E-Love or Love?  

aascrompn 42M
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3/3/2006 10:45 am

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E-Love or Love?


I've been thinking of this over the last couple of days. Do you think e-love is as real as love? I think that e-love could be as real as love, but I really have no idea.

As bloggers, we are all in constant communication with each other on a daily basis. We leave good, bad, funny, sexual comments all day long to everybody's personal stories, etc. Through this process we become friends. Yes, I believe that we are truly friends. What about if things develope past just regular friendships into more serious friendships? Can it happen? I think it can. Once this occurs, I believe that one could consider it e-dating. You wake up every morning in hopes of finding that email, IM, etc.. You are, for all intents and purposes, dating. But, is this feeling true? Do you get jealous if others hit on your e-partner? Yes. Do you eventually exchange "I love you"? Maybe. This is where it gets fuzzy for me. If you do say it, is it real? Would you die for this person? How could you say that you would when (assuming here) you've never met the person? Would you be monagomous towards the object of your desires, in the sense that you would quit looking around in real life? I'll bet a lot of people would say yes to that last question. How weird is that?

I believe that what we have here is amazingly more powerful than regular dating. The reason I say this is because as a blogger, we divulge so much more about ourselves than we would in regular dating. We know a TON about each other's background. Can you say that about regular dating?

With as powerful as all of this is, I'm not convinced that it's real, though. I wouldn't probably die for somebody that I've never met face to face. It's just not me. Could I have the same emotion about somebody online that I could w/ a regular date? I think as much if not more. For me, in the "real world", I have a much more reserved approach than here in Blogville. I do it for a reason. Women tend to like guys who are a bit mysterious. That's an attraction to them. If I were to be as open in the "real world" as I am here, I would be shot down and labled the "nice guy". I have to "play the game".

What happens when the e-love breaks up w/ you online? What then? Does it hurt as much as in real life? I think it would... Why? Have you thought about how ridiculous this is? You've never met face to face. You've never held each other. You've never had the chance to stare into each other's eyes. You probably had the chance to talk on the phone, but other than that, nothing else is the same. I think that it does b/c love is real. Love hurtles numerous obsticles, but does it hurtle distance and the fact that there has been zero face to face contact? I don't think that it does.

What do you guys think about this topic? Give me your insight. Enlighten me. Tell me I'm a dumbass.

rm_dragonheat23 51M
1158 posts
3/3/2006 11:57 am

You are not a dumbass. I have found that I have developed pretty deep feelings about some of my fellow bloggers. When I thought that one of them had been lured into an unwanted S&M encounter by another blogger, I was really, really upset. I had to email her to find out if she was alright and if this was this a joke.
You are right, we really can start to care about people (our cyber friends) and share in their joys and their pains.
Bravo, for your insight.


saddletrampsk 54F

3/3/2006 12:05 pm

I think blogging and emailing is a good way to get to know each other..but if there is no real life chemistry there is nothing but friendship I guess..Online dating can be very disappointing at times


clevergirl4U 58F

3/3/2006 12:06 pm

I had a long email relationship with the man who became my first "e-love", long before I ever met him. It was those emails that drew us like magnets to each other. He is the reason that I know that the brain is the largest sex organ. He had me "on fire" before we ever met, yet we rarely wrote about sexual things. Of course it didn't hurt that when we finally locked eyes, I stopped breathing

Physical distance limited our time together to maybe twice monthly visits over more than a year. So the fires were sustained with emails.
Yes, the fingers tell a much deeper story...

And you are such an adorable dumbass that you shouldn't care what people think...

