 7:36 am

what’s that icky condom mean to you......?

It means little Horsn won’t get to enjoy that up close and personal experience. But he’ll be safe.

I hate 'em with a passion. But they're a necessary evil. Playing safe is a must. I always carry a couple. Isn’t that what the little pocket in a laptop case is for?

If you were my homework, I'd do you everyday, in every possible way.

LocumPampaSloth 46M
8 posts
5/12/2006 8:51 am

I won't say that I HATE condoms - but I for sure prefer sex without them. The feeling IS different, and even if you try to make "putting it on" part of the play, it just doesn't really ever seems that erotic. See - I like teasing and driving the girl to the edge of insanity - I like turning her on beyond limits and have her wonder if I am EVER going to slide inside her or just tease her all night. Putting on the condom kind of reveals the intention and leaves her less in doubt.

However, I would never risk my health or an unwanted pregnancy for anything. I don't do the one night stand thing, and I don't have sex on the first couple of dates either - so I don't need to carry a condom with me at all times. When it becomes time to move to those activities I will bring the "tools" needed. That being said - it takes two (or more) to have fun and enjoy - and we are all responsible for our own health. Why don't we just ALL carry condoms when we are going to have sex - that way we also cover the risk of running out if the night should turn out to be a "more than once" kind of night..
But you are completely right - "naked" sex is the best. It does feel so much better and when you go for second (third, forth, fifth...) serving after the appetizer, it can really test your gag-reflex if the primary taste is rubber..

rm_MrViagra06 34M

5/12/2006 9:08 am

gotta go for condoms if you dont know them, but once you know and trust them, and other birth control methods are in place (or not, if you actually WANT a baby!) its fucking amazing.

slipping inside for the first time, dont think anything feels as good as that

digdug41 49M

5/12/2006 9:36 am

I hate the sock on my pickle tickler and seeing thati am not engaging in extramarital sex i dont have to worry about it too much YAAAAAAY!its a no scuba gear type of day LOL havew a good weekend amber

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

rm_chislut 42F
710 posts
5/12/2006 11:01 am

It is so weird to read these responses! In my 14 years of being sexually active, with let's just say a lot of guys, I've only had sex without a condom with ONE guy. And that's because I was on the pill for a few months *and* was in a monogomous relationship with him.

I always carry condoms with me. Never know when something might pop up.

I used to think this might be an age thing; that people of my generation and younger just automatically used condoms, but I guess not. Not only has it never occurred to me NOT to use a condom, especially during casual sex, but it's never been an issue with the guys I've been with either. Either they had a condom with them and automatically used it, or would actually say they didn't have one in time for us to get one or some beforehand (when I would tell them that *I* had one/some).

It's amazing how different different people's experiences are...

Twister2bed 47M
617 posts
5/12/2006 11:41 am

I avoid one night stands were condoms will become an issue. But if I am not certain where a relationship is headed and sex is involved I'd rather the condom than an unplanned child with someone I may not have a future with.
As for who provides the glove I don't think it matters

rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
5/12/2006 11:47 am

Your question was bound to produce responses..

I am very gratified with most..( others you get to out themselves).

You know I gotta soapbox;

No. 1 peeve is irresponsible sex behavior... ANYTHING.. that hints being irresponsible must be egoism or ignorance at least..

So, blog on dear!

rm_elfranko1000 30M
1 post
5/12/2006 12:03 pm

I definatly don't like to use condoms. That is why i am tested monthly, and prefer that my partner is too. And what's with that whole no glove no love thing? Everything feels so amazing! Why would you want latex to inhibit your senses?

somethingelse40 74M
14676 posts
5/12/2006 12:09 pm

It just ain't natural with a condom, my liege, that's where the rubber meets the road. If you can’t find any other meaning in getting laid, try to consider it as entertainment. If one of us thinks it’s funny and one doesn’t, one of us must be wrong?

expatbrit49 62M

5/12/2006 1:17 pm

Just like everyone I dont like them so it really depends on the situation, if its someone I know well and for a long time then I prefer not but otherwise theres not much option is there

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

Djeeper1987 47M

5/12/2006 2:35 pm

I think it should be the responsiblity of both parties to provide condoms. I would carry them, but since I haven't had sex in so long, I don't bother anymore. +clears throat+ Anyway, I hate them too, but gosh I would rather wear it and not worry about what I could get from her.
Um OK, Have a good day!!!

