Question for the guys  

amb_lily 40F
371 posts
10/9/2005 1:11 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Question for the guys


I get emails from men who really don’t match what I’m looking for…this is a common complaint from women….and I'm not complaining, my view point is that its nice to know someone is interested.....but what I want to know is….when I come across a profile I like but notice we don’t match…should I or shouldn’t I try to contact….from a guys perspective would you want a woman to contact you even if they don’t match what you are looking for?

cornfieldjoe 65M  
14 posts
10/10/2005 10:23 am

Of course...we're all here to make new friends. The profiles are a generalization...were you able to tell everyone exactly who you are in the 2 paragraphs of space they give you? I know I couldn't. I view a lot of profiles and send winks, but not necessarily to hook up. Sometimes someone strikes me as a cool person, and that's just a way to acknowlede them...plus the view points they garner help them in their search for what they seek. My advice is to write them anyway, because you just never know...


GeminiDreamin 36M

10/10/2005 3:33 pm

I agree with the above statement entirely. Anyways, my own opinion outside of my beginning statement is go ahead and give it a try. Personally, I've made friends with different people outside of Iowa and always looking for more people to chat with no matter what age. I also agree that you can't really give your complete personality, philosophies, etc. in only a couple paragrahps...if you could? damn! hehe. If a woman were to start talking to me or mailed me, I would be willing to get to know them and see where it lead....that's just me though, I'm used to talking to people older than me cuz thats the environment I've worked in for years and I don't know a whole slew of people my age (maybe my mentality clashes w/ theirs? lol)....

All in All, point being: be bold enough to contact that person, even if it's just to say a friendly hello and acknowledge them as a person in general. You never know if maybe a simple and short message might lead to something else.


PawPr1nt 51M
133 posts
10/13/2005 12:37 am

What you see on the profiles is taken from a really limited list of options and the selections we all make are based on our own opinions. Self-assessment has it's uses, but it ain't who we really are

As GeminiDreamin says, the offchance may actually be your big chance, if yu are willing to corresponde with someone 'different'.


Arturus04 36M

10/15/2005 7:11 pm

Yes, you should. The profile is just a tiny snap shot of that person (a tiny snap shot at the time it was written). The only way to know what a guy is all about is if you talk to him.


amb_lily 40F

10/16/2005 9:12 am

Very true...but I guess what I meant is the "x- boxes"...relationship goals, body type, etc. if you don't match those...they are pretty specific.....


rm_Bloomer069 41M

10/16/2005 1:31 pm

Of course~! Express yourself and "showcase" your best features even when your Cupid report tells a lie, besides every person on this site enjoys getting naked for one and second, just because a person that has not viewed you or emailed you doesn't mean they don't like you, chances are they really like you and are afraid of being turned down once contact is made.


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