The bad habit is going!.....  

amberabercrombie 37F
11929 posts
6/10/2006 8:45 am

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The bad habit is going!.....

Saturday morning and I'm still sick!...I dare say I'm getting worse by the day....lord help me...I do believe its time this girl took her sorry behind into the Dr.’s again!...

Although I have to admit one good thing has come out of being very sick this week and that’s..that I haven’t been smoking...kinda hard to smoke when your coughing every 30 seconds and hacking up a new lung....(joyful image wasn’t that?) I'm thinking why not kick the habit while it hurts to smoke...I’ve always said I was going to quit.....and would have kicked it years ago.... but was always so afraid of the weight gain....This week I’ve lost weight from not it just may be as good of time as any to quit wouldn’t you say?....

Short...Sweet N Simple...Any advice...Have you ever had a habit that was hard to did they go...What was your bad habit?...Help a girl out here!...Tell me any and all of your bad habits!...

rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
6/10/2006 9:04 am

Few days without smoking, that's a good start. Just stop one urge at a time. Redirect, find something else to do. Hope you are feeling better soon. ger

cobra70118 105M

6/10/2006 9:12 am

Miss Amber

Thought you would be on antibotics. Thought strep was a bacterial infection. I quit smoking last year when I became sick too. But... I started smoking on the trip back to New Orleans. But then I quit again, but only for a few weeks. Now I'm about 1/2 pack a day. Unless I go out to a club. I think I need to find a deserted island and trap myself there for three months to completely quit. Maybe Tonga.

I cut celery into pieces and boiled them on the stove to aromatic the air I was breathing with celery. It works. Believe it or not.

expatbrit49 62M

6/10/2006 10:20 am

Thats exactly how I quit two years ago... got so sick I couldnt smoke, then I just went a day extra and another and wolla......

but I started again a few months ago... Hmm maybe I need to get sick again

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

tah3435 49M
11 posts
6/10/2006 10:28 am

My bad habit is one I haven't been able to conquer yet and that is procrastination. I have gotten better at trying to beat it but it still gets into my life at least 2-3 times a month.

Good luck with giving up smoking. I am sure if you beat it, you will feel better in the long haul. Everyone I know that has beat it, says that they feel healthier and every thing tastes and smells better. That will be the hard thing with not trying to put on any weight. But even if you do put on a few pounds, you're still the same terrific person but just weigh a little more.

Feel better soon!


dreamswyou 50M

6/10/2006 10:51 am

My father was sick like you and he could not smoke. When he got better he told himself "well if I went this long I'll go one more day and they days just kept building and now it has been at least 40 years.

A president at a company I worked for used to smoke and he told me when I get the urge to tell myself that I'll have one in 15 minutes and when that 15 minutes passed, tell myself I'll have one in another 15 minutes. Usually the urge goes away by doing this or you get involved in something and you forget. There will be the occasional slip up but hey 5 smokes a day are better than a whole pack!!!!! Me? I'm still puffing. I don't really want to stop and I should considering my families medical background Ya have to want it or your probably not going to succeed!

firestarter665 42M/39F

6/10/2006 10:53 am

I have tried kicking the smoking habbit a few times. The hardest part for me was the social drinking. Once I had a beer the cigarette had to go with it. I wasn't about to give up both, so here I am still smoking.

I wish you the best of luck with quitting.

rm_KirkVW44m 55M
688 posts
6/10/2006 11:45 am

I dipped snuff for over 20 years and i actually quit for a couple years and started againg but i finally said fuck it and quit . I don't know that i gained any weight from stopping my nicotine addiction. I wish you well in your endeavor to quit. To each their own but i can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke let alone when its on a woman or her clothes.

