Sticks and Stones  

amb_lily 40F
371 posts
1/2/2006 4:16 pm

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Sticks and Stones

"Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me." That simple children's chant is so very untrue, a saying created to defend ones character I suppose.

Regardless of what the chant suggests its hard to be continually told how awful of a person you are.

But when you know what the person is saying is untrue; I wonder why it still hurts so much to hear it? I wonder why those lies begin to wear on your self image?

salamii6699 38M
63 posts
1/2/2006 7:11 pm

words can be nourishing like food for the mind or otherwise. hmm.... else if words do not matter why would people quarrel, debate or argue their points across? becos they have nothing better to do?

That phrase acts as an insulator against the harshness of words that were spoken. Insulation helps i guess.

If one would take too many words that were unfrenly and hurtful. it would probably takes light years of therapy to be whole.

Happy new nude year to all.

im_curious_4u 50M

1/2/2006 8:55 pm

In my experience one person is usually trying to put the other person down just to make them feel better about themself. The accuser is the one with low selfesteem. They think that if a lie is told often enough and to enough people they will begin to believe it. It gets tiring to keep defending yourself from false accusations but that's what has to be done.

Stay strong

Lookout4 39M

1/4/2006 3:35 pm

We all build walls to protect our inner truths and if that wall is made of straw or wood (To quote another childrens story) they can be easily blown down, however if our inner beleifs are strong like brick it is more difficult for those words to penetrate. None of us truely beleives we are perfect so when the "wind" blows it is kind of like a tornado (either it strikes us hard and knocks down a wall or misses us completely). It is all a matter of our own self image.

I beleive this is meant in terms of physical damage but it is still true that Bones heal, but the scars left by unkind words can last a lifetime.

dan2arlington 57M
2 posts
1/4/2006 9:11 pm

The way words can hurt is called verbal abuse. It is more painful than physical abuse. Over time it will kill your spirit. That's not my opinion, there are books about it. If you would like more info on it I can give you some titles. It's much more common than most people think.

MNguy469 40M
1 post
1/6/2006 8:21 am

I want to echo the positive support and advice that the previous entries have given you, but I'm very curious to know one thing. Who is it that is continually telling you that you are an awful person?Was that a figure of speech, or is there someone who is actually doing this to you?

amb_lily 40F

1/6/2006 10:49 am

Without going into was not a figure of speech.

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