Carpe Diem

rm_averaje 52M
1 post
5/12/2006 3:11 pm

It's not the same wearing one, but not safe without one! Just have to pick which is less evil....

puntachueca 105M

5/12/2006 3:18 pm

I remember carrying them around in my wallet back in the 70's...and have only had to address this issue recently now that I'm single again. In anticipation of wild sex now that I'm single...I bought a whole box of them...last year...and am beginning to wonder if they have an expiration date since there's been no opportunity to address the issue.

My preference is au natural...which means a monogomous trusting relationship.

Never could figure out how guys managed to deal with more than one woman at a time...

beatpoeme 53M

5/12/2006 4:44 pm

I guess monogamy has its privileges.


jd29992z 54M
3888 posts
5/12/2006 4:54 pm

I do enjoy sex better without a condom the feeling of a woman's soft wetness enveloping me is so nice so warm and wonderful. But if I am with someone that I have never been with before I do use one. And I do not carry one with me they are in the night stand every month you throw what ever is left away and buy new ones. But when I am with someone who is my girl friend I don't use one. I had a vasectomy after my second child so it is not a birth control method. You are right after my orgasm it feels good when our juices mingle together and leak and sound us oooooh I better stop I am getting excited. See you JD

FunFlirty4u 45F

5/12/2006 5:42 pm

I think they are necessary no matter who you're with unless its your spouse and you are monagamous. I will carry supplies if I think its necessary otherwise I'll have to stop off at the store. They are icky but if you can't trust someone then use them. If you think you're only with friends and it can be trusted then you're wrong.

docdirk 47M

5/12/2006 5:45 pm

There is no greater feeling in the history of feelings than cumming inside the woman you lo... (can't finish that word!) without the impediment of a condom. It is simply... indescribable.

That being said, they are a necessary evil. One which, as a man, I feel I am responsible for providing.

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

firestarter665 42M/39F

5/12/2006 6:19 pm

I used to have a guy use condoms before I met my husband. From the moment my husband and I had sex, we never used protection. I guess something inside of me told me that this was OK. To this day, 9 years later, we don't use condoms. But after 3 kids, I now have an IUD.

rm_tlaw781 38M

5/12/2006 6:35 pm

Ah yes between the pesky idea of little ones running around or disease and whether or not to roll out the rubber cap sex can be sometimes.. well...challenging. Yes natural is the very best feeling. Orgasming at the same time with a partner you can trust and be completely "free" with is second to none but its never worth risking your life or health if you're not sure who you're with.Yada yada but luckily we live in a world where a multi billion dollar drug industry is always looking for better ways to keep man kind safe! Yay! I think Chris Rock said it best about drug makers making disease not curable but livable (paraphrase here) "hey man what happened didn't see you at work yesterday, you ok?" "Yeah my aids was flaring up again." As for responsibly if both people are coming to the party it's cool when both bring something out of respect for the other if not themselves. Ramble ramble..

HBowt2 58F

5/12/2006 6:45 pm

you got to be safe.....

m1903a3 59M

5/12/2006 7:30 pm

Back in the days when I worked at a massage parlor, the ladies carried a stock of them in their cigarette cases.
I hate them too, but sex with a rubber is better than no sex at all.
I don't fool around on my wife anymore, and she's been "modified", so no more latex for this guy.

Calmari71 45M
635 posts
5/12/2006 7:32 pm

Hate, dispise, loathe.....but use them. Even with someone who is using other forms of BC, the risk of STDs is still there. Had a friend from this site who was on the pill and wanted me to go bareback with her...claiming I was the only one she was with. I declined and we had fun anyway, with junior wearing his raincoat.