Wishing you wellness

pstarr2 33M

6/10/2006 12:12 pm

smoking is an ugly habit, i think that when a beautiful and sexy woman like u smokes it takes away from your beauty. to kick the habit just have to stay busy and try to stay away from ppl who do smoke, thats what i did, but i think u r very beautiful. U should come check out my groups lets meet n love em thick

Intensity4U 52M  
7432 posts
6/10/2006 12:25 pm

I was going to joke about it and say, take up chewing tobacco. But after reading KirkVW44m - I have to confess I had the same habit as he did.

Being a former baseball player, I used the worst of all smokeless products - Copenhagen. It may be the worst of all tobacco products because research has shown 90+% of Copenhagen dippers don't spit - they swallow. I was one of those.

To quit: I was given a brochure on the health risks. Seeing pictures of the effects of what it can do to your mouth, lips or lymph nodes in your neck - cancer & such - I quit right then.

The damage smoking does to lungs is 'hidden' so pictures aren't so startling or you can't really relate to lungs - it's not like you'll see them in mirror. But with chewing tobacco... I only needed to see that once. I think I would puke if I ever smelled Copenhagen again.

goodatpoetry2 67M
13065 posts
6/10/2006 12:45 pm

While you're sick and not wanting to smoke much anyway, try the patch. The last time I quit [for 4 1/2 yrs] that's what I did. By the time you're feeling better, you're half-way there.

rm_cnilingsfan2 48M
158 posts
6/10/2006 12:58 pm

I quit smoking years ago when I was working night shift. while I was working nights I didn't see any of my friends who smoked. So after 2 weeks the nic fits were pretty much gone but it took allot longer to find something else to do. MMMmmm Maybe thats why I masturbate LOL
Good luck as you quit you will be much better off. Take care and go see your MD asap

westhill2006 53M

6/10/2006 1:23 pm

Smoking is one of my many vices amber,hahahaha.
I stopped for 5 years,he craving never left my brain,so started again,cough,lol...
P.S."I must stop again"

Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
6/10/2006 1:29 pm

I'm a smoker so will be curious to read all the comments to this post. Good luck to you and I'm so sorry you're still sick! My gosh! Get better soon woman!!!


somethingelse40 75M
14676 posts
6/10/2006 1:34 pm

Advice doesn't help: quit while you're still alive. You have to quit all over again every time you're assaulted by the urge--several times a day at first--day and night, until the urge subsides, somewhat analogous to being horny. It's you against you, but manageable--barely manageable. Have you felt like being naughty and nice again?

TheCliticals 35F/F

6/10/2006 1:37 pm

Our flu says hi to your flu . Isnt it the absolute pits.

Dildo_replacemen 38M

6/10/2006 2:11 pm

Don't really have any bad habits, I've never smoked, chewed, etc. The only addiction I have is getting that sexual release (climax). - It ain't a bad habit, so I can't count it!

chasingfun27 38M
1108 posts
6/10/2006 2:21 pm

I know of people who've quit the same way you might.

I must be weird. When I smoked, I used to smoke more when I got sick - anything to make me feel better, and who doesn't love the soothing nicotine.

Everyone's different with quitting but if you aren't really sure you want to then don't bother. Otherwise you'll need a strategy that works for you, my saviour was nicotine gum - nasty stuff that it is.

Good luck. Get well soon.

FunFlirty4u 46F

6/10/2006 2:25 pm

I quit smoking by becoming pregnant and I'm glad I did. Its now about 4 years smoke free.

itsallfun1957 59M

6/10/2006 2:38 pm

Amber, hopefully your Doc will start you on some ABX, but you do have to go and see him/her. There's no telepathy in the medical profession. As far as the mucus that your coughing up, maybe you could use my services, just a thought. There's nothing better than a talented respiratory therapist at the bedside.