Clever


sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
3/3/2006 12:15 pm

E-love doesn't mean anything to me. E-love isn't equal to love. I have my reasons as why I said that. I've been online for a long long time since I was just 12. Then I joined a lot of websites. On one of these websites that I'm on, you find people professing their love towards people they never met or felt for real. You see them putting up a journal entry saying I love you to guy/girl A and then in a week time they are broken up. A few days later, you see them putting up a new journal entry for their new e-love. Those things are childish and stupid as hell Some people never learn. You are NOT a dumbass God damn it


Darkpassion 57F

3/3/2006 12:47 pm

ummmm! a tough one but when you consider that we are all matter and all that is between us is matter. What is Real! Some would say our entire exsitence is an illusion and we can manipulate it to our liking. Why worry about whether it is or isn't Real. If it nourishes your Soul then cherish it. There is so much we don't know or understand about energy and how we can interact with others in a non physical way. Go explore have fun and take Love where ever you find it. You might be so inspired that you just have to relocate.
DP


caressmewell 53F

3/3/2006 12:52 pm

This is a great post...lots of food for thought here. I think that we can get attached to peeps online...and have some intense feeling for them.

I have friends that I love dearly and chat with daily..yet I have never met them in person..but they have become a part of my daily life and I look forward to our chats. I can't say that I have been in "romantic" love but I have made connections with several that are very special to me and it can be painful if one of those relationships ends.


TabithaElectra79 37F

3/3/2006 1:31 pm

Very, very interesting...

I would need more space to discuss this than a mere comment box!



Excellent post!


elbman 41M  
2566 posts
3/3/2006 1:41 pm

You're a Dumbass........

Not for the post, because it brings up a very valid point that there is no "right answer" to. Everyone feels differently and takes a different approach when it comes to the online world. I travel constantly and have worked with people that have the "What goes on on the road stays on the road" (i.e the different zip, statel, area code rule). I'm sure the same is true for people in life vs. e-life.

Then there are the ones who are devoted to a tee, it means everything to them. It's when the prior and the later meet that BAD things happen to good people.


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
3/3/2006 1:44 pm

E love is better b/c you dont have to deal with all the real life shit LOL!

Purry {=}

Purry


kelly402005 52F

3/3/2006 2:33 pm

E-love is not a serious thing to me....... Sorry, I let you down! I didn't mean to tell everyone how good you are orally, really! We just devulge so much of ourselves on here, I couldn't help myself! LOL!

Seriously, I don't take it seriously at all. I think of all of you guys and gals, as friends, nothing more... I can't get caught up in this stuff. I do have a, "real life" as I call it and I can't get caught up in this kind of stuff.
Now, if I were to meet someone online and we got to know each other in "real life" that would be another story..... But then again, it wouldn't be an e-love then, right!

You're not a dumbass, and I hope you can handle me joking with ya! I do think you are cute though, okay!

Have a good one!
Me!!


rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
3/3/2006 5:31 pm

I think what you call e-love is just as real as real life love.
Yes, there are certain friends that I have online that I would do damn near anything for. Just because I haven't met them doesn't mean I don't love them. I've met one and still love him just as much as before we met and would still give him the shirt off my back if he needed it.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


impish_pixie 54F
6867 posts
3/3/2006 9:28 pm

Perhaps you should ask Bulging_Boy & LIBlonde...sure looks like the real thing to me. I believe....

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


jadedbabe78 105F

3/3/2006 10:07 pm

I think it's possible to care about someone you've never met. Through email and IM's, you get to know someone on a level more quickly than you would irl. But to love someone you've never met. No. I'e been online for 10 yrs or so now. I've seen people profess their love to each other only to meet up in real life and find out they're not compatible in that way. Either no chemistry or someone lied about their life, etc et al. And they felt cheated and as if they wasted so much time. In turn, I've made many great friends who I initially met online. I was able to know them before meeting them and have a blast with them every time I see them. I care about them, I had come to care about them before meeting them. But I certainly didn't love any of them, either.

You come to care about someone as a person. You develop friendships. But e-love and real love are two different things in my book. Real love, you know the person on ALL levels...e-love, you don't know the person except by mind only. And yes, the mind is a big IMPORTANT factor to many...but it certainly isn't the only when it comes to love.

