alwzwetbbw 37F
213 posts
7/23/2006 5:31 am

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I'm beginning to think I can understand how a guy will be in bed by the way he communicates through chat......

For instance, I'm starting to get turned off by those in chat who only want to talk about ME servicing THEM. What is this?

It got to the point with one individual who constantly talked about me giving him oral that I finally said, "Are you planning on doing anything to me?" At which point he was like "69". I started laughing. I then implied that I like to be serviced and warmed up and if I am I tend to enjoy making a guy happy and I'm typically better at it. He then started talking about tit fucking me. LMAO. Needless to say, there won't be a meet.

The guys who pique my interest to meet are those who are all about making sure I'm taken care of first. Those who are patient and enjoy talking about what they would do to me. I know this may seem selfish, but if you aren't going to butter me up in chat, I have a hard time believing that you will in bed.

Is it wrong to make this assumption? I know that I am myself in chat but is it possible for people to be different in chat than they are in person?

rm_2blondsexy 30M
1 post
7/23/2006 5:55 am

i wanna chat with tis 1

ZZ_Todd 59M

7/23/2006 6:03 am

It's not a wrong assumption at all. Remember though that most guys are hiding their feelings behind some bullshit bravado macho shit that they think the women really expect. It can be intimidating for guys, thinking they have to compete for a woman's attention here, but what they fail to recognize is that what they think of as being unique is really the status-quo.

For me, I don't even start talking about sex when I'm chatting until the woman brings it up. And even then, I follow her lead... I want to know what pleases her, because really anything a woman does to me is pleasing. Sex is sex, when you get right down to it; ain't a whole lot of different ways to do it. I want to be able to know what else there is to having a good time with a woman... because there really is a whole lot more to a friendship/relationship than sex.

alwzwetbbw replies on 7/23/2006 12:17 pm:
can you give lessons? nicely put.

run4fun232 54M  
4508 posts
7/23/2006 7:34 am

I think you're right on with this. People who talk solely about themselves and what you can do for them probably aren't going to be very attentive, or good, in bed.

Sounds like you have a pretty good read on folks.

alwzwetbbw replies on 7/23/2006 12:17 pm:
well thanks i try, but even on this site, its hard getting down to a person's true intentions.

goodatpoetry2 66M
12369 posts
7/23/2006 7:55 am

No. You are right.
If all they do is talk about what THEY want, then in bed it will only be worse.

alwzwetbbw replies on 7/23/2006 12:18 pm:
i'm glad my gut was telling me so. thanks for the input

nightnsa 48M  
415 posts
7/23/2006 8:04 am

if they are an ass while chatting it is a good bet they will be an ass in person

alwzwetbbw replies on 7/23/2006 12:18 pm:
it seems as though that may be the case. glad i posted the question and thanks for the honest and direct response

SweetLoadInKC 45M

7/23/2006 2:30 pm

So what if you don't chat at all? Does that mean I'm never going to get laid?

alwzwetbbw replies on 7/23/2006 2:49 pm:
lol. i wouldn't say that....there are things such as e-mail and phone conversations....which also don't have to be centered around the guy , right?

how do you get laid without talking to the person?

theone4youinva 41M
7 posts
7/25/2006 5:02 pm

always trust you gut, your first impressions are usually pretty close although not always 100% accurate. There is no doubt if all a guy talks about is himself in one or another, it won't get any better in person. If a guy doesn't have the abiltity to carry on a descent conversation on a range of topics, it doesn't bode well lol. and ive always found its better to give than recieve

alwzwetbbw replies on 7/26/2006 3:40 am:
sounds like we have the same philosophy

ch007c9430 66M
3 posts
7/28/2006 3:11 am

Yes sweetheart most men are selfish and only look after their own ends,But i believe that one should give and take plenty of foreplay
and satisfy the lady that you are with, before pleasing oneself,then u both get to be satisfied,Ive always believed this ,and always will,

alwzwetbbw replies on 8/6/2006 6:30 pm:
and that is a hell of a philosophy to stick with

jalen1976 40M

7/30/2006 4:02 am

i would love 2 chat with u sumtime

workingman19855 31M
1 post
8/1/2006 12:52 am

i think that women need to get just as much as men if not more women do allot so i agree if u want to chat some time just e-mail me at

rm_Diddy4269 35M

8/8/2006 7:15 pm

i have to agree w/ some of the others on here, go w/ your gut on some of these guys especially if they seem to be all about themselves. Of course this goes into the whole "they turn out to be really sketchy when you do meet them" issue but for another time.

I, for one, try to be myself as much as possible. I think it comes through.

alwzwetbbw replies on 8/9/2006 8:10 am:
i agree on your comment and on you being yourself

skidave2nite 45M
16 posts
8/20/2006 5:14 pm

i should definitely get taken care of hopefully several times if the guy has a clue...honesty is good , but sometimes you gotta be diplomatic to a degree, but if it acts like a flake, its probly a flake

insolentone2 37M

9/1/2006 8:18 pm

sooo.. when are you going to service me? hahaha.. just kidding!

alwzwetbbw replies on 9/5/2006 3:12 pm:
lol. we both only wish

rm_Benwa63 53M

9/14/2006 1:09 pm

I would love to chat with you to get to know you well. I love to please a lady with soft kisses and intense tongue motions.

rm_Benwa63 53M

9/14/2006 1:22 pm

I would like to chat with you about this subject more in the future

imheretoplay0 46M
1 post
9/17/2006 7:34 pm

Most of the time I would rather perform than to receive. I get a lot out of hearing a woman moan.

(Joshua )

10/6/2006 9:38 pm

with sex u have to give to take it's like a bank u cant take anything out till u put something in. Sex is a 2 way road u give each other pleasure and not just through shaving a cock in a pussy

likembig22004 61M

10/17/2006 5:20 am

Most men are about there needs. Just wanting a wham-bam thank you mam. Which leaves lady frustrated, she's just getting warmmed up , and this guy is blowing his load. and he's done so he's leaving. That's why I make sure lady's needs,wants,desires are met first before my own. Think about it When a lady is totally satisfied, because her needs were met. Guys I don't know a woman that wouldn't want to take very good care of your needs, even mind -blowing lovemaking.

sailaway8003 55M  
47 posts
10/24/2006 3:43 pm

There are some men who love to give pleasure and there is something wonderful about having a women cum while licking her.

rm_PRH_ONT 58M
1 post
11/10/2006 12:01 pm

you are correct!!!!!

rm_jumper304 58M

11/17/2006 3:58 pm

Please send me an im.. my ===============
So we can get started on the tits f....


12/23/2006 5:47 am

Sweety you just happen to talk with a few men who only think of themselves and always will,there are men out there who love to please and satisy a woman,(me being one of those men), I would take my time and please you in everyway you desire, no limits whatever you like, the turn on is in watching you be satified, or hearing your breathing pick up just before you cum. it's all about you, we can take care of me later. Oh ya ZZTodd, grow some balls man, initiate the conversation of sex, but be witty, take charge when need be, women like a man, not a metro sissy. we need more MEN in this world, and women love men, you don't have to be a caveman, or rude, just take charge and put the women first, they will follow,and that dosen't mean in a controlling dickish way either for anyone who likes to read into things that aren't there.

everlasting779 57M
28 posts
12/30/2006 7:01 pm

Well I think just about everybody told you what you wanted to heat but the fact of the matter is that it always takes two to tango and you just need to find out initially if you meet each others needs by taking things slowly and with feeling

big_gurllover 60M
3 posts
1/2/2007 9:07 am

your right on the money check my blogs and get back to me

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