Quitting, first good luck and second you have to want to stop. I've used the gum (Nicorette) in the past and the taste has improved. My only problem was I just substituted the gum for smoking and developed quite a Nicorette habit. God, I love addictions!>>>itsallfun1957

blackleather2006 51M/49F

6/10/2006 2:51 pm

I amdire your willingness to quit smoking - I've wanted to several times and tried several times - patch, gum, Zyban you name it - nothing worked longer than 3 weeks for me (Zyban - was doing ok until I got in an accident and the van was totaled - high stress there so I started again)

Hope you feel better soon!


rm_FreeDave2000 60M

6/10/2006 2:51 pm

I am the most addicted person in the entire World...absolutely no exaggeration. Right now I have my single addiction, which is running...5 miles 6 times a week. I can't even talk about it, without craving it. I have a serious Yoga habit turning to an addiction. The World could fall part, I will still be running at 11:30 and yoga at 6:00. I was so addicted to cigarettes, two packs a day. I think that the 1st 3 days are Hell,so pack sunscreen, but all you have to do is put those 1st 3 days behind you and it will be so much easier after that. After those 1st 3 days, you won't care if you ever smoke again. Give it a try.

whats4dessert2 49M

6/10/2006 3:52 pm

Hey S:

I'm a pretty staunch anti smoker. I'm not militant or anything but I tend to avoid places where people smoke. My grandparents smoked a lot when I was a kid and whenever we'd go over to their house my eyes would itch and I'd be hacking and coughing for days from the second hand smoke.

I remember my dad going to their house to paint for them and having to wash the walls before painting and the water turning a browny yellow colour like a Richard's Red or Sam Adams beer.

I don't want to cross a line here but I can think of two really good inspirations that you have to drive yourself to quit and to keep you focused on your goal. Having never had an addiction, I may be over simplifying it but imagine those two great gals of yours lighting up a smoke cause they want to be like mom. That should be enough right there.

Miss you hon...give me a call or msg me sometime

rm_bk2nrml 57M

6/10/2006 4:32 pm

sweetie, go to the doc ! its been waaay too long. if you havent smoked in a week, youre almost past the hardest part. do it !! i know if i had that kind of opportunity, i would throw them away too !!


thestrikeslinger 58M
8 posts
6/10/2006 5:25 pm

Yep, anytime is a good time to quit. And judging from your picture, you are a very beautiful woman, and nothing detracts from that, at least for most people, than a cigerette danling out of a beautiful mouth. If your decision is to quit, go for it with gusto! I did, many years ago, and while still to this day the urge will hit now and then, I've been without a cigarette for so long I've forgotten how to spell it! Wishing you the best! The StrikeSlinger

ilsuconu 56M

6/10/2006 5:45 pm

Just ONE bad habit I've broken?!? Hmmm... in this century? Well, none... no bad habits that is. (I quit that stupid impulse spending back in the 80's!) And since I don't consider smoking to be a "bad" habit... I'm not in any hurry to break it!

wanderlust01970 50M

6/10/2006 5:54 pm

Yeah, smoking is tough to quit. Smoked for 12 years, tried cold turkey...everytime I had a beer, I just had to light up. Smoking and beer just go together. Took 7 attempts before I finally kicked it. Quit while you can, and keep quiting, don't give in.

If you feel the urge to light up, light up your sensuality instead!

