Girl Project Given Up  

aascrompn 42M
6957 posts
4/20/2006 6:24 am

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Girl Project Given Up

I'm done with my little project of telling these women what I think about them. I had the feeling that it was going to be a very good thing for me to do, as I had to confront my fears of rejection, however, as it turns out, they don't much appreciate my views.

I only told three girls out of my list of about 8. Of the three girls, only one will communicate with me offline now. The other two post on my blog and allow me to post on there blogs, but they will not speak to me in any other media. This is just not worth it to me, as I feel like I've lost their friendship. Sure they are being civil about the blogs, but that's as far as things go.

I really don't know what I've said that could be so scary to them. I've not said anything about hooking up or anything. I've simply stated that I find them to be very attractive and that I'm interested in seeing if things could go anywhere, if they would be willing to establish an online friendship first. That's when everything seems to fall apart. That's when communication lines are severed.

I really am in a great mood today, but I've tried for the last time to speak to these girls. They don't respond on IM, or emails, so I guess I've gotten the point. This is a minor blow to my ego and pride, but more so that I've lost friendships than anything else.

Now, it's hard for me, due to being so attracted to them, to view their blogs. I love what they have to say, but their pictures are just so hot, that it almost kind of pains me b/c I know that I have zero chance with them. I'm not sure I'm making sense right now. I'm just getting this off of my chest.

I used to think that being honest with fellow bloggers about what I feel, or what they write, or things of this nature, was a good thing. We bloggers tend to be honest (except for the occasional fake death or two). I guess even being a fellow blogger doesn't mean you can't still cross through someone's comfort zone. I've now proven this three times. The bad part is, I'm not sure I can get these friendships back. Once you break somebody's trust, it's either gone forever, or damn near impossible to get back.

I'm still having a great day, and great week. Although I find this very confusing, I will do my best not to allow it to affect my good mood. I don't think I'm going to become severely depressed about this, as I have in the past. I think I'll just understand this to be human nature. I think it sucks that none of the girls that I'm interested in, like me back. When you're dealing with numbers of 8 to 10 females that you like, and they are all "available", but don't show any interest in you, that hurts a little.

I have deleted their IM addresses and email addresses. I've done this so that I'm not tempted to contact them again outside of this friendly site. I think it's only fair to them (and I guess me as well).

The midget pimp needs some major ass pimping performed for him!


SacredStarDance

4/20/2006 7:02 am

I just want to SMACK you and yell SNAP OUT OF IT!!!!!

You can't take it personally..If there not into you.. not interestested that is because there not interested.
has nothing to do with who and what kind of person you are.. You maybe wonderful in all areas..they just have other interest.. Does not make you less.. DON'T TAKE IT PERSONAL.. MOVE ON.

and while your head is hanging low and looking at the ground.. the woman that has been looking for you is walking by you not noticing you ... because she can't see your eyes or read your smile...

match maker at work...

there is a reason for the saying "chin up".... so we can see you and you can see the world

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:43 am:
Great advise! I'm really not all that bad off, it's just a little depressing to have them stop talking when you just tell them what you are thinking. I'll live.

frangipanigal 45F
10406 posts
4/20/2006 7:14 am

T.B,

You already know my thought on this!!

Frangi xx


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:43 am:
I know... I just love when you post so that I can see your AAS.

elbman 41M  
2566 posts
4/20/2006 7:57 am

They all thought you had a full head of hair until you posted that pic....better get out the Redskin #69 and fill it up.

Why did you limit yourself to 10.....or just those extremely hot pictures....don't limit yourself in life....just enjoy what the day brngs you never know who could be hiding behind that "Ask me for a photo" image.

--You still can't have your Man Card back.....


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:45 am:
You mean Redken #6 Rewind?? LOL

They were 10 hot pictured bloggers... I hear ya on the hidden photos, though! You never know who you are talking to then.

I took yours 2 months ago, so how about we trade back...

angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
4/20/2006 8:24 am

Don't beat yourself up over this. I thought it was very sweet...and I'm sure they did too. It is really their loss, not yours. But you just keep bing yourself here...and you'll see..things will happen.


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:46 am:
Ya know, I thought it was sweet too! I'll send you one next, just to make sure my email is actually working... LMAO

qship52 63M

4/20/2006 8:36 am

I can see what a blow it can be to the ego. But at least you tried. I have to wonder, what about the other 5? What if only 1 of them wanted to go farther along your lines? Wouldn't that be worth it?

It is too bad that you can't really know what the response would be before having to cross the bridge, and to some extent burn it behind you.