Again, just my honest, humble opinion.

~Jadey


oldman1776 78M
3164 posts
3/3/2006 11:30 pm

I think that both are real. there are people I have met on here that I would do any thing I could for them.

I agree with DaphneR Just because I haven't met them in person doesn't mean I don't love them.


FunandFrisky79 41M/36F

3/4/2006 1:40 am

I believe in both types of love. Like you said, we reveal alot more about ourselves in Blogville alot quicker than we do in real life. Therefore, we get to know each other alot faster (that is, of course, if both parties are honest). I've come to know and love alot of the friends I've made in Blogville. When they hurt, I hurt. When they're happy, I'm happy. When they cry, I cry. It's just the way it is. I'm a very caring person and I believe there are many different forms of love.

Is e-love the same as real love? Well, that all depends. I think it's possible to have deep feelings for someone you've met online. So deep, in fact, that it's possible to fall in love with them. If that's the case, I'd imagine you'd meet them in person at some point and the passion would be more intense since you already know them. Then, it would become "real" love. Don't get me wrong, online dating may not always turn out the way you hope it does. But, then again, real life dating doesn't either!

Just my two cents.

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bardicman 50M

3/4/2006 3:04 am

From my heart and mind's perspective, E-love is real. I have personally witnessed it with Bulge and Liblonde, I have felt the crushing blows of one who thought it was just another sick twisted game to be played so I am more cautious now but I still believe.



I am not dead yet


pinkzplaytoyz 49F

3/4/2006 5:13 pm

I agree with Bard 100%...
Love begins by sharing yourself with another person.
The feelings are just as real, just as strong.
The only thing different is some of the experiences...its a new territory.
Some things are easier said online than in person. In some ways, its easier to be who you really are without other things interfering as in the physical world.
You've got more time to learn about eachother, without the pressure of making good impressions.
The love happens because of what transpires over time.
The love seems to choose you, instead of you "choosing" to love someone.
And like any other kind of relationship, it will work as long as you both want it to.

hugs,
Pink


catseyes23 61F

3/4/2006 5:53 pm

You're not a Dumbass...merely posting your views on E-Love. It really is not for me. I would prefer the direct contact myself.

Cats...


rm_JohnMacLaine 50M
585 posts
3/4/2006 8:22 pm

Wow, great post aas, reads like something I would have posted about 4 or 5 years ago when I was involved in an online romance myself.

E-Love is not real unless the two parties involved have met face to face. I remember the first time I met her, it was in Daytona, we were both nervous, but we managed to get through all of that, look into each other's eyes and know for sure after leaving for home that day. I felt that I had deep feelings for this woman leading up to our first meet, but they were not confirmed until actually seeing her and touching her for the first time. Once I looked into those eyes, I knew it right away. I was in love.

You just can not get the same feelings from an email or an IM as you can through physical contact. If the physical attraction is not there, then it isnt going to work. You HAVE to have the physical contact.

Again, GREAT POST, and food for thought...

Peace

John

"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi


Sister_Act_4_You 37F/37F

3/4/2006 10:41 pm

I believe that very real friendships can develop and the groundwork can probably be laid for a relationship...however, I think for it to really progress into true love, there has to be a face-to-face contact.

I am a strong proponent of making sure there is some sort of chemistry, not to mention just including the normal elements of your day-to-day life.

Now this does not mean that I completely dismiss the idea that strong emotions and passion can exist between individuals online. In fact, I think it is very easy for that to happen. However, one still is quite limited in how far that might develop.

When we first made our profile on here, we met a guy (and a friend of his) and he had sounded really nice, and he was! It just wasn't right, though, when we met.

On the other hand, there is a guy that I've been communicating with for a couple months and I was extremely skeptical about the entire thing. I thought he could not possibly be this nice looking, this smart, this hot, this....well, you get the idea. And then I also presumed that if he really was all that....well, he wouldn't like me! lol!