rm_tlaw781 38M

6/10/2006 6:25 pm

Hey still sick that sucks. At least it's the weekend!
Anyway, you say you would've kicked it years ago but you feared some pounds coming on. Well think on this. If you have that much confidence already coming in you're in a great starting place.
I've personally gone out of my way for people close to me to help them when they've wanted to kick the smoking habit and I've found each person is different and quits for a hundred different reasons. Once my college roommate and still one of my best friends hated it and wanted to quit so i dropped the last 50$ I had to my name and went and bought him the gum and told him if he wanted that route like he said he did there it was. He quit and thanks me over the years. I can tell you I'm more thankfull i'll have his friendship in later years because he won't have died of cancer or smoking related illness.
I grew up in a household of nothing but smoke. I pleaded with my parents to stop but they just couldn't and they are two of the strongest people I ever knew. One day as a teenager I was playing basketball and almost collapsed from not being able to breathe. The doctor sadly informed me I had the lungs of a 45 year old and i would have a form of asthma the rest of my life. I was pretty pissed to say the least. Second hand gave it to me but that never stopped me. When I stand on the top of a 14thousand foot mtn and breathe in or run the court for 5 hours I don't think my parents ruined my life but how I could help others to avoid doing the same.
You're worried about a few pounds and that's natural. We all have our own ideas of beauty and nobody wants to feel ugly. But I venture to say that you are smart enought to realize the person who loves you will appreciate your beauty but love the ideas you have, the dreams, your wants, how you carry yourself, your heart and soul much more than a few pounds would matter. But I'm sure you already knew that.
My mother was told a few months back right before my birthday that she was very sick and if she continued on the same path she had maybe another year. Finally after years she got so pissed off, and you don't piss off a little lady from brooklyn, because as she was beginning to breathe again she stopped smoking cold. I never thought I would see the day. She's over a hundred days now and she worries about her weight but I just give a her a hug and tell her "cmon you know you're hot ask dad" and she smiles and carries on.
So my advice to you is find the thing(s) that mean the most to you and ask yourself if its really worth possibly losing those things prematurely for a chemical induced/laced piece of paper. Only you know what means the most and do they compare to a few pounds?
There are tons of resources out there and I'm sure you'll get some good points of view from this line. So struggle on as I'm sure it will be and maybe you getting sick will be one of the best things that ever happened to you!!

real36CgirlPA 38F

6/10/2006 6:39 pm

I quit smoking last year using a Nicozan kit. I really couldn't afford to smoke anymore (I smoked anywhere between a pack and 1 1/2 per day) and I was getting winded just from climbing a few flights of stairs. I had ZERO willpower but it still worked in about 3 weeks. I did gain some weight but it was way after I quit so I think it was that seasonal blahs stuff that made me want to eat and sloth.

Djeeper1987 47M

6/10/2006 7:00 pm

sorry your still sick. drink lots of 7up and get lots of toast. trust me you will get better.

wuv me

Carpe Diem

JaniSux 44F

6/10/2006 7:04 pm

Bad habits...

Masturbating often, sex for my pleasure, coffee and dark chocolate... and I haven't kicked a single one of them.. lol

Get well soon Amber!

imagesvp 42M
125 posts
6/10/2006 7:31 pm

Hi exciting ♥LÈgÄLL¥ ♥ ßLõñÐÈ♥

I started to smoke cigarettes at 12.
I childlishly tried a few times to stop.
In vain.
On the verge of getting 20,
I figured then was the time to stop.
Before my 20th birday morning midnight,
I smoked my last one.
Never again.
The 2 first weeks had been so bad,
that I figured afterwards
that if I was ever to smoke again
one day
I would have to stop again
And I could'nt imagine
going through such 2 weeks again!
Pure hell!
Hence never to an other cigarette again!

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
6/10/2006 7:47 pm

Smoking is also a habit I need to quit, as for not fellingwell, wish I was there to take care of you

Serenely_Yours 117

6/10/2006 8:03 pm

Amber Dear, please do quit. I was a smoker for some years and took me a while to kick. Not that easy but with real determination. Think about better looking skin. And also minus the horrible kinds of diseases casued by it.


٭ ˚ °◦○☻ Serenely Yours ☺○◦° ˚ ٭

rm_smosmof2 67M
3240 posts
6/10/2006 8:05 pm

We need to chain you to Knot4Everyone so you can keep each other honest (she's trying to quit, too).

My brother quit by using wellbutrin. I got over a long term marijuana habit the same way, although that was more of a side effect...I've been on wellbutrin for over a year now, for depresssion.

