I wonder...Could it be him or Could it be her?..  

amberabercrombie 37F
11929 posts
7/28/2006 12:44 am

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I wonder...Could it be him or Could it be her?..

One thing I love about this site is everything I thought I knew...Everything I assumed was morally correct...isn’t!...Where I come from a girl being promiscuous is a given...she’s a naughty ole girl!..She’s the girl you keep away from meeting mom and dad...The girl who’s labeled the horrible names...The easy lay...The easy target....The girl who men dream about...Want and need....Fantasize and desire....Yet still the girl that society deems incorrect....

You have to love this site because you come on here and see a promiscuous woman.....She’s to be loved...Treasured..Hell she’s a bloody icon!....I’ve seen more woman on here open and honest about their bodies and sexual encounters than I’ve ever seen in my 27 years outside this site....and you know what?..I love it!...I love that this little society has no labels or issues about woman wanting to be woman!...I love that if I was to come on here and blog about my overdue sexual escapades I wouldn’t be taunted...Wouldn’t be ridiculed...Wouldn’t be sinned....

But it does make me wonder...All the blogs I’ve read about the one night stands...The sexual acts.... All the profiles I’ve seen wanting discreet 1 on 1 sex...Exhibition and Voyeurism.....I wonder...I really really wonder....Who’s more promiscuous...Woman or Men...?

tracy_de_lacy 105F
9268 posts
7/28/2006 12:58 am

but on this site you don't even know if the stories are true. they could be written by 16 year old virgins. A lot of it is fantasy rather than reality. This site isn't a good place to judge people by. I also think there are a load of guys out there who say they are getting more action than they say. With some of them you wonder where they find the time to write such long stories and answer other peoples blogs if they are having so much sex. Also why would they bother.

Bye everyone, it was a blast

rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
7/28/2006 1:02 am

The answer has to be women. I have stated over and over again that I am not here for sex and that even if it were to happen that it would be military position with the door closed, the drapes drawn and my socks on yet I get daily more emails and solicitations than I can even answer. Suggestive things that I can't write here. I practically have to beat you women off with a stick. Yep, no contest.
ger - (Commenting freely and without expectation.)

funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
7/28/2006 1:06 am

ooo, Men I think.
What this site (blogging) does for a man is give him the opportunity, with a degree of anonimity, to explore and verbalise his true feelings. Say things 'a man' would not usually say in company.
Bollocks, I'm rambling again.
BTW, pop in, I have now done 200 posts. No one has read any but, I have done them

T_A_B_75 42M

7/28/2006 1:13 am

When men are talking to their buddies you hear a lot of "I've been with this girl and this girl..." but when they are trying to pick up a lady its the opposite "I can count all my encounters on one hand."

The truth is women. They just aren't as open about it because of society's view on them when they are.

Sleeping around is a status symbol for men and we see it as okay.

The reality of it is women dictate whether a man is going to have sex or not. A man really has no say and is just along for the ride.

AndyUnique 68M

7/28/2006 1:15 am

Men...Every survey I've seen supports it. Even when you take into account that men exaggerate their sexual "conquests" and women tend to under report their sexual escapades. Take a look at the proportion of men to women on this site. Maybe different results in the swinging community but I'd guess at best 50/50 on a promiscuity scale.

IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
7/28/2006 1:16 am

Hmmm, that question is probably as mysterious as is "what is life".

My philosophy on this, they are both the same.


Men brag about how much sex they get.
Women hide the fact how much sex they get.

When a women says she has only slept with 20 guys, double or triple it.

When a guy says he has slept with dozens of women, divide that number in half.

I also think its a cultural thing.

Over here, women write in their blogs how much the sex really sucked from the last guy she met on AdultFriendFinder.

Overseas, they write in their blog about the sexual bliss they experienced from a a guy they met on AdultFriendFinder.

Go figure? Wrong expectations perhaps? Have anyone ever really read their own profile? Maybe they'll discover why they attract the bad apples.

But overall. On this site, I see many that just love to talk, but no action. They have the nude pics and their wares are spread out for the world to see, but they take half a lifetime to make up their mind "while they get to know you thru chat".

Like the old saying goe's; "Shit or get off the pot, damn it!". You either really want sex or you don't.

Women and men both know in a matter of minutes whether they want to have sex with the other. It's that so called "chemistry" that I see written often enough.

Most guys will do a lady just because it may be the very few if any contacts he will ever make on this site.

Women take forever to decide, because they have to go thru the 100's of emails first to see if that "lucky one" is writing.