Anyway, we've recently met and he really is all that, and more, and he likes me too. So, while we were able to 'start' online, it could not really go any further until we had actually met in person.

Bottom line, to me, is that something very real can have its beginnings online but I think to increase the odds of it working out satisfactorily...you just have to actually meet.

Just my two cents....


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
3/5/2006 5:14 am

I think that there are many layers of communicating from a simple comment on a blog through to full physical intimacy. Different relationships, both online and in "real life" grow to different degrees enhanced and limited by all sorts of factors, too many and too complex for a comment to cover.


Cowboy_Deluxe 38M

3/5/2006 9:56 am

Hey man just stopped by to say, I am *proud* that you are anti poll.

Cowboy


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:29 am

    Quoting marchbrown1:
    Excellent post. Now you have got me thinking. My first reaction is that 'E-love' cannot be as powerful as 'real' love, but then real love isn't powerful when it first happens. In fact, how long does it take to fall in love in the real world???

    You are right about telling more in blogland than in life and there are many people that are able to communicate better with a key board than face to face.

    I don't think there is an answer for me, I am confused now! I had better go and find solstice in a gin and tonic.... What have you started???
It is a confusing concept to grasp... I just enjoy thinking of these things...


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:31 am

    Quoting rm_dragonheat23:
    You are not a dumbass. I have found that I have developed pretty deep feelings about some of my fellow bloggers. When I thought that one of them had been lured into an unwanted S&M encounter by another blogger, I was really, really upset. I had to email her to find out if she was alright and if this was this a joke.
    You are right, we really can start to care about people (our cyber friends) and share in their joys and their pains.
    Bravo, for your insight.
I don't blame you for being upset... I have a lot of friends that I feel the same way about, but is it love? Thanks for stopping by!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:32 am

    Quoting foxtrotter2000:
    ok...you're a dumbass!!!

    seriously...

    it could be real...it could not be real....love, whether e-love or the real one, involves emotions and feelings, which is something intra-personal. so for me, only the persons involved can tell if it can be as real as love...you may or may not agree with me on this. i ain't so sure if i'm making any sense at all!

    you got me thinking here...nice post!
No, I don't think there is a right or wrong on this issue. I was merely trying to grasp others' views on this. I think you made perfect sense!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:35 am

    Quoting saddletrampsk:
    I think blogging and emailing is a good way to get to know each other..but if there is no real life chemistry there is nothing but friendship I guess..Online dating can be very disappointing at times
Online dating can be frustrating! I agree. I'm not sure I've ever said I love you to somebody that I've never met. With as much as I drink, I can't be completely sure, but I don't think that I have...


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:36 am

    Quoting clevergirl4U:
    I had a long email relationship with the man who became my first "e-love", long before I ever met him. It was those emails that drew us like magnets to each other. He is the reason that I know that the brain is the largest sex organ. He had me "on fire" before we ever met, yet we rarely wrote about sexual things. Of course it didn't hurt that when we finally locked eyes, I stopped breathing

    Physical distance limited our time together to maybe twice monthly visits over more than a year. So the fires were sustained with emails.
    Yes, the fingers tell a much deeper story...

    And you are such an adorable dumbass that you shouldn't care what people think...

    Clever
I think the mind is the largest sex organ... It's all about the passion. You stopped breathing? Distance does make it hard, I agree. I'm not sure I could do it.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:38 am

    Quoting sassybelle21:
    E-love doesn't mean anything to me. E-love isn't equal to love. I have my reasons as why I said that. I've been online for a long long time since I was just 12. Then I joined a lot of websites. On one of these websites that I'm on, you find people professing their love towards people they never met or felt for real. You see them putting up a journal entry saying I love you to guy/girl A and then in a week time they are broken up. A few days later, you see them putting up a new journal entry for their new e-love. Those things are childish and stupid as hell Some people never learn. You are NOT a dumbass God damn it
It is uncanny how people commit themselves to others that are online entities only... Please let me be a dumbass, please!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:40 am