Good luck - chin up!


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:47 am:
Ya know, I have to wonder about them too... They are, however, very awesome and well known bloggers. I don't want to burn bridges w/ them b/c I love their material.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

catseyes23 61F

4/20/2006 9:24 am

I feel for you, Aascrom. But really, you are doing yourself in by posting about the women that you have e-mailed.

Maybe they think that they are second best because your mind seems to be wandering and lusting after so many. It would scare me off in a way.

Be patient, my friend, for what you want will come to you in time. Don't ask, whatever you do. All will become yours by default.


Cats...


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:48 am:
Ya, I thought of that. I don't want for them to think that there is any particular order. I like them each for different reasons, but they all have the common link of being gourgeous. I can see your point though!

SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
4/20/2006 10:09 am

Aascrompn~

I got the pimping post up for you yesterday ... I'm working on it babe!

~SDA

~Angel


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:49 am:
I still have not read it... RL has been keeping me away at night. I'm going there today. Thanks for whatever effort you did! muah!

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
4/20/2006 10:10 am

o honey some things should be reworded ,don't cry about thre in public,always one and make the three think its them,non of us like to know were part of a pact hugs hun


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


HotLatinFranco 37M
82 posts
4/20/2006 10:38 am

Come on dude, GET FUCKING REAL!

No properly adjusted woman would ever in her freakin' right mind wants to listen to a man piss and moan on and on about his feelings. And much less from a person they have never met in real life. It's disconcerting to a lady to hear a guy want to get that serious online.

You have to set emotional boundaries on this site and also in life. That dosen't mean you should be a cocky asshole, but don't act like a namby-pamby shrinking violet either.

There are plent of fish in the sea, it's a numbers game though in which you have to cast a wide net in order to find a few prime specimens worthy of your time.

Now get over yourself, be a man, and ACT like you know what your doing even if you're scared shitless and have no idea what you're doing.

PEACE and GOOD LUCK.


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 10:56 am:
Bro, first off, thanks for stopping by and commenting. I too, was where you currently are.

No woman wants to hear about a person's feelings on this site? Really? No offense but I have quite a few readers (consistantly). I think they appreciate honesty.

It's not about getting serious online. It's about becoming friends online enough to trust each other. Once accomplished, it can move to that of meeting, etc. That, my friend, is what it's all about.

It is a numbers game, I agree. However, when you are going for the highest caliber, the numbers get much smaller.

As far as being a man, dude, you have no idea. I happen to actually write to satisfy my needs, not the needs of my readers (who are extremely loyal through all of my ups and downs). This helps me vent. If they didn't like reading what I had to say, they would go away. However, I'm going to take what you wrote as a nice "kick in the ass" for support. That, I can appreciate. I see that you're relatively new (based on your number of posts). I certainly hope that you keep your chin up to the level it is now, when you gain another 3,000 something posts. This site has a wonderful way of kicking you in the balls, at times.

Again, thanks! I think you will do very well here!

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
4/20/2006 11:16 am

I'm gonna play the devil's advocate here...what if, when you spilled your guts to these women they just said "Nope, not interested in you that way, not now, not ever", would you feel better, the same or worse?

I think they may be avoiding you because they don't want to tell you flat out they aren't interested, possibly in fear of hurting your feelings or in fear of how you will react (they have had an example once before when you threatened to leave the blogs.) There are a lot of people out there that would rather avoid any confrontation by just ignoring you and your efforts.

Now, I pretty much think you're a nice guy from what dealings I've had with you. I also think maybe sometimes you try too hard. Sweetheart, no one likes those little dogs that try to hump their leg all the time. Relax a little and enjoy life and don't try to rush things.


Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 4:12 pm:
I see all your points, but hiding behind my blog, waiting for them to find me, isn't exactly working either...

Little dog humping legs... Nice.

MyRealLoverOne 46M

4/20/2006 12:26 pm

Does this mean your back to hitting on the guys again????


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 4:12 pm:
Did you think I ever stopped? Bring that sweet AAS over here...

jadedbabe78 106F

4/20/2006 12:27 pm

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with someone admitting they think you're attractive...yada yada yada. It's flattery and a compliment. And instead of taking it for what it's worth, some just decide to toss friendship away.

Doesn't make sense to me. I've been friends with men who admitted they had thoughts about me...did it ruin the friendship?? Noooooooooo.

Maybe that's just me and I live in lalaland. Who the fuck knows.

Now, come here and let me pimp slap that midget ass.