I've turned my thinking completely in reverse on this.(and it works)

Stopped looking for sex, it will find me.

Stopped emailing every promising woman, hoping I can meet her.
She will find me if she has enough ambition to browse ads herself.

The ones I do write, I have absolutely no expectations from. If I think they are cool enough to write to, I will give them the chance to show me what makes them different from the rest.

I'd say their is a lot of promiscuity out there. Not only for men, but according to a survey I read, over 50% of married women admit they have had at least one extramarital encounter. Almost 40% admit to having an affair with someone on repeat basis. The figures are about the same for men.

BadAssBlonde1 57F
4989 posts
7/28/2006 1:18 am

I think it is even, Amber. To me, it is all good. I don't judge others' but hope that there is no hurt involved with some of the relationships I have witnessed. I have seen several broken hearts from both the men and women. I have also witnessed success stories from both sides. Just my dollars worth

Lady Hunter

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009

IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
7/28/2006 1:21 am

    Quoting amberabercrombie:
    In case your wondering my blogs description was denied and im waiting for it to be re-reviewed? Dont know how it was denied I didnt swear !
I think thats just another glitch Amber. I get that sometimes as well. Like when I make a blog entry and it comes up "twice".

Just go into edit, retype it and save again. Should work.

IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
7/28/2006 1:28 am

    Quoting tracy_de_lacy:
    but on this site you don't even know if the stories are true. they could be written by 16 year old virgins. A lot of it is fantasy rather than reality. This site isn't a good place to judge people by. I also think there are a load of guys out there who say they are getting more action than they say. With some of them you wonder where they find the time to write such long stories and answer other peoples blogs if they are having so much sex. Also why would they bother.
You could be correct, but you should see the women's blogs that I have seen. Talk about bragging sexual conquests! Yeow!

Then again, there's the ones that live their life behind a keyboard only fantasizing about how good life can be.

k1ss1000 47M/36F

7/28/2006 1:36 am

i kinda think women can be more themselves on here, i just wish more of them would web cam! every time i go in a chat room all i see are men. even with the couples it is usually the male half on. women write really sexually but let me see more please! love the female half! xxx

timberwolf6972 44M

7/28/2006 1:41 am

I live my life on the wild side! Wanna join me? {=}

funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
7/28/2006 2:39 am

Comment whoring: Today I celebrate my 200 posting. 20 things about me that may surprise you. I HAVE NOW CUM 200 TIMES

rm_dosrev 39M
2091 posts
7/28/2006 4:27 am

I say men, but not by much, and women feel much more guilty about it afterwards.

"Enough of this palaver, lets get the show on the road!"
"The best thing about a day like that is that it can't get any worse. It was a bad day AND a Monday. The rest of the week has to be better." - Hotandsteamygirl

mysticdreamangel 61F
2759 posts
7/28/2006 5:39 am

I think men naturally are more promiscuous, but get a woman around the right man...and hands down it's the woman! Take it from one that knows...

Have a great day!

UdderPuttyBiped 37M
102 posts
7/28/2006 5:40 am

Aha, but one has to interpet this question correctly.

Are men more promiscous than women? Men WISH they were promiscuous. Very few actually achieve their dreams of being James Bond in the sack.

Women, however...they actually CAN have sex with as many men as they like. The only thing stopping any particular woman of even average attractiveness from having sex with the phone book is free time and self-constraint.

IsThisBetter4u 106M

7/28/2006 6:51 am

Promiscuous or insatiable. I'm definitely NOT promiscuous but I'm insatiable 4sure. I'd love to show you the difference. When the chemistry is there, holy cow! But I avoid 'playing the field' too much. Too scary these days.

cachondodiscret0 40M

7/28/2006 6:55 am

hey istma jjjjslsolos

bigandtallreturn 37M

7/28/2006 7:00 am

Men are more promiscuous. And I agree with IsThis, I am definitely insatiable. I don't think I can get enough of sexual playtime. The fact that I don't get it very often only makes the craving stronger.

As for James Bond in the sack... considering the 30+ movies the 007 character has been in, I'm convinced Bond carries every sexually transmitted disease known to modern man.

"Today may be the first day of the rest of your life, unless you live on the other side of the International Date Line, then yesterday was the first day of the rest of your life."- Larry Andersen

sillyperv 54M

7/28/2006 7:18 am

Well men have to be doing it with someone and the self doesn't count so I'd have to say even.

rm_Benkai7 55M
2358 posts
7/28/2006 7:35 am

Dear "amberabercrombie".