    Quoting Darkpassion:
    ummmm! a tough one but when you consider that we are all matter and all that is between us is matter. What is Real! Some would say our entire exsitence is an illusion and we can manipulate it to our liking. Why worry about whether it is or isn't Real. If it nourishes your Soul then cherish it. There is so much we don't know or understand about energy and how we can interact with others in a non physical way. Go explore have fun and take Love where ever you find it. You might be so inspired that you just have to relocate.
    DP
I think it can produce a very powerful affect. Hopefully that would lead to a meet. Thanks for stopping by!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:41 am

    Quoting caressmewell:
    This is a great post...lots of food for thought here. I think that we can get attached to peeps online...and have some intense feeling for them.

    I have friends that I love dearly and chat with daily..yet I have never met them in person..but they have become a part of my daily life and I look forward to our chats. I can't say that I have been in "romantic" love but I have made connections with several that are very special to me and it can be painful if one of those relationships ends.
I'm friends of many of yours here as well. I agree that it would suck if any of them would end. It's the romantic love that I wonder about the most.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:42 am

    Quoting TabithaElectra79:
    Very, very interesting...

    I would need more space to discuss this than a mere comment box!



    Excellent post!
Thanks! Now where is that banana pic I asked you for?


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:44 am

    Quoting elbman:
    You're a Dumbass........

    Not for the post, because it brings up a very valid point that there is no "right answer" to. Everyone feels differently and takes a different approach when it comes to the online world. I travel constantly and have worked with people that have the "What goes on on the road stays on the road" (i.e the different zip, statel, area code rule). I'm sure the same is true for people in life vs. e-life.

    Then there are the ones who are devoted to a tee, it means everything to them. It's when the prior and the later meet that BAD things happen to good people.
Thanks, elb... Asshole! I think you're right in that there is no right answer. Good people get messed up all the time.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:45 am

    Quoting rm_PurryKitty2:
    E love is better b/c you dont have to deal with all the real life shit LOL!

    Purry {=}
This is true... Although, working through shit together is often great as well.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:49 am

    Quoting rm_rabbit8747:
    well there are two things here. I think that communicating like this - in writing - is very powerful. you do learn so much about people and how their minds work and such and that is - for women - often where much of the turn-on comes from. I mean I think more highly of you and a few of the guys I have seen on here - because I empathize with your experiences. but in real-time dating that doesn't always happen because people are tongue tied. HOWEVER....No. 2....a relationship limited to cyber-space - who are we kidding? You have to have that touch time. Those looks, the gestures, the things about people that make them real and memorable and something that we want to hold on to and in a guy's case, protect. so I think there is a service to this whole world - but it certainly cannot be complete without the other side. I think the best thing would be if both worlds could co-exist. how great would that be for couples if they read each other's blogs every day and knew exactly where that person was, what was taking up their time, or their thoughts. very powerful because don't they alway say relationship fail for lack of communication?

    Rabbit.
People do get tongue tied in real life. I hate that awkwardness. However with merging these two world into one, I think you can get almost what you're looking for. Bloggers have it easier, I think. If two bloggers hook up, they already are familiar to each other (in a sense).

I need that touch time... Got any ideas? You are definitely onto something about couples dumping ideas onto the screen for each other to read. That would uncomplicate many things. Great concept!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:50 am

    Quoting newaroundhere64:
    Thanks, aas; you've just given me the next chapter of the book I'm writing- "the Function of the Ego and the Spiritual Path."

    First, I think we have to define what "love" is. That will seperate the wheat from the chaff pretty fast.
    Love is an ability we have. e-love and love can seem oh so similar, because it's the same thing, only different.

