Who's The Friendliest?  

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8/15/2006 9:07 am

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Who's The Friendliest?

I must have made a BIG enemy! A blogger (who shall be nameless) left some rude comments and then pulled his profile! He was very critical of all of us, not just me, and I didn't appreciate it AT ALL! But it got me thinking about the people I deal with on a daily basis. I work in customer service, do collections, and I'm the Spanish operator for my company. In all the cultures I've dealt with so far, I would have to say that the Spanish speaking customers I've had have got to be the friendliest. They don't care how bad my Spanish is, they just give a friendly laugh and correct me if I say something that makes no sense to them. Some have even taught me some new vocabulary! I'm not here to knock any other culture or background, but these people seem to encompass what we think of by "The American Dream". Most of my customers are trying to become bilingual and some like to "practice" their English skills when they call, so we take turns. They give me their order in English, I respond in Spanish. That way, we BOTH get some practice. With all the immigration headlines recently, especially involving Mexico, I don't know what the answer is, what we should do regarding illegal aliens, how we should proceed. But I DO know that the customers I deal with are honest, hard-working, tax-paying people and I for one am glad to be able to get to know them. What cultures do you deal with? We're a melting pot here, and I guess we are all different cultures, so who has been the friendliest to you? Are you as friendly to them? Do you think the friendly/not friendly issue is cultural or more of a personal thing?

intierzha 43M

8/15/2006 9:59 am

I think it is more personal these days for the most part. That being said, cultural bias is hard to dismiss, even in more enlightened parts of the world. One cannot disdain the immigrant work ethic. We're all immigrants of a sort all over the world. No one land is anyone's home (unless you count the Rift Valley in Africa, purportedly where it all started). Migration has been with us as long as we have been us. Admittedly, I get frustrated at some of the language barriers (mostly because I have not talent for languages), but not as often as I used to. I do get frustrated at the culture of victimization we have created thanks to the media, so that every rebel with a cause (good or ill) is painted as a victim. Of course, that is on a purely political level.

On a personal level, I take everyone I meet as they are, and cultural differences will work themselves out... or they won't. Heck, I can't even get along sometimes with fellow geeks and nerds... but we are kind of territorial

So I guess we simply do what we can.


akron42 replies on 8/15/2006 12:16 pm:
Man, do I agree with you about the supposed victimization of what is really terrorist activity! It gets suppressed in one place for awhile and then shows up somewhere else. Will be ever truly be free of it? I never picture you as a geek-I think you're too enlightened to be classified! Still waiting on that in-depth political post C!

bucknuts1000 57M
30 posts
8/15/2006 10:04 am

Eastern European--hard working, down to earth, empathetic and non judgemental.

akron42 replies on 8/15/2006 10:35 am:
I haven't been lucky enough to meet very many Eastern Europeans, but I'll take your word on it. Ohio seems to be a "friendly" place, don't you think?LOL

rm_gergle775 51M
150 posts
8/15/2006 10:19 am

American Indians... if there were any left...

akron42 replies on 8/15/2006 10:37 am:
Hey Tarzan! Isn't it funny how we conveniently "forget" how we took everything they had? The few that are left are hidden away on the res. Did you get my email? Do you have the key?

kjb5191 45M

8/15/2006 1:48 pm

I'm from Canada, so I'm a polite boy..
The art of kindness and politeness is a lost art.

akron42 replies on 8/15/2006 3:01 pm:
You are so right! Sometimes we treat strangers better than our own families. I didn't know Canuuks were known for their politeness! However, you DO seem very much so!

florallei 99F

8/15/2006 2:15 pm

Hi Hun,

In my Industry I have clients from all over the world. The Europeans, Asians, Native American, East Indian, Latin American...and so on.
The more matriarchal the culture is the more outgoing and friendly they are. The Europeans are friendly but quite reserve for the most part but warm up easily once I have won their trust.
Native Americans prefer me than my other staff. They are very shy and sometimes judged unfairly. They respond to me wonderfully.
The E. Indians are the most frantic I found time and time again. The fights among the female members, ouch!!!
The Italians are so expressive and outgoing.
I can't cover most of the othe cultures but I think it is how we treat them as well that will determine how comfortable they are with us although there are some common traits that do stand out.
My most difficult have been the Middle Eastern culture. I don't know why that is? I had a few staff from that culture and they even dislike their own culture as well. I am not putting them down but they seem unreasonable almost. Okay I am going to recieve a lot of hate mails now. I am just stating facts and my 10 years of dealing with multi cultural clients. Didn't mean to offend anyone.
Sorry for the lengthy answer

akron42 replies on 8/15/2006 2:59 pm:
Hey sweetie, I LOVE lengthy answers! I don't think you're being racist, just honest. I was married to a Middle Easterner and it was really hard. The side of him he showed other people was completely different than the side I got to see. But a different Middle Easterner (different culture and country)that I was engaged to (long story)was totally different. I guess it IS the person and not the culture to SOME degree, but I think culture does play a pretty big part. Maybe we should use our action star status to take the "meanies" down!LOL