Honestly to my opinion there is no difference ... women might be more open in writing honestly and more sensitive about ... but at the end there is no difference ...


rm_devilsgrin69 51M
223 posts
7/28/2006 7:57 am

To most, when they post and it takes awhile "under review" most don't care because the don't have the following you do. But for you on the other hand, have a huge following and for me your one of the first i turn to when i boot up. I like to think of it as "a day without Amber is like a day without Sunshine" and it been raining alot for July.
Last night i went in search for you post only to cum up dry...well no exactly dry, if you know what i mean...

Who’s more promiscuous...Woman or Men...?
Men , they'll sleep with anything.
Women they'll sleep if the person is acceptable.

Case in point: if a man went to a woman and said "Lets Fuck"
the woman may be intrested but they will take into consideration the person.
If a lady went to a man and said the same, the man will think he won the lottery, ask for the cheque and get out of there as quickly as possible to get into bed before the lady changes her mind and sees him for what he really is.

Dvilsgrin69 at the gspot

angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
7/28/2006 8:04 am

You know Amber....your blog is always interesting....but the people who comment here are real treasures, aren't they?

itsallfun1957 59M

7/28/2006 8:27 am

Good post Amber. In reality who knows? When you look at the male to female ratio here on AdultFriendFinder, there is an indecently higher male to female ratio. Unless we are counting fantasy masturbatory sessions, then it is moot. One thing that I have notice and so far I'm the token bi-sexual on this thread, the male to male level of promiscuous behavior is high which then opens the debate of is that fantasy driven or just sheer volume and availability. Again who really knows.>>>itsallfun1957

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
7/28/2006 8:57 am

Oh, hell, it's not even close. Men are more promiscuous. Most of them will screw anyone, the PC comments here notwithstanding. Now if you'd asked about who is hornier, you could have a legitimate debate.

Roll two words around your head, "stud" and "slut". Society punishes promiscuous women, but lauds promiscuous men. With the current assault in the U.S. on women's ability to control conception and pregnancy, it's not getting any better.

If a woman has a child without being married, the first words used to describe her are "unwed mother". Is this the defining view of a man who has fathered 6 children with 6 different women?

Women are afraid to be promiscuous.

rm_KingEdain 46M
1848 posts
7/28/2006 9:50 am

well from what i have seen there is no difference...... but then again i seem to have no luck on this site anyway. been here awhile and have contacted many people but it would seem that none of them ever reply. I am starting to think that 99 percent of the people on here are full of crap and not serious about what they want. Either that or i am just not interesting enough. Anyway nice blogs Amber and by the way you are a very hot young lady

rm_gergle775 51M
150 posts
7/28/2006 10:11 am

What is wonderful about this place to talk, listen, read, wonder about, drool over, blush once in a while is that no matter how totally honest or horribly dishonest, we all get the taste 'of how the others think'... Whether it's a guy bragging about his 'imaginary' exploits, a woman venting about her lack of exploits, whatever the case may be... we're ALL learning from the colorful minds of the fun, diverse, world-wide spread intellect...

Talk to me, I'll tell you "the truth, the whole truth....."


IsThisBetter4u 106M

7/28/2006 10:30 am

hey Amber...forgot to tell you to check your mail. 3 or 4 days back I think. c ya {=}

goodatpoetry2 67M
13213 posts
7/28/2006 11:26 am

It has to be men. Their sex drive is just more forceful.
Most [not all] women need some attachment. Most men don't.
Sex and love are separate for most men.

wickedeasy 67F  
26839 posts
7/28/2006 11:28 am


but we're ever so circumspect about it

btw - i'm not the least promiscuous in the conventional sense of the word - but i do believe in being promiscuous with my Sir - i have been a French Maid, a scientist, etc., etc.

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

monkeefuk 45M
12 posts
7/28/2006 11:39 am

although it is true most men will do any woman it doesn't mean that those men will always succeed it is far easier for a woman to walk in any where a pick and chosse who she wants example a sigle man goes to a good size party he might have a 50/50 chance of getting lucky now a single woman goes to that same party she has got probly a 99/1 chance of scoreing becouse men will do anyone so in today's would i would have to say women are more promisucous

willing2tryit42 40M
1141 posts
7/28/2006 11:52 am

Have a peek...... Views From The Dark Fortress ...... and women, they just keep it to themselves!!!!

somethingelse40 75M
14676 posts
7/28/2006 12:24 pm

I find being awake very erotic.

intierzha 43M

7/28/2006 1:10 pm

Men have caused most of the problems in the world, so we should probably shoulder the blame on this one as well, lol.


bipolybabe 55F

7/28/2006 1:10 pm

I'd say that women over 40 are probably the hottest, as in those who are most interested in sex (after teenage boys). In fact, one woman friend described this pre-menopausal stage as having her body taken over by a horny teenage boy.