    For some people, love is a projection of themselves onto another. It's an illusion we hold and if the person changes, our perception of them changes as well. Their shift can't hold our original projection and we can become disillusioned. This is the downside of online dating. The first woman I met, we clicked on email, we clicked on the phone. But when we met in person, it all fell apart. E-dating is a two dimensional world. You can see the height and width of a person, but it's not until we meet in person do you comprehend the depth (or lack of) in each other.

    I've become very leery of meeting some women face to face because I don't want to be disillusioned. Others, I want to meet quickly so that if I AM disillusioned, I can get over it quicker!

    There's a part of your mind that projects an image(You) and another part of your mind that perceives the projection (you). Sometimes, you've forgotten that it's You who's running the projector and looking at the screen at the same time! When You and you are in sync, Love exists in everything you see. When You and you are NOT in sync, you're of two minds about a thing.

    With this in mind, I can "love" the friends I've made here and enjoy the companionship shared in emails and posts. Meeting face to face can enhance it or not, depending on the people. I've decided that, for me, this is not a good lace to look for "love". It is, however, an excellent way to make friends all over the world, share views, philosophies, jokes, crappy poetry, pics of body parts and pieces and get a better understanding of who we all are.

    Dumbass? No. Smartass? No, duh!

    Thanks for the great post.

    nah64
Wow! I'm glad I was able to help... You've got some damn deep stuff here! Do I get a free copy?


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:52 am

    Quoting kelly402005:
    E-love is not a serious thing to me....... Sorry, I let you down! I didn't mean to tell everyone how good you are orally, really! We just devulge so much of ourselves on here, I couldn't help myself! LOL!

    Seriously, I don't take it seriously at all. I think of all of you guys and gals, as friends, nothing more... I can't get caught up in this stuff. I do have a, "real life" as I call it and I can't get caught up in this kind of stuff.
    Now, if I were to meet someone online and we got to know each other in "real life" that would be another story..... But then again, it wouldn't be an e-love then, right!

    You're not a dumbass, and I hope you can handle me joking with ya! I do think you are cute though, okay!

    Have a good one!
    Me!!
I'm glad, kinda, that you did tell everyone that I was good at oral. I think that's the only reason my blog is getting so much attention lately!

It would start off as e-love, but develope to real love. That would be cool.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:55 am

    Quoting rm_valleyrat4:
    I thought you said you couldn't write? Great post.

    While you may know far more about a person here because they really spill their guts there are also downsides. I corresponded with one woman here and it eventually led to a meeting. I quickly determined that she was an alcoholic. I could have interacted with her here, e-mails, and IM's for quite awhile before I figured it out but 1 hour into the meeting it became clear.

    Upsides and downsides to both.
Thank you very much, valley! That says a lot, coming from you.

That is the problem w/ these sites... Someone on my blog said that it's two dimensional. I agree w/ that statement. You can only see so much. I believe that you get to see the "core" of the person online. It just goes to show that last little bit is equally important.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:57 am

    Quoting rm_DaphneR:
    I think what you call e-love is just as real as real life love.
    Yes, there are certain friends that I have online that I would do damn near anything for. Just because I haven't met them doesn't mean I don't love them. I've met one and still love him just as much as before we met and would still give him the shirt off my back if he needed it.
I agree w/ this in a friendship kinda way, but not so in a romantic kind of way. I'm not sure though. I've never gotten that far...


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 11:59 am

    Quoting impish_pixie:
    Perhaps you should ask Bulging_Boy & LIBlonde...sure looks like the real thing to me. I believe....
I've heard about them. I think that's great!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:02 pm

    Quoting jadedbabe78:
    I think it's possible to care about someone you've never met. Through email and IM's, you get to know someone on a level more quickly than you would irl. But to love someone you've never met. No. I'e been online for 10 yrs or so now. I've seen people profess their love to each other only to meet up in real life and find out they're not compatible in that way. Either no chemistry or someone lied about their life, etc et al. And they felt cheated and as if they wasted so much time. In turn, I've made many great friends who I initially met online. I was able to know them before meeting them and have a blast with them every time I see them. I care about them, I had come to care about them before meeting them. But I certainly didn't love any of them, either.

