Confused  

aascrompn 42M
6957 posts
12/29/2005 10:48 pm

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Confused


I just had a very lovely girl, whom I had been speaking to for the last week online and the phone, get really pissed off at me. She asked me a couple of questions pertaining to the recent girls that I had been seeing here in the ATL. When I explained who I liked more versus the other and why, the girl (from out of town) got really upset. She kept getting more pissed off as the conversation went on. She then stated that she should have never given me her number and shortly after, hung up on me. This really confuses me. You see, I thought we were establishing a friendship. Sure, there was flirting going back and forth, but I truly thought that's all it was. I really had no idea that she might have actually been growing feelings for me in the regard of establishing some kind of relationship. There had been zero talk of ever actually meeting. I'm most upset, b/c she's a very nice girl. I enjoyed our conversations online and on the phone immensely. Had Iíd know that any of what I was telling her about my latest dates recently I wouldnít have even talked about it. Should I approach future encounters as possible relationships? Should I expect that any dialogue could be read into as a test? More importantly, how do I go about gaining this girl back as my friend? I really hate it when I offend people. I just didnít know thatís what was happening. *sigh* I just donít understand.

caressmewell 53F

12/29/2005 11:24 pm

Poor man...don't we just baffle you?

Give it a few days and try to communicate with her online. If you don't get a response then walk away. In the future you might not discuss going out with others (or keep info to the minimum) until you know if it a friendship or a "relationship" thing.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
12/29/2005 11:42 pm

Caressmewell - Yes, girls really do baffle the hell out of me! I'm not sure it's always a bad thing, but damn it gets tiring sometimes. I guess it's ultimately worth the fight though! I'm truly going to take up your advice. I just though since this girl has read most of my posts then she already knew about what was going on. I'm kind of trying to take Nooner's approach to this whole thing by not lying about who or what I really am. Thanks for your input! I love your comments!


safereturns 47F

12/30/2005 12:04 am

Men tell me about other women; unsolicited.

Surefire way to tick me off--but I don't ask questions I don't want answers to, either.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
12/30/2005 12:19 am

Safereturns - I would get mad too if it were unsolicited, but she specifically asked. I'm glad that you wouldn't ask if you didn't want to hear it!


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
12/30/2005 10:02 am

Life - I agree. I think it was a pretty big test. I always assume they are w/ other men. All I want to know is how safe they are playing. Other than that, I don't ask too many questions.


NaughtyNurseMn 48F
74 posts
12/30/2005 7:17 pm

Women are very difficult. You never know what they are thinking, partly because I don't think we really know until it surfaces unexpectidly.

Maybe this girl you were chatting with, really wasn't aware of her own feelings for you until they surfaced unexpectidly. I can totally see how that could happen, especially when the same thing just recently happened to me. Just continue to be honest. Life is not a test, life is a serious of unfortunate events with periods of fabulous bliss sportatically dipped in between. Give this girl a chance to sort it out, I am sure she will. She sounds very, very nice!

FLIRT WARNING: Your very cute by the way...

The Naughtiest Nurse You'll Ever Know...

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N.N.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
1/2/2006 6:01 am

NoonerBoy - The nurse is a very sweet lady... I did happen to ask her why she was mad, but all she said was that everything that I was saying was pissing her off, at the time. Since then, we've talked about things and everything seems to be going well.

That's funny that you say that about greeneyesatl05 b/c I actually (when I first joined) thought that's who it was you were referring to in your blog. I've since then figured out it wasn't, but the timing of your two blogs are uncanny. You think it was her belly button? I think it's b/c she's very witty and has a most incredible body! I've never really had an opportunity to chat w/ her on here, but she seems really nice. You're right, it's a very good thing, b/c you found Her.

Thanks for your insight!


rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
1/2/2006 5:52 pm

Honey, of course we ask questions we don't really want the answers to. It's a test. We want you to tell us that we're the only one, even if we know we're not. We want you to tell us that no other woman in the world can compare to us. We want you to say that every woman you've met on this site was a disappointment.

In other words, LIE! It makes us happy.

(Just don't ever let us catch you lying or we'll emasculate you. There, that should be clear as mud. And, of course, any advice a woman gives you about a woman is subject to change tomorrow, or whenever our mood changes. Or just because we're afraid you might actually make some sense of us and we need to keep you off balance.)

Hugs


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
1/2/2006 7:36 pm

kelli4u2dew - Well that certainly cleared things up! Thanks for your thoughts...


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