aascrompn 42M
6957 posts
5/26/2006 7:45 am

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It truly amazes me how bloggers act. Of course, I'm only speaking generally when I write this, but it truly does show how people try to avoid conflict.

Yesterday's post of mine, in my opinion, was pretty profound. I can't believe that people are so worried about making other people happy on the blogs, that they don't step up and actually comment, whether they agree with me or not. I guess this is human nature. I guess it goes back to what our mothers taught most of us; if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all. I would normally agree with this, but the girl that I was defending didn't deserve what she was dealt and I was simply trying my best her.

Humans are never, ever always going to get along. Humans always will want what's best for themselves. Sure, we are here to support each other's thoughts, get a laugh, rant, flirt, etc, but should we also not be here to defend the friends that we've made along the way?

My blog started off to be really honest. Whether the honesty was real or not, to me, is unknown. Fantastic blogger, also from Atlanta, seriously_real always told me the key to blogging is to Dr. Phil it. "Keep it real". However, he was also one to admit that at the time that he was "keeping it real", his reality was skewed to fit his desires. I believe that I've kept my real. I believe that I've been very up front about my achievements and fall backs from the blogs and my personal life. I have been an open book for all to read. I really don't have an interesting life, I'm just open about how boring my life truly is.

What I want from my readers, is to also be real. I want to read that you think I'm an ass when I am. I also want for you to agree and have a pair of balls to maybe go against the grain when it's time to do so. Maybe this is what my problem is? I'm VERY fast to fight when it comes to defending my friends or myself when I feel that there is an attack coming on. I'm quick to fight, which I'm not proud of. Yesterday I got, maybe for the first time on my blog, a little aggresive. This is what I do. My friend was threatened and I bucked up and ruffled feathers. It amazes me there were not more people to support what I believed was the fair and just thing to do.

I'm not here for numbers. I'm not here to comment whore (most of the time). I'm here to say what I think. I'm here to throw onto this aging monitor (which should now truly be a flat screen) what is pissing me off or bringing me joy, etc... What are you here for? Are you here to do nothing but give *hugs* all day, or are you really here to read and discuss topics, stories, thoughts, etc?

AAS ~ Trying to keep it real...

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
5/26/2006 8:58 am

Keep Dr. Feelin it baby Hugs all day are boring.

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:32 am:
I'd rather send licks myself...

pretty_blue_eyes 38F
2091 posts
5/26/2006 9:08 am

Well, I didn't read your previous blog so I might go and check it out. Also, nothing wrong with defending your friends. No one likes to see a friend being abused, wronged, or hurt. It just goes to show that you care about your friend. Careful on being to aggressive though, could rush into things. Hmmmm...I don't have a pair of balls, sorry! I must agree though, humans will never get along, they will always come up with different ways to "better" themselves and who cares who they hurt or step on along the way.

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:32 am:
Could rush into things? What do you mean by that?

whats4dessert2 49M

5/26/2006 9:16 am


AAS I think that your post was nobel and showed true friendship toward someone that you care about.

On the flipside, I don't know you or Tab and haven't had any one one conversations with either of you so I can't possibly have a clear understanding of the situation.

However, that said, as an observer I can truly say that yesterday's post showed a depth of selfless caring on your part and I have done similar posts myself. You showed yourself to be a true friend.

On the flipside though, even though the only interaction I've ever had with Tabs is reading her blog, it seems to me she's a very strong lady and took the battle on quite well herself. My only concern was that in your rush to do the right thing you brought attention to a situation, and a moron, that Tabitha may not have wanted.

For all I know you cleared your post with her first and everything was cool. I don't know.

All I can say is that noble people are sometimes hard to find and it's nice to know that there are a few left. My only concern is that you be careful that as you charge into battle you don't step on a landmine and hurt yourself or those close to you that you are trying to defend and protect

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:35 am:
Thank you!

She is an extremely strong lady. She could've, and did, handle it the way that she wanted. I did get her permission before I posted what I did.

You do bring up very good advice about rushing into battle... I will try to be more careful in the future, but I still am happy for what I did. This guy needed to be pointed out.

alphuctup 40M

5/26/2006 9:23 am

Hmmmm you're an interesting fella!

I'm a non-blogger and I've only started visiting the blogs fairly recently so I suppose I do tend to try to behave myself; I read with interest, comment where I see fit, and chuck in the odd one-liner on the rare occasion that I actually think of something funny to say.

Personally I'm not about to start chucking my weight around or getting involved in stuff that's none of my business. However, if it's brutal honesty you crave then I'll do my best to oblige when responding to your posts.

Regarding yesterday's events, matey sounds to me like a prize cock who could do with a slap. Before anyone mentions terms of use I'd like to point out that I'm not threatening or encouraging others to threaten violence, I'm merely suggesting that there are folk out there who, as strange as it sounds, may actually benefit from a good kickin!

The only other thing I wish to say at this time is if that's your cat then you have one ugly pussy sweetheart.

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:37 am:
I actually thought that you had a blog, with as much as you hang around... lol - Why don't you start one?