    You come to care about someone as a person. You develop friendships. But e-love and real love are two different things in my book. Real love, you know the person on ALL levels...e-love, you don't know the person except by mind only. And yes, the mind is a big IMPORTANT factor to many...but it certainly isn't the only when it comes to love.

    Again, just my honest, humble opinion.

    ~Jadey
I would feel cheated too, if I put that much work into it and somebody lied.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:04 pm

    Quoting oldman1776:
    I think that both are real. there are people I have met on here that I would do any thing I could for them.

    I agree with DaphneR Just because I haven't met them in person doesn't mean I don't love them.
I'm really talking about the romantic type of love... I do have great friends on here that i would do a lot for, but I don't have the romantic type of love.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:06 pm

    Quoting FunandFrisky79:
    I believe in both types of love. Like you said, we reveal alot more about ourselves in Blogville alot quicker than we do in real life. Therefore, we get to know each other alot faster (that is, of course, if both parties are honest). I've come to know and love alot of the friends I've made in Blogville. When they hurt, I hurt. When they're happy, I'm happy. When they cry, I cry. It's just the way it is. I'm a very caring person and I believe there are many different forms of love.

    Is e-love the same as real love? Well, that all depends. I think it's possible to have deep feelings for someone you've met online. So deep, in fact, that it's possible to fall in love with them. If that's the case, I'd imagine you'd meet them in person at some point and the passion would be more intense since you already know them. Then, it would become "real" love. Don't get me wrong, online dating may not always turn out the way you hope it does. But, then again, real life dating doesn't either!

    Just my two cents.
I think that's great insight! It's just fun to think of all of the possibilities. Thanks!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:07 pm

    Quoting bardicman:
    From my heart and mind's perspective, E-love is real. I have personally witnessed it with Bulge and Liblonde, I have felt the crushing blows of one who thought it was just another sick twisted game to be played so I am more cautious now but I still believe.
Yes, I can see being more cautious. I still believe it could happen, but it hasn't happened for me yet.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:15 pm

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    I don't see how you can love someone you have never met..but it happens all the time on here.
It does some to happen a lot on here.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:23 pm

    Quoting pinkzplaytoyz:
    I agree with Bard 100%...
    Love begins by sharing yourself with another person.
    The feelings are just as real, just as strong.
    The only thing different is some of the experiences...its a new territory.
    Some things are easier said online than in person. In some ways, its easier to be who you really are without other things interfering as in the physical world.
    You've got more time to learn about eachother, without the pressure of making good impressions.
    The love happens because of what transpires over time.
    The love seems to choose you, instead of you "choosing" to love someone.
    And like any other kind of relationship, it will work as long as you both want it to.

    hugs,
    Pink
It is easier to express youself online. Love seems to choose you... i've never thought of it that way.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:28 pm

    Quoting catseyes23:
    You're not a Dumbass...merely posting your views on E-Love. It really is not for me. I would prefer the direct contact myself.

    Cats...
I too would prefer direct contact as well!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 12:35 pm

    Quoting rm_JohnMacLaine:
    Wow, great post aas, reads like something I would have posted about 4 or 5 years ago when I was involved in an online romance myself.

    E-Love is not real unless the two parties involved have met face to face. I remember the first time I met her, it was in Daytona, we were both nervous, but we managed to get through all of that, look into each other's eyes and know for sure after leaving for home that day. I felt that I had deep feelings for this woman leading up to our first meet, but they were not confirmed until actually seeing her and touching her for the first time. Once I looked into those eyes, I knew it right away. I was in love.

    You just can not get the same feelings from an email or an IM as you can through physical contact. If the physical attraction is not there, then it isnt going to work. You HAVE to have the physical contact.

    Again, GREAT POST, and food for thought...