There's the hormonal shift plus we finally have energy and time for sex and less concern about pregnancy or if it means I'm a "bad girl" because I like it. We can stand and proudly declare that we like sex.

And, we also know enough to distinguish between physical pleasure and genuine intimacy. There is a difference, of course. But, I'd like to assert that sex in a loving relationship is not more holy or sanctified or better than some really good fucking.

Oh, and what I also like about this site is being able to be a sexually interested woman and not pretend anything else.

There! I'm done. For now.



Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!

rm_shootr63 53M

7/28/2006 2:43 pm

woman hands down

rm_devilsgrin69 51M
223 posts
7/28/2006 3:28 pm


Hear ,hear.

tadpudgy 56M

7/28/2006 4:33 pm

i have kept an open mind, and believe i society will always be about labeling. Men have proven by their history towards the treatment of women that it is their right to be horny/promiscuous/self-serving, and i can throw in more here, but i digress. women have needs too. they have battled their way to be considered as a man's equal all of their lives, and dammit, i am glad to see them being stronger in all facets of life. i have found concentrating on her wants/needs/desires first and with enthusiasm, i have been blessed to unlock the doors, and get her absolute best...of course, been waiting 4+ years to do that again, but hey, that's another blog!!

Passion247000 46F
3195 posts
7/28/2006 7:00 pm

I have stop wondering.... {{{{LOL}}}}

I think it is refreshing that we are free to express and share without inhibition, shame or concern on this site.... and be totally accepted! It's a liberating feeling .... 'cause I believe deep down, everyone wants and love sex... promiscuous or not... sorry, I am rambling on....

To answer your question, I think both men and women are equally promiscuous. Men are just more open about it....

However, for some women, if they have found a loving, compatible partner, they are less likely to be promiscuous…. It is their physiological/emotional make-up…...

i hope this makes sense.... I have been on the blog too long and my head and vision are failing me..... {{{smiles}}}}}}

meerkittykat 42F

7/28/2006 7:09 pm

Gawd....I'm just repeating what other ppl have said...women and men are equally promiscuous, but because men are valued for it and women shamed because of it, we always hear about the men.

What I wanna talk about is that Nelly Furtado "Promiscuous" video. **whewwwwww** She's a Canadian, amber...do you think she's promiscuous...and plays for both teams????

rm_jocboyho 48M
45 posts
7/28/2006 7:15 pm

You can always find people how will put you down... you're to flirty or you're a slag, they'll say. But they are the type of person who will never admit that they enjoy sex or just flirting. They don't ever talk about anything risky or naughty they just like to criticize.. I say ignore them and be happy live life to the full

beatpoeme 54M

7/28/2006 7:30 pm

men and women seek to prove it, and approval from themselves. Men are honored for the trait and reputation women have thousands of years of denial and at times self imposed stigma to deal with. Society is gentler on the men historically.
Equal in action and intent.

2375 posts
7/28/2006 8:26 pm

I think it's 50/50. And I agree about the web camming. WTF? Every cam I go to is a guy jacking off for HOURS! I love being able to be open and honest on this site, something I can't to IRL.

blueguy1051 60M

7/28/2006 9:21 pm

Men are more openly promiscuous. It's more socially acceptable. Women are hornier, though.

docdirk 47M

7/28/2006 9:24 pm

Pro-miscuous. Ever wonder if there's a con-miscuous? Or an Amatuer-miscuous?

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

Intensity4U 52M  
7432 posts
7/28/2006 10:29 pm

Hey Amber In the Real World? I'd say men. Here? I have no idea. I always wondered about the threesomes and moresomes - a woman can say she wants 3 guys at once and she'll have plenty of takers. So, if it happens... In the case of those four people, would you say women are more promiscuous than men?

Dildo_replacemen 38M

7/28/2006 10:34 pm

Who are more promiscuous...Woman or Men...?

