Try me  

aascrompn 42M
6957 posts
5/10/2006 8:57 am

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Try me

The other night, last Thursday, an aquaintance of mine got very drunk and very high. I was at the bar (home away from home), and he started in on me about rumors.

He came up to me w/ concerns about a rumor that I don't like him and that I called him lame. I told him that wasn't the case, but it was before I took the time to get to know him. He said that he couldn't believe I would do something like that and just kept going on and on about it. I was getting really frustrated w/ him, as he's a touchy feely kinda guy and he kept putting his hand on my shoulder. He stands about 6 inches taller than me (most people do) and it just got on my nerves. I told him that I didn't like the way the conversation was going and that if he wasn't going to believe that the conversation was over. I walked away from him. This was really a very good thing for me to do.

I have a thing about me that I like to take care of problems when they occur. Usually, I would've yelled at him, or pushed him off of me, but I didn't. I would consider him a friend, although a new one so the trust factor still isn't established yet. So, I decided since he was drunk and high, it was best that I just walk away from him. So, I walked.

He followed me over to a group of people that we both know. I was trying to avoid all communication with him, as he was just being obnoxious. My best friend came over to clear some of the table off. As she was leaving, this guy says to the group, "She's being a real bitch lately". I then reminded him, politely, that we were best friends and that I didn't appreciate his comment. He then proceeded to say it again later in the middle of his explanation about the time that she cut him off. I told him that I wasn't going to listen to him any longer if he didn't quit calling her that. I tried my very best to not be an asshole (still a work in progress over the last year). So, I continued to listen. He then states, "Just b/c she's having personal problems w/ her boyfriend, that's no reason for her to be a cunt". At that moment, all bets were off! I lunged at him and grabbed him by his throat! He tried to get my hand off him, but everytime he moved, my grip got harder. I finally had three of my friends grab me from behind and two grabbed him. He tried to lunge at me, but was pushed about 5 feet to the side from my best friend's boyfriend.

I really love the fact that I did everything that I could to separate myself from him initially. I love the fact that I'm protective over my friends. What I don't love, however, is the fact that I always resort to violence when I feel myself or my friends threatened. I know there has to be another way, but I just snapped.

There is another blogger here in Atlanta that prides himself on the fact that he's never been in a scuffle. I would love to be able to say that. I'm getting tired of being confrontational. My grandmother is the sweetest person you'll ever meet. She can honestly say there is damn near nobody that she doesn't like. I would love to have that attitude. I want to very badly, but something always triggers me. I hate being that guy. I hate that people push me to these things (or better yet, that I give them enough power to affect me the way they do).

Do you try to be a better person? Do you try to get along with everyone?

mycin62 54F

5/10/2006 9:01 am

I ALWAYS try to be a better person and I ALWAYS try to get along with everyone.

BUT, some people are just ASSHOLES and there is no getting along with them!

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:44 am:
Drunk assholes are the worst!

PassionKisses4Me 44F

5/10/2006 9:38 am

I try to be nice to every one...even if I don't like them I just but on a smile and get away as fast as I can...but there have been a few times when I have cussed some one for being an ass...but that's about it



aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:45 am:
You seem to handle it well!

twirly_girl 47F

5/10/2006 9:45 am

Not sure if you saw this 3 posts ago...
But if ya don't want to do it, let me know.
I'll find another "victim". Hehe

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elbman 41M  
2566 posts
5/10/2006 9:54 am

People are afraid to hit 3'1" people...cause they know I'll fall down on the floor....ball up and make a scene....then some big guy will come along and say "who hurt you little man?"....and I'll point and they'll get their ass whooped.....either that or I'll climb up on a barstool and jump off on their head.

You know my dispostion.....never escalate a situation higher than it already is.....words return words.....never throw the first punch but always throw the last.

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:46 am:
You are a scrapy little bastard!

That's just it... there words piss me off to the point of going at them first.

sexymamma662003 31F

5/10/2006 10:12 am

i am the type of person who avoids confertation at all costs. but there has been been a few times were i have been backed into a corner and came out swinging. i think if anyone no matter how hard they try is pushed hard enough will snap.

good for you for defending your firend and not joining in when the guy was calling her those names. that was very good of you


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:46 am:
Thank you! I'm glad that you see it my way.

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
5/10/2006 11:57 am

I think I try, but it's the way that I try that's different from how I would have tried it a couple of decades ago. Man, this is gonna be hard to explain. It's like I try to work it from the inside or something. So it turns out not to be so much about the way I act towards you, but more about how much compassion/understanding I have when I see you. Not you, personally, lol, I mean in general.

My success rate at this, incidentally, is running about 60/40, with the scale slightly tipped to doing it right.