I found out a couple weeks later that i wasnt the only one...and thats why i use them.

rm_single25_dad 35M
7 posts
5/12/2006 7:42 pm

HUMMMMM? Condoam or no condom?...Is this the question?..Personaly I use them. Mainly for the std reasons, but more to the fact that I have three wonderful girls due to the fact that I didn't use one, on three different occations.. To have magnificent, steamy, pationate, longing sex, you would have to be with a guy that is sterrille. or worse...cut and tied. Good luck on finding that one man that pleases you. not just for sex ,,,but entirely.. James

rm_Shortdogg65 51M
672 posts
5/12/2006 7:53 pm

The condom is a nessecary evil. There is a definitive difference in feel between bareback and wrapped and I much prefer the former. I think if you are going to have sex then it should be your responsiblity to provide your own protection and not depend entirely on your partner. I keep one in my wallet at all times and a few more at home. Shortdogg

MyRealLoverOne 46M

5/12/2006 8:50 pm

I really do love them.....especially the little willy sheep skin brand....I just can't have them on my pee wee enough.....I even wear one when I am spankin the monkey....matter a fact I always use two....one on pee wee the other on my finger to play with my bum........just gotta luv them rubberz.....plus it saves me all that time from licking it off the floor.

rm_DanteraFirma 34M
1 post
5/12/2006 10:54 pm

Hmm.. Alot of good responses.. Hi Amber..
I can safely say, it's always my partners choice (if i had one) as I'm happy either way.. Totally agree that having latex wrapped meat definately feels wrong for both parties but for the sake of not being hit up or passing a STD along, they serve thier purpose and always will. All the best..

rm_bigb950 54M

5/13/2006 3:21 am

Amber, the "feel" is much more enjoyable without a condom, but unfortunately these days it's a must. I guess it's a small price to pay to have fun. The ribbed ones seem to be slightly more pleasurable. There is another benefit to condoms, in that it may help the man last longer because the feeling is reduced. Pretty good trade-off I'd say.....lol. (By the way, I sent you some mail). B

chasingfun27 38M
1108 posts
5/13/2006 4:08 am

Sex is always better without a condom but some things aren't worth fucking with. The last thing I want is a case of galloping knob rot, or worse, fucking kids!

Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
5/13/2006 12:35 pm

This will probably be a long comment, as I think this is an important subject.

I mention use of condoms in my blog periodically. I think using them demonstrates a great deal of self respect and respect for the person you're with. Even so, I hate them too.

All the same, I went crazy on using them when over the years I learned that at least 13 of my friends have herpes. Men and women and those are just the people talking. Other friends have told me of different STDs they have and the numbers are amazing. What the STDs do to these poor sweethearts in terms of self-esteem, how they feel physically, how it impacts their relationships, etc. is incredible.

What really validated my using the condoms is is my oldest brother. He is now 45 years old. He used needles and has never in his life had protected sex - so who knows where he got it, but he has full blown AIDS and is now living with me because he cannot work regularly and he is often very sick. He is terminal and was supposed to be dead by August of last year - he has been on his death bed at least once since then and he keeps fighting.

Living with him and knowing how terrible AIDS is - seeing it first hand - I will never go without a condom unless both my lover and I have been together a heck of a long time and we both regularly get tested for STDs. My lover and I have both have been tested, but not during the time we've been seeing each other. I've been with my lover now for 5 months and we still have a wait before we take the step of not using condoms.

I'm a horny, playful and curious thing so I have condoms in my nightstand and make sure to carry them in my purse - in my glove box - in my over night bag and sometimes in my pocket - just in case.

I think it is the responsibility of both or all people involved and having sex to act responsibly and respectfully toward themselves and others and for me that means using condoms.

Told you this would be a long comment. Hope you don't mind. I wanted to say something meaningful as this is a serious subject.