PurplePeach72 44F  
9199 posts
6/10/2006 8:09 pm

Will Power and lots of it! I've never been addicted to cig's but my dad quit last year, after smoking for over 40 years. He tried the patch the pills but finally just like you, he got very sick, couldn't smoke b/c it hurt too much and when he got well again I reminded him how it felt, and how we had to watch his mother dying of COPD but still trying to smoke. He's hasn't touched a cig since. It's a tough habit to break, good luck. For goodness sakes go to the Dr and get some Med's. Stay strong you can quit if you really want to, you are obviously very strong willed.
Sending hugs & strength your way, {=}LeeAnn


gjg1965 52M

6/10/2006 8:19 pm

Thanks for stopping by get well soon. george

rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
6/10/2006 8:20 pm

Mine was drinking, I quite a couple of times, the only way is to go cold turkey.. the DT's are bad, but I don't think I'll ever get that bad again

imLadyBambi 58M/50F

6/10/2006 9:47 pm


All I can say is good luck.

I've been trying to quit smoking for year's and still haven't conquered.This is after a partial lung removal in June 2004.Will I ever learn?

Lady Bambi

sir_licksallot 71M

6/10/2006 11:18 pm

I smoked for about 20 years - one morning woke up with a rattle n my lungs that said - "live or die your choice." Now, I had tried quitting several times and always came up with the best excuses why I couldn't right now but later ... So I talked to a few people who knew about these things and just made a commitment - a deep commitment - a deeper commitment til I got to a place I KNEW I was going to do it. Developed a mantra "I don't want this." No patch because everyone I'd seen use the patch didn't make it. the first week was pretty rough - stayed away from all alchohol and places where people drink and smoke. I cheated once and found a new strength by not getting down on myself - realized getting down on myself was just a deception to get myself back on nicotine. Kept up the mantra even when I had to do it between clenched teeth cuz I knew it was a lie but I just did it anyway with all I had. Somewhere between 3 and 4 weeks the physical part started easing up significantly but then the mind games began. "Hey, you did it, congratualtions - you can smoke one just to ease up a bit..." one of the more obvious games. They got more subtle but constant as my body expelled the crud from my body cuz the nervous system is connected to the brain - right? And nicotine works on the nervous system. After 3 months I knew I had it beat but also knew I was an addict and one screw up could be disaster but food tasted a lot better, I could breath a lot better - I felt in control of my life, successful and strong. It got easier and easier and after about a year cigerette smoke smelled stinking death foul but the cravings, although easily put aside, continued with diminishing frequency and virilance for 4 to 5 years. Now I don't care for a cigerette in the least, can even be around others and the only craving I have is to tell those folks to stop paying $3 to $5 a pack to give yourself a miserable death.
Do it.

sir_licksallot 71M

6/10/2006 11:29 pm

Oh yeah, drink lots of liquids, and keep a big box of saltine crackers handy cuz you can munch a bunch and not gain weight. Saunas are good as are long hot showers, soothing teas and arobic exercise. Dont forget the mantra! Actually, if you like a challenge this is a great one. Do it!

rm_a_sin_vision 43M

6/11/2006 12:37 am

first to get it off my chest i have plenty of bad habits, i stay out to late, i tell lies, and i love to fall head over heels in i think that i will change my bad habits?maybe or maybe not,but i do know this is my life and i intend to live it. im not perfect but i am forgiven.besides the road to hell is paved with good intentions.when you want to change any of your habits you will.wish u were here.

HBowt2 59F

6/11/2006 6:01 am

3 weeks and going strong.....just keep remembering the cough and the for me...

chillybillywilly 67M
2 posts
6/11/2006 8:10 am

If you're still not smoking keep it up. I gave up 6 years ago and I've never been or felt better. Trouble is I've got to get a new addiction now...could it be you?(Love the blog!)

rm_moonboy23 36M
893 posts
6/11/2006 8:28 am

Hope you will get better soon ....

replace the habit you do not want with another habit that is not that harmfull ......