You've always left me very nice and funny comments.

I'm in full agreement about the violence. That is, unfortunately, the only way that some people can learn.

rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
5/26/2006 9:23 am

Aas, your passion on this is undeniable and admirable.
The frustration you feel regarding a lack of response to your post is understood, yet has in my opinion, absolutely nothing to do with you. There are simply occasions where better sense dictates that I do not insert myself where I do not belong. A bunch of phrases keep flyin through my head here which pertain to why I for one did not comment, a few of which are;
Keep your head low
Pick your battles (with 4 kids, I use this one alot)
Don't add fuel to the fire
To summarize, you state that you are fast to fight when defending your friends, again that is admirable, but simply put... it wasn't my fight so I stayed out of it.
ger (just keepin it real as requested)

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:39 am:
Pick your battles is a good one. It's a very wise statement. I'm at least glad to know that people actually read it. That's really all that I was concerned about. I should've looked at the number of times it was read, instead of how many comments were left.

jadedbabe78 105F

5/26/2006 10:23 am

Do you ever stop and think.....some people (at least myself) don't comment if we have nothing to say?? I, for one, have stopped commenting just for the sake to comment. Frankly, I'm at the point where I just don't care. If I have something to say, I'll say it.'s silence for me. I read your last post and had nothing to say. I didn't agree nor disagree with it. Do what you want, it's your perogative.

All hugs?? Fuck that.

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:39 am:
You just don't care?? You are sounding a little bitter about something... wussup?

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
5/26/2006 12:03 pm

I am here to meet and talk with great people like you sweetie

Purry {=}


aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:40 am:
Ok, now that calls for a hug! *hugs*

frangipanigal 44F
10406 posts
5/26/2006 4:29 pm

Tabs had her own post about it. I wrote my comments there since it was her situation she is going through.

You know I call you an arse when I think you are being one. I'd hug you(occasionally), but you too far away.

What am I here me soetimes and today is one of those times...

Frangi x

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:41 am:
I'm sure she appreciated your support!

lol - virtual hugs are good too, they just seem to get out of hand

Knot4Everyone 40F

5/26/2006 4:30 pm

I hang around the blogs for a couple of reasons. I post on my blog when I want to share events and/or thoughts with all of you. My posts aren't filled with Nobel Prize winning material, they are more like journal entries. Why blog instead of keeping a journal? Because I like hearing what others have to say - their thoughts and experiences. I read the blogs of many other members, and comment on them when I have something to add. I don't generally comment just for the sake of commenting. I think that people are fascinating, it's that simple.

As for your post yesterday, I simply didn't know what to say. I know of tabithaelectra79, but I don't know her. I don't know they stalker guy you were talking about, either. That's why I didn't leave more of a comment - it's none of my business. From your post it does sound like she could be in trouble, and I commend you for standing up for her (and warning all the other women of Blogville). That's admirable. However, since I do not know either of the people your post was about, I prefer to stay out of it. If she wants my help or advice then I'd be more than willing to help however I could, but the request would have to come from her.

Stay true, Dr. Aas. I hope all works out for your friend...

aascrompn replies on 5/28/2006 7:09 am:
I, too, find that I like what others have to contribute to my thoughts, rants, etc... It really is adictive.

I'm glad that you at least found the post to be interesting. She really just didn't deserve it.

I'll stay true.

cathy20076 47F

5/26/2006 8:35 pm

Well I have read some of your blogs and I think you are right to keep it real. Yours was the first blog I ever came across. I didn't know what one was. I write now, partly thanks to you. I think you are getting into shape with those workouts! I think you should lighten up a little bit for your own benefit. But it's great you stand up for what your believe in. Thanks!


aascrompn replies on 5/28/2006 7:10 am:
Again, I'm very happy to have influenced somebody. LOL - That's a scary thought, but hey, if it got you writing, great!

I should lighten up a bit... hmmm. interesting choice of words.

bipolybabe 54F

5/26/2006 8:35 pm say you're depressed and want a genuine relationship. Instead you blogabout other bloggers. And stalkers who may or may not be real.

I got no time for wankers. Blog and be real. Yeah!

But, if you want a real life it requires stepping into the real world.

I'm going to stop watching your blog until you get more interesting problems. Let me know when you're ready to stop whining about not having a relationship.


Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!

aascrompn replies on 5/28/2006 7:25 am:
This is going to be fun.

I say I am depressed. No, I don't feel as if I've said that, but I could be wrong. I'm depressed about situations, not as a permanant state of emotional being.

I blog about other boggers. Who cares? Didn't know it would offend you, but really, to be honest with you, could care less if it does or not.

You've got no time for wankers. Good. I'm glad that you are that busy in life that your time is held in high regard.

If I want a real life it requires that I step into the real world? Just what the fuck are you talking about? Let's analyze this for a second. You are a gold member, such as myself. This means that you are just as desperate to find what you are looking for as I. What do you know about me and RL? The fact is that you don't know a damn thing about me, except for what you read. I live and step out into RL everyday.