    Peace

    John
Wow, I'm glad that you were able to have success! It's not happened for me yet in the love department, but I have met up w/ some great girls! I agree w/ the physical attraction thing. The other limiting factor is the distance. That makes things really hard.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 1:40 pm

    Quoting Sister_Act_4_You:
    I believe that very real friendships can develop and the groundwork can probably be laid for a relationship...however, I think for it to really progress into true love, there has to be a face-to-face contact.

    I am a strong proponent of making sure there is some sort of chemistry, not to mention just including the normal elements of your day-to-day life.

    Now this does not mean that I completely dismiss the idea that strong emotions and passion can exist between individuals online. In fact, I think it is very easy for that to happen. However, one still is quite limited in how far that might develop.

    When we first made our profile on here, we met a guy (and a friend of his) and he had sounded really nice, and he was! It just wasn't right, though, when we met.

    On the other hand, there is a guy that I've been communicating with for a couple months and I was extremely skeptical about the entire thing. I thought he could not possibly be this nice looking, this smart, this hot, this....well, you get the idea. And then I also presumed that if he really was all that....well, he wouldn't like me! lol!

    Anyway, we've recently met and he really is all that, and more, and he likes me too. So, while we were able to 'start' online, it could not really go any further until we had actually met in person.

    Bottom line, to me, is that something very real can have its beginnings online but I think to increase the odds of it working out satisfactorily...you just have to actually meet.

    Just my two cents....
I agree w/ your view on this. I think that it starts w/ the mind and progresses to the face to face. This is what makes these sites so powerful. It's a great way to know somebody first before face to face. That's why the face to face, for the first time, is so damn scary. You hope like hell that they are what they seemed to be online. However, you at least have some common ground to start conversations with.

I'm glad that you were able to find, "...this nice looking, this smart, this hot, this...". I'm sure that you deserve it. I'm not sure why you would've been nervous about his liking you, but I guess that happens to us all. You have a lot to offer him. Good for you two.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 1:42 pm

    Quoting warmandsexy52:
    I think that there are many layers of communicating from a simple comment on a blog through to full physical intimacy. Different relationships, both online and in "real life" grow to different degrees enhanced and limited by all sorts of factors, too many and too complex for a comment to cover.
There are a ton of variables that contibute to this idea...


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/5/2006 1:44 pm

    Quoting Cowboy_Deluxe:
    Hey man just stopped by to say, I am *proud* that you are anti poll.

    Cowboy
Thanks!


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
3/5/2006 7:38 pm

If you feel it, then you feel it.
That's all I know on the subject.
I'm a dumbass.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
3/5/2006 9:39 pm

You are anything but a Dumbass...
fact.
And blogland is an amazing place to get into people's
heads. Frankly, that is more important than immediately
getting into someone's pants in my book! The bottom line
is chemistry is what it is when you finally do meet if that
is something that one is even open to being open to! The
chemistry..I mean...meeting here is like meeting up with old
friends..because we DO know each other!

I renewed my membership here on AdultFriendFinder because of the blogs...
most likely would not have done so otherwise.

It is also a great place to open the door before talking on
the phone..usually the next step...and...

There are people who have met here seriously! You know who
they are!

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
3/6/2006 6:45 am

I think I agree with Purry...elove is better because you don't have to deal with the daily shit!


MaggiesWishes 59F

3/6/2006 7:10 pm

<~~ so not an authority on this subject.
Great post, babe!

Nothing like "a E-male banquet of choice" that you can E-love to pieces!

warm wishes


rm_SusieQ27 46F
2093 posts
3/7/2006 2:14 am

AAS.at last I reach the end..such a compelling blog. I read every comment too. So enlightening, to read what everyone thought.

For myself I agree whole heartedly with spinmedown.
Probably a sure fire way to a broken heart, more often than not,
though.

Luv n stuff {=} Susie {=}


silkysmoothlegs3 105F

3/7/2006 3:57 am

brilliant post

I love everyone and i tell them all time

silky


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