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absolutelynormal 56F
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3/22/2006 6:23 pm

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My daughter called me today. She was crying. Her dad has been in the hospital for a week. He has to have surgery tomorrow. Seems he has an abscess in his colon and may end up with a temporary colostomy. She was near hysteria. I finally got her calmed down enough to where I could understand what she was saying. My ex and I are on good terms. I called him to see how he really was. He sounds like shit. I have known the man for 31 years and I've never heard him sound like that. She wants to come home, it's her spring break and it's not like she would be missing any school. He won't let her. I'm scared. I am afraid he's going to die. I get bad feelings about people and when I do they are usually right on target. Like I was at work last week, had a bad feeling about my mom, called her and she'd just had a wreck. Some of them come to me in dreams. I am not in love with my ex, but I do still care about him. I love my babies and they would just be crushed if something happened to their daddy. I feel incredibly helpless. There is absolutely nothing I can do. When I spoke to him, I wanted to go to the hospital and do something, I have no idea what. He's not at the hospital where I work. The Birmingham area has 14 hospitals. OK, I'm through whining now. Mac

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
3/22/2006 7:12 pm

I'm sorry you have to go through this...I KNOW what it's like to be the caretaker and calming force, while facing your own fears and worries, I'm in the middle of it right now myself.

Take good care, and you can e-mail me if you want or need to.

lustytaurus


absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
3/22/2006 7:18 pm

awww, aren't you sweet!!! (((LT)))


docdirk 47M

3/22/2006 7:44 pm

That sucks! My bro-in-law has had recurring bouts with diverticulitis. He had the bag after each procedure. It is painful and tough to recover from, but he is as good as new now. It's good that your ex is taking the steps necessary to treat his condition. You must feel so helpless at the moment. You will be in my thoughts, along with your daughter and ex.

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...


absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
3/22/2006 7:48 pm

Thanks JJ .... there's a son too, but that's ok, you didn't know. Mac


rm_bigchoklatdk 45M

3/22/2006 8:16 pm

Pray 4 him ...I will to!
Holla.


absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
3/23/2006 4:04 am

Thanks Bigchoklatdk. Appreciate it mac


absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
3/23/2006 5:16 pm

Thank you for all of your kind words. I spoke to my daughter earlier and the surgery went well. He made it through OK. Still not completely out of the woods yet, hopefully the antibiotics will work now that the major source of the infection is gone. Also hopefully he doesn't have a drug resistant bug. : ) MAc


ProtonicMan 47M

3/24/2006 6:13 pm

(((HUGS))) for Mac.

Hang in there. He, your kids, and you will all get through everything just fine.

I'm glad to hear the surgery went well. The recovery afterward can be as miserable as the illness.

TJ


absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
3/24/2006 8:01 pm

Update. Talked to my daughter again today. He had the surgery yesterday as I already said but no one told her anything about the colostomy. He had to have it and it's supposed to be temporary and will be reversed in a few months. He remains in ICU, not sure what that's about. There's so much she (the new Mrs.) wont tell my daughter because she's afraid it'll scare her. I could call but then I would have to talk to the new Mrs. and she hates my guts... why I don't know, never been antying but nice to her. Anyway, thank you for all the kind words and thoughts Mac


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