You are going to stop watching my blog until I get more interesting problems. Ok, fine! What are you looking for? Would you like for me to plead with you? Fuck that!

What I admire about what you write is that you are telling me what you feel and it seems as if it is coming from the heart. What you are lacking to leave out are some basic facts leading to your bitter attitde about me and my blog. Since you've decided to make this public on MY blog, instead of your blog, I will be more than happy to reply here. The fact is this. You hit on me some time ago, via email. I realized that you lived in California, were half of what I was looking for, so I respectfully declined your advances. Since then, I guess you've gotten into blogging. You lurked around my blog and would drop a comment here and there. You seem to be an alright person, but I think that you are bitter for my lack of reciprocating advances and blog efforts.

I'm going to make this really easy for you. Don't you EVER come to my blog and call me a whiner! If you don't like what you are reading, go away. It's that simple. Your up and down levels of happiness makes me believe that your handle is hinting at the possibility of being bipoler. This would make sense in how much you flux with your level of interest in me. Do me a favor. Do not ever return to my blog. However, should you want to, be ready for what you get in return!

Lastly, where do you get off suggesting that my problems are less than yours? What I percieve to be a problem may not be considered one to you, but it's only my perception that counts! Let me know when you actually find a date... lol - Go away.

ArtisticTwist75 41F
2505 posts
5/27/2006 1:22 pm

AAS - I would hope that someone would step up and do what you did, if I was the women in question. I avoid conflict due to my reserved nature but I am always here to discuss... to be challenged... to challenge in return... and give the occasional Monster Hug when warranted... Do you need one?


aascrompn replies on 5/28/2006 7:32 am:
You know what, no I don't, but it's awefully nice of you to be so supportive! She could use one, however.

EyeCandy33333 44F
761 posts
5/28/2006 12:24 am

I am here because I haven't been on much lately and I have strept throat-can barely talk(add that to speaking softly and people can't hear me well)-I am feeling poorly.
I think it's ok to defend a friend-to pat them on the back-maybe when I feel better I'll blog a little more but darling it's also pool time so I'm hitting that and the sun when possible-oh do I wish for a better fence-well for privacy-we know what I'd be doing then!
Oh well-take the antibiotics and drink the fluids-woopee-and it's a holiday weekend!

aascrompn replies on 5/28/2006 7:33 am:
I'm sorry to hear about having strep. I had it a couple of months ago and can admit that it's no fun at all! Maybe you could explain what you'd be doing with that private fence... Hope you feel better, sweety!

bipolybabe 54F

5/28/2006 8:00 am

I was speaking from the heart. I would like to help you find a relationship that works for you.

But, what I meant to question is whether you truly want a relationship or if what you're really attached to is being depressed and a big whiny baby writing about it. (It's hard to convey tone in writing, but I belong to the "brass knuckles" school of life and sex coaching.)

I wrote to you a while back because I thought you were kinda cute. (Actually, I'd forgotten about that!) Since then, I've discovered through trial and error that I don't have any interest in long-distance "relationships." They're not real and grounded in direct experience of the person and how we relate on a day-to-day basis.

Everyone is different, and I'm not looking for an ideal man who may or may not exist, but I know I'm looking for something real, solid and fun.

I thought you might want something genuine when you wrote about building a life, home ownership, etc. I thought, "He wants partnership with a woman. Cool! I'd like to help him do that if he's not just wanking about it."

So, again I make an offer from the heart based on wanting to help you find what you're looking for. I genuinely wish to have people find the sex and relationships that their hearts desire.

You are also welcome to tell me to go fuck myself (which I do very well) and that you're doing fine just as you are. And, I won't take offense.


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bipolybabe 54F

5/28/2006 9:46 am

Oh, one more thing.

I apologize for posting my offer for its assistance with its smack upside the head on your blog. It would have been more appropriate to email you privately.

I did not intend to create a pissing match, only to poke and provoke you a little to look at your own behavior in creating your situation. Our "relationship"--yours and mine--was not large enough to accomodate my bluntness. That was my error.

For that, I apologize.


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alphuctup 40M

5/30/2006 1:16 am

I actually thought that you had a blog, with as much as you hang around... lol - Why don't you start one?

I've thought about it, at the moment I'm trying to decide primarily whether my interest in this will remain at it's current level but also whether I would actually produce anything worthwhile.

SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
5/30/2006 8:43 am

Honestly, I am so far out of the loop on most of this stuff, by the time I read something and comment on it, everything has died down and gone on it's merry way. So mostly What I say, although not profound nor confrontational is very meek and meager is what I think or feel about the situation as a whole. I don't know your friend and am still getting to know you, so for me to run to the front battle lines in her defense next to you seemed a bit ... let's say ... impulsive. Instead, I give my opinion and hope that all works out for the best. Because I am still getting to know you and hope that we can be good friends rather than acquaintances, I let you know that I support your decsions, even ifI don't necessarily agree with them. Other than that, I felt that this was not a battle I was prepared to fight. And you can't fight a battle and win without passion for the war. I hope that explained my stance on the situation and any future ones that may arise ...


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