People Who Motivate You  

aascrompn 42M
6957 posts
6/21/2006 7:59 am

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People Who Motivate You

I have to come clean here. About two years ago, I went through a pretty nasty breakup. Many of you know about already, but I’ll do a quick recap. We were engaged for 3 years and had lived together for 4. Nearing the end of the relationship, I started growing weary of her antics (not coming home, not calling, not picking the phone up when I called concerned for her, etc). I knew the end was coming. I knew something drastic had to change.

My ex had always been a little self conscience. Even though she had guys drooling over her every night and feeding her money hand over fist (she was a stripper) she never felt as if she were all that hot. She honestly thought it was b/c of her personality (which I’m sure did help some). She was a really nice stripper and would actually remember names and life stories of these guys. She actually cared about them as people and perceived some of them as “friends”.

In the end, her drug habit was soaring out of control. I felt she was doing this b/c of her lack of self-esteem. For Christmas, I bought us both a gym membership to get back into shape. I was just about 28 pounds out of shape, and she needed to really gain muscle size, as she just couldn’t keep losing the weight. I thought this might bring her out of her drug habit, as she would be focusing on something positive, rather than hanging w/ her crew. She chose not to. I continued on and lost 28 pounds of fat.

After I lost all of that weight, I took a long break; one year to be exact. This was after our breakup. During this time period, I didn’t put any weight back on. I, as a matter of fact, was still losing weight. My metabolism was still racing and I was only eating once per day (very bad for you). However, I wasn’t really where I wanted to be as far as muscle is concerned. My waist line had dropped from a 33, going up to 34, down to that of a 28.

During my sabbatical, I saw some movies that really motivated me to get back into the gym and start trying to build the body that I’ve always wanted. I saw XXX, with Vin Diesel, and Troy. These movies really pissed me off! I liked the absolute respect that Vin’s body demanded from the sheer size of him. He’s not the best actor, but he’s not too bad. Troy pissed me off, b/c of Brad Pit. If he was able to gain that size, with that much definition, why couldn’t I? I pondered this for a couple of months. These were the two motivators that drove me back to the gym. Obviously, I also wanted to look my best in order to attract women.

I’m nowhere close to where I want to be physically speaking, but I’m the closest I’ve been since I was in the military. My size is twice of what I was when I served, but my body fat percentage is higher as well. Since I started working out 6 weeks ago, I’ve lost approximately 6 pounds. Some will say that’s great, but I didn’t want to lose weight. I wanted to maintain my weight and just lose body fat. It’s really no big deal. I think it would’ve been impossible for me to hold 172 pounds, at 5’7” w/out having to resort to roids. I’m not about to do that!

What motivators inspired you to act? What did they inspire you to act on? Did it work for you??


rm_thepav 47M
278 posts
6/21/2006 11:52 am

I would have to say that when I work out it would be for many of the same reasons which you have described and I have recently got back into it. In the last month and a half maybe I went from a 33 to 30 inch waist and I eat 3 meals a day, but healthier than I was eating before so, stress possibly is a role in that sudden drop though I don't think I've lost any muscle mass at all, just fat. Like you, I was motivated by a break up and was honest with myself: If I wanted to attract a certain type of woman then I would be an ass to not see that I had to be what she would want as well. And to be even more honest as to motivation LOL I would have to quote Kevin Spacey from American Beauty. "I just want to look good naked."


TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
6/22/2006 8:07 am

I admire you for making a plan and sticking with it. Good for you! As you know muscle is heavier than fat so for you to be losing weight you must be really working out well.
I think ultimately we have to be our own self-motivators...although close friends and family do help.
Good for you, you must feel pretty good about yourself.


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