Thanks for the great post! Whisper...

closer2u1971 45M

5/13/2006 2:22 pm

wow great comment Whispersoftly!!!

tillerbabe 55F

5/13/2006 3:40 pm

    Quoting MyRealLoverOne:
    I really do love them.....especially the little willy sheep skin brand....I just can't have them on my pee wee enough.....I even wear one when I am spankin the monkey....matter a fact I always use two....one on pee wee the other on my finger to play with my bum........just gotta luv them rubberz.....plus it saves me all that time from licking it off the floor.
Oooooooo Honey! Can I have some of that? Maybe the left-over in the condom? Plz share!

rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/13/2006 5:49 pm

The last time I needed one It was rotted, because I had it so long sure it is much better without, but in the world we live in today it is a must.

ohcurious14 59M
1683 posts
5/13/2006 6:41 pm

Hello Amber, This is my 1st post ever to your blog. you intrigue me and i'm sure i'll be a regular visitor.As far as condoms go, i don't like condoms myself but i hqave peyronies disease.The disease in itself drastically reduces sensitivity much less adding a condom to the mix. I am planning on posting in my blog an indepth look at Peyronies and its affect on a man and a woman.Hope you look for it.

dtigerhawk 32M
5 posts
5/13/2006 6:50 pm

Hey there Amber,

Well i would have to say that having sex without a condom is great, but having the condom is safer. Im a college student so having kids right now just wouldn't work. Basically if there was a way to not worry about that and not use a condom, or birth control (my last partner had very adverse reactions to it) then hells yeah. Guys i think should carry and come prepared, but its also nice to see that a woman is on top of things too.

somethingelse40 74M
14676 posts
5/13/2006 8:40 pm

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    In this case whom would you be..the man who thinks its funny, or the man who dosent?
I would voice more complaints if I weren't so afraid of the remedies people might suggest.

somethingelse40 74M
14676 posts
5/13/2006 8:42 pm

Had you considered [post 346266]?

somethingelse40 74M
14676 posts
5/13/2006 9:25 pm

Alas, my liege, the link may not appear. I’m having a problem with it. The entire post has disappeared three timews already. Luckily, I keep a backup copy&paste copy just in case I inadvertently screw it up myself. The original post name was BODY LANGUAGE. For a test I’ve temporarily changed it to INNATE BODY LANGUAGE. So just click on the View my blog link, okay?

There is madness all about: shall we fight it, or join in?

rm_chislut 42F
710 posts
5/13/2006 10:57 pm

Amber: Yes, I've already responded, but I had some thoughts as I was reading the rest of the comments, and can't seem to help myself from sharing.

First, it's AMAZING that you respond to everyone's comments. Congrats to you on spending the time on that AND don't feel obliged to respond to this, it's just me babbling.

Second, I really think women worry more about getting pregnant and men worry more about getting an STD, in regards to using a condom. Which, if you think about it, is just a little weird since women are more likely to catch an STD from a man than vice versa.

Third, ignorance really is bliss. Now I can't help but wonder if non-latexed sex really IS that much better... am I missing out? Sometimes it's just better not to know, I guess?

rm_sexylegs833 34M

5/14/2006 1:39 pm

There is nothing better than pure skin on skin contact and then spunking deep inside her, however always wear a condom with a girl i dont know.

normalornaught 34M

5/14/2006 3:33 pm

I used condems when my wife went off birth control pills and I hated them. So I went and got the tubes tied in order to avoid the hassle. If I was sexually promiscuous and didn't know my partner I would have to go back I suppose but I wouldn't like them at all, so for now I guess I would look for a partner who didn't have much history.

goodguysneedit2 56M

5/14/2006 8:16 pm

I hate 'em...they take away half the sensation and quite frankly it's TOO DAMNED MUCH.... but it's a necessity if you are dancin' on questionable lawns. (don't ask me how I came up with that...lol)
I do carry them... not on me, but in my vehicle.

Ya never know... a friend of mine came down with genital herpes a year ago... broke up with the girl he'd been dating for 4 years as a result of it because he felt she'd been cheating. (Not necessarily true!) In hindsight I thought..."Hell..you both have herpes now..why break up!??"

I really do hope to find a partner who hasn't been on a radical binge of men.. someone who can offer somewhat favorable odds.. can get tested,etc.. and maybe we'll find a way around condoms.

