Growth  

aascrompn 42M
6957 posts
6/22/2006 8:37 am

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10/18/2006 7:40 am

Growth

I think I have been on this site since October of ’05. During my time here, I’ve seen many people come and go. I’ve seen local women and couples disappear, only to reappear a couple of months later. I’ve seen many bloggers come and go. Some of the bloggers needed to go, while others made me feel as if I would truly be missing out on their writing.

During my time here, I’ve personally grown. When I started, I was confident that I had found every man’s dream come true! I found a site, with hot women that get naked and actually admit that they want to fuck me!!! Lol ‒ Now that I know better, I’m still happy here. I’ve found that blogging is a wonderful thing for me. I never make any sense on this site, and yet, there are still loyal friends who are here to support me! After a couple of months, I realized that it’s really no different than in the real world. The hottest girls will usually always pick the hottest guys and vice versa. I started crashing. I became desperate and needy. I must’ve pissed off about 5 girls (maybe more ‒ if so they haven’t told me). Those girls won’t speak to me anymore.

I then ran into my Divergent One. I had just been shot down by an extremely beautiful, smart, girl, of which the whole male population on AdultFriendFinder liked, and I was reeling from public embarrassment. It’s on this girls’ blog where I found my Divergent One. She and I have been chatting now since February, I believe. There was a lot of flirting and what we found out is that we have many things in common and that we get along great. Circumstances arose in which it’s impossible for us to ever be together, but we continue to chat almost every day. Although the circumstances would’ve normally crushed me, it didn’t this time. I’m very happy for her circumstances, as they are great for her, and I know she will be happy. I think this is why I’m not crushed. For once in my life, I’m thinking for somebody else’s happiness and not my own.

I’m really not too sure how long it’s been now, but I’ve stopped searching for The One. I believe that I have grown. You can ask any of the Atlanta Bloggers group whether or not they believe that I’ve grown. I think they might be able to tell a difference. I know that I can. They preached to me, time and again, that I have to stop looking in order to allow love to find me. I’m sure it will. I’m now open.

I believe that this site has been a HUGE inspiration to what is out there for me to experience and I am grateful for the friends that I have met. Above all else, I’m grateful for having my Divergent One, as she truly is a wonderful friend (who happens to be hot as hell) and one in which I look forward to our chat time every single day.

What are your experiences on AdultFriendFinder? Have you grown as a person or couple? What have you learned, if anything, from this site and the people that blog day in and day out? I’ve learned to be… just be! And, for once, I’m actually truly very happy… with me.


countryheart_71 45F
8082 posts
6/22/2006 10:02 am

I have met alot of great people with the meet and greet's in my area! It's always a blast when we all get together for some drinks. I have only been on AdultFriendFinder for about 4 months so I don't have many experiences here yet. I love blogging! What a great way to vent and get other's comments, thoughts, and even experiences. It helps me to grow everyday! Congrats to you!

~Country~


EroticaXTC 49F

6/22/2006 11:06 am

I think I echo your sentiments exactly! I learned to just "be" as well. And you know, we had to go thru things to get to that point , learn the ways of the road, so-to-speak...and I feel good about it.


geminiwarrior 57F

6/22/2006 2:38 pm

It's so easy to forget the good times when you get hit sideways by the bad things. But as the saying goes what doesn't kill us makes us strong.


alphuctup 40M

6/23/2006 1:28 am

Personally I'm still testing the water. I've dipped my toe in and it feels kinda nice, but I'm not sure that I fancy a swim just yet!


elbman 41M  
2566 posts
6/24/2006 9:49 am

You're up .25 of an inch......but growth and progress are a slow and it's not the inches but what are contained there in.


crazygurl2xx 56F

6/24/2006 12:42 pm

well, hell we not-so-hot women really do come here for sex and find it! gotta love it!


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