~Jadey


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 4:13 pm:
It makes a little sense to me now that daph straightened me out... It really does. They've seen what I've done in the past and want nothing to do with that.

Only if I get to lick yours...

caressmewell 53F

4/20/2006 3:14 pm

    Quoting rm_DaphneR:
    I'm gonna play the devil's advocate here...what if, when you spilled your guts to these women they just said "Nope, not interested in you that way, not now, not ever", would you feel better, the same or worse?

    I think they may be avoiding you because they don't want to tell you flat out they aren't interested, possibly in fear of hurting your feelings or in fear of how you will react (they have had an example once before when you threatened to leave the blogs.) There are a lot of people out there that would rather avoid any confrontation by just ignoring you and your efforts.

    Now, I pretty much think you're a nice guy from what dealings I've had with you. I also think maybe sometimes you try too hard. Sweetheart, no one likes those little dogs that try to hump their leg all the time. Relax a little and enjoy life and don't try to rush things.
I think Daphne has nailed it.

Sweetheart, no one likes those little dogs that try to hump their leg all the time. Relax a little and enjoy life and don't try to rush things LMAO!! What imagery...


aascrompn replies on 4/20/2006 4:14 pm:
Um... ya.

jadedbabe78 106F

4/20/2006 5:31 pm

Hmmm..while you're down that way...can you lick something else....


aascrompn replies on 4/21/2006 7:40 am:
LOL - For you anything. Spread em!

bardicman 50M

4/21/2006 6:52 am

Even a blind squirrel will find an acorn before he starves to death..



I am not dead yet


aascrompn replies on 4/21/2006 7:42 am:
Oh master of one liners, you are so right!

Kaliedascope61 41M
4084 posts
4/21/2006 7:25 am

well looks like you got all the advice you need!

Makes my job as a commenter much much much easier.

and kudos to you for taking the high road on being called a shrinking violet, namby pamby wiener boy. I thought for sure that would have became a sword fight. Goes to show you got some character.

Free the West Memphis Three!


aascrompn replies on 4/21/2006 7:45 am:
I have got to go read your blog! I've seen you up in the slots so many damn times, but haven't ventured forth yet. I suck, I know.

As far as the guy in question, it's just not worth my time. He's probably (assuming here) just going to blog for about 2 weeks and will leave when he has no success.

Thanks for stopping by, even though my slug AAS has yet to reciprocate the gesture.

TabithaElectra79 38F

4/21/2006 8:24 am

Don't forget there are probably women out there feeling the same way about you, women that you may not be interested in but they are really interested in you, it's all swings and roundabouts!


aascrompn replies on 4/21/2006 8:52 am:
You know that you maybe right. If, however, this is the case, I'm certainly not aware of it. If this were true, to go w/ my story, they would be writing to me and letting me know. I am, as you may or may not know, a guy. I do not have the ability to read between any kind of lines.

Sex swings? What the hell is a roundabout??

woofff 41F

4/22/2006 12:50 am

Hey A
Remember me? I am the girl who paged ya once.....I enjoyed your blog... had heard Bard talk about you and so I went and IM'ed you thinking, lets be friends. Not friends-for-now, not lets-see-where-this-takes-us.... i had no agenda. Not because I am seeing someone but because I approached you of my own free will.

And what happened? You froze me out....I think I got a 'yes'.......a 'sure thing' and a ' take care' from you....maybe you assumed am trying to hit on you? Lol. Just so you know: i don't try. I just do (hit on someone). I just wanted to be a friend.

The reason am here AGAIN is I want you to know you that I liked you.
Not all girls are snooty.

W.


woofff 41F

4/22/2006 9:02 am

CORRECTION IN COMMENT ABOVE.

..." Not because I am seeing someone but because I approached you of my own free will." Ignore this line, even I have no clue what the hell it means.

W.


MOfunNOWWOW 55F

4/22/2006 10:32 am

    Quoting rm_yummmy669:
    aas----when you realize how great you are others will too.

    yummmy
Sweetheart I think you are a very handsome guy as well as said...a sweet heart! I do not hink even though you commented yeah but it gets old you realize how great you are or you would be more content. I have alot of friends male and female always in a relaionship and as soon as it ends looking for the next. Someone to fill the emptiness. They are not content with themselves. How could anyone else be either?
You know I don't know you well and may be way off base...just observations I have made in my close friends and some familiarity I see in your writings. I just believe if you were content with yourself and it showed it would draw moths to that flame. {=} Hoping for the best for you.


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just a squirrel trying to get a nut


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