Like I said.. they suck.

rm_xxxtheline 53M

5/14/2006 10:28 pm

I don't mind 'em.
Life after sex is always a lot less stressful if I use one.
I've been fixed (yes, with two wild little boys, I'd say I was broken before) for several years, but never having an STD I'd rather not start now.
I've normally been a "serial monogamist" in the past.
That is to say that I've had one girlfriend at a time, and usually taken a break for a while in between.
Any sex with new women can wait long enough to invite them back to my house where I'm well stocked.
Only after I trust that she's careful and STD free does the protection come off and things get more spontaneous.

SleekIcilyVarix 41M

5/15/2006 2:47 pm

Safety should always be a priority. That said, if you get into a monogamous relationship where your only concern is birth control, perhaps try VCF...Vaginal Contraceptive Film. You can enjoy condomless sex again
The only drawback is it tastes kinda icky, so make sure you get in a lengthy licking session before you put it in prior to penetration.

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
5/15/2006 8:23 pm

the diving suit! I ahte them, have to change them out during sex because they get full, you do know those things only hold a pint before the burst! I think safe sex is the responsibility of both parties invoved.

rm_IMHOTEP0069 42M
21 posts
5/15/2006 11:20 pm

I can't imagine a person who likes them. you could be into eating glue, but condoms would still suck! Ok suck maybe a bad choice of words 'cause if that were the case, Guy's wouldn't mind much at all. anywho, I'd rather use 'em and not get those "gifts" or those debts.

ohcurious14 59M
1683 posts
5/16/2006 4:04 pm

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Welcome sweetie

    I will look for it, ive never heard of it before and would like to know more about it.
Thanks Amber. It is something I feel very strongly about and all should become aware of it. The links are, [347023], [347292] & [348490]. I thank you kindly.

rm_DirtyBoy5569 32M

5/16/2006 5:57 pm

I hate Comdoms but hate the idea of catching something over a lay it sux we cant just get it on without worring about pregnancy or stds Its to bad although i do carry them i alot of times dont use them Lately though i have to because of a new piercing but this weedend i said fuk it and went without although Im the only guy shes been with still i ts hard to believe but shes still faithful eventhough we havent been a couple for 8 months oh well it was the best exploding in side her Beautiful lovely shaved little snatch

longtallandcute 41M
42 posts
5/17/2006 9:05 am

I always use condoms. Always have, except when in a monogamous relationship, and then tested.

Good thing too, as I discovered a years-ago university gf of six months was later diagnosed with HIV, and had probably contracted it prior to our relationship. She also attempted to convince me not to use condoms, and I refused.

I think condoms are great. They've kept me breathing, walking and with a functioning immune system. If you do say you hate them because you know what you're missing - I suspect you don't know what's missing you.

rm_CDRoss 33M
655 posts
5/17/2006 10:52 am

I don't like wearing condoms either.

It feels unnatural for one. It is like holding back from the person you're with. If I feel that I can't fully give myself to someone, then why the hell am I with them in the first place?

As for protection... some studies have shown that certain diseases aren't blocked by the condom. (Apparently the HIV virus (I know it's a little redundant to say "virus" when that's what the V stands for... but it doesn't sound quite right without it) has been shown to be small enough to pass through latex... and I've heard of another which I do not remember the name of, which can be passed through the genital area.) And I believe the birth control protection of a condom was rated at only about 60%... so it is still a gamble if your not sure who you're with.

MagicFinger2006 53M
1 post
5/17/2006 1:45 pm

It's like wearing your socks in bed, but what's the alternative? Better to be safe than sorry.....

SleekIcilyVarix 41M

5/18/2006 1:59 am

Regarding VCF...you don't have to worry about it getting stuck. The film dissolves. It's easy to use, safe, and effective (or has been in my experience). Get the guy to insert for you for some extra finger flickin' fun.

rm_IMHOTEP0069 42M
21 posts
5/18/2006 5:17 am

Ok to all the people who have never used VCF (vaginal Contraceptive Film) Yes, It is a great form of control! However, be cautious with it if you happen to shave. It stings like crazy!!!!

longtallandcute 41M
42 posts
5/18/2006 8:32 am

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    I hit reply to fast before I could finish what i was saying....