I give up smoking and start to swim .Do not let Mind make your decision , you make decission for the mind ....


free2chose2 66F

6/11/2006 8:57 am

Good luck quitting-----its on mt "to do list"

Don't worry, be Happy

T_A_B_75 42M

6/11/2006 9:09 am

My only bad habit is work, I could kick that habit in a second.

My parents were smokers they picked up a book from the Canadian Cancer Society "Quit Smoking In 30 Days". It explains what you should do each day and how to resist the urges. They haven't smoked in 11 years.

NGs_lady 64F
762 posts
6/11/2006 10:42 am

Hope you feel better soon and good luck with kicking the habit.

NGs_lady / Lady Stee

smackyman 46M
3845 posts
6/11/2006 11:01 am

You seem like a pretty strong person Amber - drop the habit right now...cold turkey - whatever!

rm_4wolfsr 58M

6/11/2006 11:45 am

Smoking is as much an addiction as it is a habit, if not more. As far addictions go, I can't say I have any. Bad habits? Let's see I use the tip of my pen to scratch that itch in my ear (you know your not supposed to stick anything but your elbow in there!).

rm_BobBigGun 51M
124 posts
6/11/2006 12:01 pm

You know all the vises of smoking and all the virtues of quiting. I am not going to preach to you about it. I only have one question though...Why put such an ugly thing as a cigarette up to such a beautiful face like yours?

rm_longshot2u2 40M
1 post
6/11/2006 2:04 pm

Sorry to hear that you are ill Amber...drink lots of fluids and hopefully you will feel better in a few days. If you have the will, try to stop smoking (I know you probably hate hearing this) but you and your wallet will appreciate it in the long run!!

ohcurious14 59M
1683 posts
6/11/2006 5:07 pm

I wish you the best of luck sweetie. It is a difficult task to do.

notauriousone 48M
2 posts
6/11/2006 6:06 pm

cigs the debil takes away life put em out

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
6/11/2006 11:11 pm

The trouble with smoking is that you will always be potentially addicted, but you can find ways of controlling it down to zero. This is a good time to start afresh. Your lungs are still young and can recover almost totally from the effects of smoking.

I hope you're better soon.

warm xx

closer2u1971 46M

6/12/2006 2:55 am

although I have yet to kick the smoking habit the worst habit that was hard to kick was the thoughts of my ex .

rm_albsha 41M

6/12/2006 8:05 am


Dildo_replacemen 38M

6/13/2006 2:13 pm

It's contagious, and I know one way you can catch it!

Intensity4U 52M  
7432 posts
6/14/2006 9:47 am

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Im sorry I couldnt get passed *used to be a baseball player* that is such a turn on! You have to post pictures!
That is such a turn on? Geez Amber, I would've never known. Hmmm, guess I'll try to dig up some pictures, but where would I post them for your enjoyment?

herringchocker2 86M
1 post
6/14/2006 1:33 pm

I've asked people over the years how they quit smoking. They said when i got up to 3-4 packs a day- - - they shoud be dead. I made a deal w/ the wife a few years ago. I will quit if you lose weight! !
It went along awhile & finally I was thrown in the hospital w/ pneumonia. You cant smoke there, so I cold turkeyed. After 57 years it was rough. Have been off them now for 6-8 years. Have copd -enphysema some other sludge but, alive & on two breathers. lol

tah3435 49M
11 posts
6/17/2006 9:16 am

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    Awww thanks Tim ! Although if I put on a few extra pounds ill be a cranky person lol!
I think I would rather have a cranky Amber that is in better health and will live longer because she gave up smoking. Besides a cranky Amber may make this blog even better if you don't like someone's comment!

Hope your feeling better!


YourHandyman62 106M

6/18/2006 8:01 am

Remember, you picked up the habit one day at a time, so why not kick it one day at a time.? What if you try gradually decreasing usage; x amount today, x-y the next, and so on until you are no longer using. At the same time take on a new physical activity you would enjoy. Between the two, hopefully, the habit will fall by the way. All the best to you.

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