absolutelynormal 56F
6016 posts
4/16/2006 10:04 pm

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7/17/2007 8:40 pm


Those of you who read my blog on pretty much a daily basis know that I pulled the post of yesterday off. I kept rereading it, I also got caught up in other people's pain. I have a tendency to want to help, but I can't. I won't take responsibility for bringing up other people's pain. Each person is responsible for their own emotions, however I did not mean to be inflammatory at all.

Talking about pain can be good, obsessing over it can be bad. That's what I was doing.

Holidays can be a bad time for anyone, they are especially terrible for those of us who are estranged from our families.

When I posted what I did, I thought that in doing so it might help other people find their voice. I thought that perhaps I could be support for them and vice-versa. I'm not strong enough to do this, hearing about your pain would only bring up visions of mine. If any of you are struggling with abuse issues, please seek professional help. I do care about everyone involved in that blog posting and many who weren't involved, please don't think I do not care. I play a therapist many times at work, I don't need to be one where I play too. Thanks for understanding, Mac

ProtonicMan 47M

4/16/2006 10:22 pm

I play a therapist many times at work, I don't need to be one where I play too.

Wise words, Mac. I'm glad you know yourself well enough to know what you need, and I'm even happier that you respect yourself enough to follow through on getting it.

No apologies necessary: This is YOUR blog. That means YOU get to control what goes in, stays in, or comes out.

You know where to reach me if you want to chat.



absolutelynormal replies on 4/16/2006 11:24 pm:
Thanks TJ. I have trouble setting boundaries, so this shall be a test for me. Mac

rm_yukonpaul 51M
1120 posts
4/17/2006 12:51 am

I avoid thinking about my pain or the things that I associate with those events.

Happy Easter!

absolutelynormal replies on 4/17/2006 7:24 am:
I believe tha avoiding pain is natural, Facing your fears is somsething different and something I must do. Thanks, Mac

Dark_Cat_MCMLXXV 41M
290 posts
4/17/2006 6:34 am

You are strong and wise and pain taker. I think people just wanted you to know that you are not alone in your grief and pain.

Nice words, my dear Mac!


absolutelynormal replies on 4/17/2006 7:27 am:
As I wanted them to know that they are not alone either.I am sure this subject will come up again. I am angry and I am grieving, misery loves company. I'm trying hard to escape my funk and get back to "normal."

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