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mistakes WOMEN make in bed !!!
mistakes WOMEN make in bed !!!
ok i seen another post about the mistakes men make during sex (thank goodness i passed the quiz he he ) so i thought turnabout is fair play , although there is really only 5 i could come up with for now ... but it is monday
1. We don't know enough about sex ‒ or his bits
'She goes all giggly and girly whenever I try to talk to her about how to touch and excite me. She thinks it's cute but I find it insulting that not only wouldn't she have the first clue about how my penis works, she's got no interest in finding out.'
He's right ‒ you do need to know some basic anatomy. While it's true that what worked with Barry won't necessarily work with Brian, our genitals are all wired up the same way and most of us have the same hot spots. Sex is a bit like typing. We can all sit down in front of a computer keyboard and bash something out using two fingers. But you're never going to be as good as the person who uses 10 and took the touch-typing course. Buy a good sex book and study it. Once you've got the basic biology figured, combine it with 'field research' ‒ touching and testing the areas that are meant to feel good when stimulated ‒ and you're bound to be a better lover than the girl who's stuck at the point-and-giggle-at-his-dangly-bits stage
2. We expect men to be mind-readers.
'I asked if she'd had an orgasm and she said no. I asked her why and she said 'Because I felt like oral sex and you didn't give me any. If you really loved me, you'd have known that was what I wanted'.
Sorry girls but again, I'm on his side. Expecting your lover to second-guess your every desire is rubbish. Just because someone knows you well and wants to please you, doesn't mean they suddenly have access to a crystal ball. Plenty of women think their lover comes equipped with an amazing radar which allows him to know exactly what she's in the mood for at that exact moment with absolutely no input from her. Well, speak up or forever lie back and think of England.
3. We only seem to like sex at the beginning. Once the relationship is serious, we lose interest.
'It's been the same with every girlfriend I've ever had. They're all over you in the beginning but stop wanting it at all once you've been together for a while.'
Some guys think it means we're just not interested in sex at all. We fake it in the beginning until we've 'got him', then drop the act. I think there's a far less sinister and more logical reason to explain it. Women get bored with sex if it becomes predictable. And if we're bored, it's hard for us to orgasm because we need a lot more mental and physical stimulation than he does to topple us over the edge.
I admit, it's not the healthiest of attitudes but it is understandable. Most people wouldn't dream of sitting down to the same meal every single night of their life yet most couples follow the same routine every single time they have sex. Vary just one thing every time you have sex. It might be a different position. A new room. The lights on or off. You might be dressed, half-dressed or completely naked. Music on, music off. It's easy! It takes little imagination but works wonders.
4. We leave it all up to him.
'Q: What's the difference between making love to your long-term girlfriend and eating a bowl of spaghetti? A: At least the spaghetti moves so you know it's alive.'
Some women think it's not only his job to initiate sex, it's his job to do all the work during it as well. You want to be able to be the boss in the boardroom? Well, take some responsibility in the bedroom as well. It's a cop out to expect him to do everything while you just lie there. Take the lead by seducing him occasionally. You take control during foreplay. You jump on top of him for intercourse, rather than the other way around. If you want to really impress him, initiate sex when he least expects it (anytime except when you're both turning in for the night).
5. We're too paranoid about our bodies to enjoy sex.
'She hates side-by-side sex because it makes her tummy look fat. She won't get on top because she's worried her breasts will look funny. She won't even go to the loo unless I promise not to look at her bottom.'
Most men aren't as fussy about body shape as we think they are. The truth is ‒ and it's been proven over and over again ‒ our idea of a perfect body isn't his. A few extra pounds (which mean the world to us), add the curves that men find really sexy. They don't think 'fat' and 'lumpy'. They think soft, warm, female and voluptuous. If you're jumping into bed worried about your body, it stands to reason your sex life will suffer. In a US survey, women with a positive body image said they had orgasms 73 percent of the time. Self-conscious women reached orgasm only 42 percent of the time. Sex is all about what's happening inside, not outside. If you're desperately trying to suck your stomach in, you're not mentally tuning into being turned on. Being a good lover is about feeling confident. Feel sexy and you'll be it!
7/31/2006 7:37 pm
Two books that might help a lot of people, who are otherwise too afraid to ask....
"The Woman Comes First" ALL MEN (Who want to become better lovers)
SHOULD READ THIS BOOK !!
"The Man Comes Second" I haven't read it, but since it's written
by the same author, I assume it's good too.
I have no ties to either book, but found the first one to be an interesting read, a unique approach to making love to a woman, and helpful. So swallow your ego/pride men and get reading !!
8/1/2006 2:19 am
hey - have you been reading my mind!!!|
8/1/2006 8:21 am
mmm - wondered why my nipples suddenly peaked for no reason. must have been when you were rooting in my recesses!!!|