Incidentally, (and I know this wasn't the point of the post) this is one of the reasons I no longer drink or get high, or spend much time with people WHILE they are shit faced drunk.

(truth in disclosure: yes, every few years, when the right opportunity presents itself, I will break down and get high. and then paranoid as hell, lol)

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:51 am:
Ya, dealing while under the influence makes it very bad. This is USUALLY when I get wrapped up into these things. My drinking is severely down over the last 3 weeks. I do find myself becoming a bit more mello.

bardicman 50M

5/10/2006 12:10 pm

Fuck you ya little bastard. How about I come whip your ass right now.

I am not dead yet

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:51 am:
Ya, right!

bardicman 50M

5/10/2006 12:13 pm

oh weight, I just remembered you were working out.

Yes I try to be nice to everyone.

I am not dead yet

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:52 am:
LOL - glad your could recognize... holla!

hornylilgirl78 105F

5/10/2006 1:10 pm

I'm pretty easygoing, and I do tend to get along with everyone. And if someone starts after me personally, I will just walk away. But I do have a line that if they cross it, I'm a female tazmanian devil and they will be destroyed. Typically it's triggered when they won't back off of something to do with my friends or family.

Luckily only two people have ever pissed me off that much. But it takes a LOT to do that.


"As kinky as a cheap garden hose!"

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 9:53 am:
Remind me not to do that!! I'll bet you would beat my ass! mmm - that could be fun.

EroticaXTC 49F

5/10/2006 3:17 pm

I think you did well to avoid the confrontation as long as you did...It's really super hard to ignore a drunken asshole, I think that most people would find it tough to completely ignore one. You certainly can't reason with one. I think that you probably reacted finally because no one else seemed like they were.
I try to avoid confrontations when I can, but sometimes there comes a day when the limit is reached. As we grow older, I think we lose some of the rough and readiness. Don't feel too badly, this too shall pass.

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 10:17 am:
Yes, I reacted b/c he and she don't obviously get along and nobody else was defending her.

I have lost a lot of my temper, but this asshole just raised my blood pressure.


5/10/2006 7:10 pm

I have never been in a fight.. But I think if i ever got that mad.. watch out.. I may let out somthing that has been building up for the past up-teen yrs or so..
I think you handled your self as well as you could ... There nothing worse then having a sloppy drunk next to you with a bad attitude using you to hold him up..

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aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 10:18 am:
Thanks! I still love your pic!!

MyRealLoverOne 46M

5/10/2006 7:53 pm

Yes...I try to get along with everyone....even little pussy shits like you...I just don't think it pays to be rude puke boy! I think you did the right thing pussy boy! If I was as little as you....I would avoid fighting too....It's good to know that there are good hearted little fuckers like you still runnin around.

Good job Ass-crawlin!!!

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 10:20 am:
Yes, we munchkins do like to protect you bigger folk.

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
5/10/2006 10:23 pm

You can't get along with everyone matter what you do...especially when they're drunk or high. I've got no problem with what you did. I guess the one difference between us is I'm 6'3" tall and weigh 240 lbs...reasonably fit lbs. Consequently, I'm big enough and intimidating enough that when I tell someone to "Fuck off" they usually do without much fuss.


aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 10:22 am:
Ya, I tell them to fuck off and they just laugh... right up until i actually wrap up with them.

EyeCandy33333 44F
761 posts
5/11/2006 12:07 am

Well I AM a pussy-right lol(looking down yep that's what is down there)-I don't get into fights-normally I don't snap-but I will try to verbally defend a friend or loved one-but depends upon the situation-because you can't talk to alcohol or drugs very well-so it's probably best to leave it alone.

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 10:23 am:
I don't think you're a pussy... well, let me look...

alphuctup 40M

5/11/2006 3:56 am

When I was 17, still a boy really I got into a fight with a guy older and bigger than me. I hit him, I think the fear and adrenaline put a lot of power in it 'cos he went straight down. I felt the colour drain from my face, cold sweat, felt sick, I thought I'd killed him or at least seriously hurt him, it genuinely terrified me.

That experience and thinking about the potential consequences made me think a lot about self control.

Imagine you'd hit that fella in the bar and killed him.

aascrompn replies on 5/11/2006 10:24 am:
It sure would suck to kill someone, but that's just why I grabbed his throat.

impish_pixie 54F
6867 posts
5/15/2006 8:43 pm

I try to believe that everyone has a bit of good in them...but honestly Aas...I kinda applaud you for your actions there. I am not a fighter, (unles of course you come after my kids, my parents, or my dog), but if someone called my best friend a cunt...I'd probably do the same thing you did. You're working on it...and that in itself if progress.

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn

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