Age does matter  

amb_lily 40F
371 posts
12/10/2005 6:55 am

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Age does matter

Age does matter, and I think people saying it’s just a state of mind is simply wishful thinking. Now…I for instance have always gotten along better with people usually 5-10 years older than me so I do believe there is some leeway to your state of mind.

But Come on! You can’t tell me it doesn’t matter! It does in many ways! You life experiences have changed you, matured you, your interests now are different than they were twenty years ago. Attraction isn’t going to change or alter that in a relationship.

Kind of on the same subject….why is it older men are so attracted to younger women while younger women are attracted to older men…you’d think nature would have us programmed differently. Or maybe it really is nature’s intent now that I think of it. But what doesn’t make sense is that men hit their prime so young and women much later. Why is that? That I don’t understand.

Some thoughts to ponder I guess…but I still believe Age does matter… at some point.

rm_longliner002 50M
227 posts
12/10/2005 8:58 am

well they say women mature Quicker than men,I like a women younger than my self, for the most part because they help me stay young at heart.

im_curious_4u 50M

12/10/2005 9:38 am

I don't think age matters too much for guys. At least when it comes to just looking for a one night deal. When it comes to a relationship I think most people want someone similar in age or at least share the same maturity level. There are definite exceptions.

Your second question involves a lot more. I think it was the Discovery Channel that had like a 5 part show on human sexuality and they dealt with that question. It's basically ingrained in us to search out certain things in a mate to help insure the propogation of the species. A younger woman is more fertile and can handle the rigors of child birth better. An older man is established and has shown his ability to survive and provide for his family. We're talking cave man families here. Things ahev changed through time, but the same instincts drive us now. Men are still attracted to younger women, but the biggest thing is that women don't need an older man to provide for them. We have become much more independant, especially women.

The reason we men hit our prime so early is that you women drive us to an early grave. That was meant as humor, calm down ladies. No seriously it's a life expectancy thing. It all goes back to the cave man deal. Men didn't live long and had to make hay while the sun shined. The female protion of this is more complex and requires more thought, at least for me. Great topic.

bootielover3 56M

12/10/2005 10:11 am

I really do believe that age does matter to many people, it really doesn't to me though.

I hate to disagree with im but up until the early 1900's a woman's life expectancy was much shorter than a man's. The numbers for a woman
born in 1900 was 48 years, a man 60 years. The changes through the century can be traced to better medicine, hygene, and diet.

Very interesting and thought provoking topic.

amb_lily 40F

12/10/2005 10:25 am

Ask yourself this first before replying.....Would it matter to you if it was a woman 20 years older than you?

im_curious_4u 50M

12/10/2005 2:26 pm

bootie - I agree womens life expectancy has gotten much better. I was thinking much much further back in time in my example. It goes back to the point I made about giving birth. It's very hard on females. I'm not just talking humans here. If males were the ones giving birth there would be about 5 people on earth. Women are much tougher in certain ways. Men are wimps when it comes to pain and being sick.

amb_lily - Sorry didn't mean to hijack your post. I got on a scientific roll there. To answer your question yes it would matter if a woman were that much older than me as far as a relationship goes. I still have hopes of having a few kids of my own some day. As far as just going out for dinner or what ever, I don't know. i probably would if the situation was right. To be honest I haven't dated any women much older than myself so I can't comment further. I guess it would depend on a man's age. If I was 50 I wouldn't date a 70 year old. If I was 20, knowing what I know now, I'd jump at the chance to date a 40 year old.

amb_lily 40F

12/11/2005 6:28 am

Well...from my expeirence, I've only heard men say age doesn't matter. Now I'm sure there are plenty of women who feel that way, but I've never met them. I only hear that phrase from men who are looking for a younger women, a much much younger woman. And from men who are much much younger than a woman.

Maybe men see age differently than women do.

rm_morismoris 32M
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RockPebble 69M
2485 posts
12/13/2005 11:48 am

Women mature earlier than men so a 20 year old woman and a 25-30 year old man are about the same mental age. As to women hitting their prime later than men, that just proves that God has a sense of humor.

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