I'd say in general that both men and women are equally promiscuous! But for those who are on this site, I'd say women! Why? Because there seems to be a lot of very attractive women on here who have switched sides - so very sad! And everybody know women get what they want. Men just say they do!

jd29992z 54M
3888 posts
7/28/2006 11:03 pm

Well first of all I would love for you to meet my mom I would be very proud of you. Next I don't think it is a man woman thing I thing there are people that are just, well, more open about their sexuality. I think that is healthy to people that hold it in and live a double life. I love this site too I can be open about my sexuality my feeling the fact that I can tell you that I would love to lick your body until your legs fall off and you would reply with a great come back yes that is why I love this site and love your blog. Later babe JD

sean08802 46M

7/29/2006 1:41 am

what would ur baseline (common factor)be?men women?lot o things come into play,factors .straight, bi,for instnc,i get alot of men and bi man/transg.comments an mail, even though im straight ,an not intrstd in explrin that avenue,even train of thought,so as a woman with a fine mine and body,you exprncs diff from genr.pop not to discriminate or judge,just think each may be diff,and sending that shiver anytime needed.all u have to do is ask.wink,wink,nudge...

sean08802 46M

7/29/2006 1:46 am

P.S.My anwser Would Prob have to be the men even though hate to admit
infrrty issuse,they seem to be predator esk in nature, limiting a decent guys success by turning u all off before we decent folk log on

letstryit4fun38 49F

7/29/2006 4:52 am

i think it is pretty even on both sides of the alley. this site gives everyone a place to brag without being judged for fulfilling fantasies and needs.i dont see me telling my family or friends the things i confess on here..lmao


free2chose2 66F

7/29/2006 7:04 am

ditto what angelofmercysaid

Don't worry, be Happy

leo_tron 60M

7/29/2006 7:23 am

We all think of taking risks - not so sure if gender is the difference. If it were not for the 'beer weapon' used by women to lure men by disarming their visual defenses, I think we would all be the same.

TonyPlays 64M

7/29/2006 8:43 am

I think men are more promiscuous. The reason is that when I lived in Hollywood I had the opportunity to observe the gay lifestyle of men. Mind you I'm not gay or anything. But those gay guys were the most promiscuous group I ever saw. They tried to hit on me many times.

There was no courting involved, just 1, 2, 3 wham bam thank you man!

But one thing I did notice was that after Madonna hit the scene, women were a lot more forward.

DrabJuggler 54M

7/29/2006 9:32 am

Dear Blogs > amberabercrombie > Ämßêr'§ ♥ ÄÐÐïöñ -

You use the word "promiscuous" (hope that's spelled OK?) but, and it is a BIG BUTT (sorry!) it refers to action in the real world... AdultFriendFinder is far from this... It's a domain where the mind is king (queen... 4u amber)!

What we see on AdultFriendFinder is what lurks within the minds of others. A priviledged view indeed, often not an easy one to reveal in the real world! But AdultFriendFinder is a world where we simply cannot distinguish, except intuitively, between male and female because we only have some photo(s) to believe in. Is that really my nipple or your face Amber? The maintenance of clear mindworks again ... So, hale well poor fellow AdultFriendFinder soul and let me simply bid thee farewell in the space of cyber-grey matter and remind you that fantasy is a world apart from reality. What we do and what we think we would like to do can never be set together, after all how would we control the others in our story to follow our own rules exactly. Spanking without pain, being tied up and imparting the trust that goes out with this, meeting a stranger 4 sex who is clean and wholesome and free of the things you would not want to get, having a perfect affair with someone you adore who may not want to reciprocate. Dream on about promiscuity because that is where it is at...In a dream

Kind Regards DrabJuggler DrabJuggler DrabJuggler

Allupins 41M
38 posts
7/29/2006 10:05 am

Do you like my big wanky?

qyxx 60F
3267 posts
7/29/2006 11:42 am

I think, in general, men are still more promiscuous but women are gaining on you, fast. But if you compare a promiscuous man to a promiscuous woman, the woman has him beat hands down.


sweetieFLgirl4u 39F

7/30/2006 7:02 pm

I read somewhere (forget the exact numbers) a poll that said men report an average of 30 sex partners in their lifetime but women report an average of 10... so SOMEONE is lying. The pollsters surmised that the women were reducing their numbers and the men were inflating them.

SlowPlayin 50M

7/30/2006 10:22 pm


Damn_Dilemma 49F

7/30/2006 10:33 pm

<~ not going to even wonder about it!!!!!
Be seeing pretty Girl while I can get online but won't be around as much. Love and miss you **

foghorn49 59M

8/1/2006 7:24 am

I think it is a draw. AdultFriendFinder is a fantasy world that you can express yourself at. Not only in words but also action. Ain't it great.


8/4/2006 3:06 am

I think both are equally promiscuious. We all want the same thing, just for different reasons.

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