    *I suspect you dont know whats missing you* your right and I wont know because I wont gamble and be a fool..but wouldnt it be nice if this world was diease free and people were able to experience sex the way someone up there intended?
Yes, it would be nice. It'd be lovely.. it's a pity it isn't, really.

Condoms aren't all roses. I'll agree to loss of sensation, I've had them break three times that I can remember, they're uncomfortable, some women are allergic to latex. etc etc etc. There's lots of little reasons not to like them.
It is also true that the HIV virus is small enough to pass through latex, but that's a misleading statement. The question here is how much less likely is it?.

Every single point that's been brought up in favour of not wearing them (except for 'with SO only & tested') has had no real convincing power to it - they all amount to 'because I don't want to', and I don't think an ego-only decision on this one is a wise move.

Hell, I smoke - I understand 'don't want to' - I don't want to quit so I haven't. It's very likely to kill me eventually if I don't give it up.

The difference is.. Lung cancer isn't contagious. I'm only making myself ill.

(Princess Lips)

5/21/2006 9:45 pm

play safe...


Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
5/23/2006 8:43 pm

It was so nice of you to add the link to this post. Thank you. I hope a lot of people read it and got something out of it.


rm_Darin48 40M
1 post
5/23/2006 9:34 pm

Today is like an eternal f%&%^Ing tetanus shot. Whats with the rain - you know the one about when it does, it pours?? Today it's pouring all the good things that dwell in amoungst the chaos that is my life.
Not so on the weekend whilst the filth were unloading 3 or 4 cannisters of that lovely new stuff they've come up with - capsicum foam.. Yummy. Bring a tear or two to your eye that will. That was the day when it poured the bad, the lonliness chewin away at my guts. The silence between my ears.. Not a good day.
Goin now. Got some cleaning to do at home - the kind of cleaning that requires rubber gloves and a mask. Gotta love law enforcement. I feel so damn safe knowing they are patrolling the streets keeping it safe for us all.

bipolybabe 54F

5/24/2006 1:40 pm

I've experimented with casual sex for the first time in my life during the past six months, and I've had to learn to cope with condoms. But, I will say that I leapt at the chance to ride bareback with a man I trusted not to give me a deadly disease and who was not worried about my genital herpes because his ex-wife has had them.

I found the female condom most comfortable because it's bigger. I wrote about them in my blog on preventing the transmission of genital herpes. Even without the female condom, I think the trick is using a larger-than-necessary condom with lube inside and out.


Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!

Ubermik 49M
209 posts
5/24/2006 3:35 pm

And on a totally unrelated note and a completely bastardised plagerisation I was reminded of by the thread title heres a Tina Churner rendition.....

What's milk got to do, got to do with it
What's milk but a second hand cows expulsion
What's milk got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a glass when a bottle can be broken

It may seem to you that I'm acting creamed
When you're close to me
If I tend to look semi skimmed I've read it someplace
I've got pass milk you see
There's a name for it
There's a phrase that fits
But whatever the reason milk does it for me

What's milk got to do, got to do with it
What's milk but a second hand cows expulsion
What's milk got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a glass when a bottle can be broken

I've been drinking from a new style carton
But I have to say
I've been drinking about my own protection
It scares me to feel this way

What's milk got to do, got to do with it
What's milk but a second hand cows expulsion
What's milk got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a glass when a bottle can be broken

Can anyone tell I'm just a bit bored?

Ubermik 49M
209 posts
5/24/2006 3:36 pm

I have always believed in safe sex, thats why I always carry knee pads and a cycling helmet where ever I go

SeductiveDiva 37F
4 posts
5/24/2006 4:30 pm

Always use and carry them. You can never know and trust a person 100%. In the end it's better safe than sorry.

fullysatisfyu 41M
332 posts
5/25/2006 7:21 am

I want to know how it feels for the women? I know it sucks for the man but can women really tell a difference?

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