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
8/15/2006 3:46 pm

Oh hell Flo, be like me, offend EVERYONE. I think friendliness is a personal thing, but as with the rest of y'all, I find Latinos to be the most outgoing. But who is friendliest of all? Southerners of course! Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

akron42 replies on 8/16/2006 12:03 pm:
You are So right! I love when customers call from the south. Everything is baby this and sweetie that, they treat everyone so nicely! I have to tell you this though, a woman called to place an order and she said she was fro Palette Mountain. Just to make sure, I asked for the spelling of Palette. Her response was "P-I-L-O-T"! I could listen to southerners talk all day!

leegs55 54M

8/15/2006 6:53 pm

can't we all just get along..and cum together!!!

akron42 replies on 8/16/2006 12:04 pm:
That's the best idea I've heard yet! You wanna get things started?LOL

intierzha 43M

8/15/2006 8:39 pm

I just finished one on the politicization of victims in media. Still need to do one about my theater experiences. And you make a good point about geeks. A lot of us don't want to see more than the latest online computer game, sport, or other interest they are currently obsessed with.


akron42 replies on 8/16/2006 12:05 pm:
I'm on my way to check it out!

Eddie5011 42M

8/15/2006 11:58 pm

I have to deal with Dutch and Indian guys with my job and they seem fine. Lots of hand gestures with this though. It's all about tolerance.
Can I just say how hot your picture is, you certainly don't look in your 40's!!! Wow.

akron42 replies on 8/16/2006 12:07 pm:
Boy, did I need to hear that today! How sweet of you to make my day! I agree that it's about tolerance, regardless of where they or WE are from. So glad you chose today to comment, hope you'll be back. Gotta go check out YOUR blog!

Catdoc2000 56M

8/16/2006 4:20 am

I have worked with a wide range of cultures over the years. Can't say that I could pin down traits tied directly to cultures likf flor(she is a sensitive woman while I am just an old farmboy)I think the subject is best summed up by a joke
A guy pulls into a gas station in an old beat up station wagon loaded to the hilt and asks the attendant "What kind of people are around here, I'm looking for a new place to live" The station attendent is cautious and relies "pretty much the same as every where else I guess" The guy presses on "There were allot of mean judgemental people where I came from" The attendent say "We have those here too." The guy starts his car and drives on. About a half hour later another guy stops by in a late model SUV loaded down much like the wagon. He gets out buys a soda and while filling up asks the attendent "What kind of people are around here, I'm looking for a new place to live"
The station attendent is cautious and relies "pretty much the same as every where else I guess" The guy says "well we had some really good people where I came from but I got a job transfer here" The attendent says "there's some good people around here too" The guy got a real estate guide and drove off. In many ways the world is a reflection of ourselves. I'm not saying that we can change the world so easily, just how the world deals with us in day to day matters.

akron42 replies on 8/16/2006 12:09 pm:
You're absolutely right. So many good points have been made in the comments I've received, but I think yours is the most accurate. Alot of what we deal with in life is all about how we choose to proceed. With anger, optimism, hope? Great joke, it really makes the point!

tut1117 72M  
452 posts
8/16/2006 5:31 am

I am a supervisor of a call center, thus when the calls are tranferred to me it seems they would most always be calmed down after ranting and raveing at the agent. Not sure why it happens other than they think I can help them more than the agent, which is not true. I have not noticed it to be cultural.

akron42 replies on 8/16/2006 12:13 pm:
I work in a call center too! The meanest, rudest person I ever had to deal with was American born and raised (he made sure I knew that!). I think I've noticed more friendliness in foreigners simply because for some reason, I expected them NOT to be so friendly. That was definitely a misconception on my part.

bucknuts1000 57M
30 posts
8/16/2006 7:42 am

FYI-my lineage is Eastern European. And yes, I have found Ohio to very friendly since moving here 16 years ago.

akron42 replies on 8/16/2006 12:14 pm:
Well I know how lucky I've been to make so many Ohio friends! BTW, in case I didn't mention it, love the new pic!

Eddie5011 42M

8/16/2006 10:50 pm

"Boy, did I need to hear that today! How sweet of you to make my day! I agree that it's about tolerance, regardless of where they or WE are from. So glad you chose today to comment, hope you'll be back. Gotta go check out YOUR blog!"

You're welcome, it was all true!!

kjb5191 45M

8/17/2006 8:01 pm

i am very polite...you should come to canada for a visit so i can show case the politeness of our fine land!

akron42 replies on 8/20/2006 10:52 am:
The only time I've ever been to Canada was when my son went to Windsor area to buy a game cable. It wasn't going to be available in the US for several months. He ended up in an accident (thankfully he nobody was hurt) and I had to go get him. I'm afraid I wasn't overly friendly to the police there, very unusual for me, but I had driven for 4 hours, not sure where I was going and very upset. They were holding him because he is a US citizen, and I had to pay his fine before they would release him. The ATM in the police station gave me Canadian money, which is larger than ours, and I told the cop "It gave me this really big money, do you accept it?" His reply was "Well, you ARE in Canada!"LOL Maybe you could show me some other Canadian "things"!

playtime44uandi 52M
6545 posts
8/18/2006 1:44 am

Generaly speeking, people from anywhere are friendly on a personal level if you are friendly too. Its when govenments get involved that it all seems to get screwed up.

~We'll Leave The Light On~

akron42 replies on 8/20/2006 10:53 am:
You are so right! I think government should stay out of alot of things!

kjb5191 45M

8/18/2006 2:34 pm

    Quoting leegs55:
    can't we all just get along..and cum together!!!
leggs, you're so correct with that comment!!!

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