Beware of Stalkers Who Think They Can Fly  

aascrompn 42M
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5/25/2006 12:17 pm

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Beware of Stalkers Who Think They Can Fly

For those of you who have been following my blog for any length of time, know that I'm really not too bad of a person. I am not one to really screw with anybody on this site (other than the few ladies I hit on) and really never down another blogger. We are all, generally speaking, here for the same reason. We have a lot to say, enjoy saying, and love the comment whoring aspect of this place. However, there are a few who have other motives.

In the past, I fucked up pretty badly. I admitted my admiration to a female blogger and things kinda got out of hand. I can't actually use the word "kindly". Things got well out of hand. I tried to recover with an apology, but there is nothing that I can say, to this day, that will ever make things right between us. I scared her. I understand that I crossed a boundary of hers and I can't take it back. She felt, and told me, that she believed that I had an "unhealthy obsession" towards her. I can see where she would assume so based on my interactions with her. Again, I fucked up. I digress. I scared her. I scared her very badly. She had some things, of which I never knew before this happened, online, which would scare anybody. That's why she did what she did and said what she said.

Yes, there are people online who have motives other than just chatting and swapping erotic stories, pic, vids, etc. They are actually out here to hunt. I believe there is one among us here who might just fit this description. This person had been warned (friendly speaking) on a few occasions, but he just doesn't seem to understand. This person has taken an "unhealthy obsession" towards my former New One, and currently called my Divergent One. My former New One - current Divergent One - is none other than sweet, little tabithaelectra79.

I, until now, have done a reasonably good job of not using Her name in my blog. She, rightly so, is a little secretive about Her life, and I felt it was not right to blast Her name all over my pathetic posts. Plus, honestly speaking, who in their right mind would want to be affiliated with crappy poetry? Who? LOL - I digress again. She has been the one who I've had a lot of interaction with and whom I wanted to one day meet should things in Her personal life not pan out. I was completely aware of Her personal life and never shared any of it on my blog for a reason. She did an amazing job of keeping me outside of certain boundaries of which I sometimes never knew that I even crossed. I never shared any of this information b/c, frankly, it's Her life, not mine. I had no right to write about it.

With all of that being said, there is a blogger amongst us who decided that Her entire blog was dedicated to him. He decided, even though She explained to him on more than one occasion, that Her posts were about Her BOYFRIEND and She. Her blog had zero, I mean zero to do with this male blogger - of which I will now entitle Flyboy Wanna Be Freak (stalker). You may find him at his blog flyboy631, however, I will save you ladies and post his latest post here. I would not want for any female to even be shown listed in his visited list, for I truly believe he has some mental handicap. Read that again... "some mental handicap".

Please read his latest post below (my comments are in red):

I have had a very turbulent day or so, which I why I didn’t spend any time here in blogland yesterday. There are certain things going on in my life at the moment, which are separate, different to anything I have written about in my blog before now. I think it is about time I came clean and explained all.

I started blogging early this year, as I was recommended to do so by someone, that same someone I often refer to as being “Special someone” or “Certain someone” or anything else similar. That someone is TabithaElectra79. I was just about at the point of closing my account and deleting my profile, when in a last chance few emails, I sent one to her. She was very positive and said that as she was blogging, so I got to know her through her blog, she said she would really love to get to know me if I was to write a blog of my own. This is how I got started in blogland in the first place.

"...she said she would really love to get to know me if I was to write a blog of my own." Sure, She's nice like that! That did not mean that She wanted to bare your children. We all have people who inspire us to start our own blogs. You just happened to pick one of the most popular females. She's popular b/c of Her writing and Her very sincere disposition.

At the time, we were also emailing each other fairly regularly, in one of these emails, she explained that She was with someone at the moment, but had to decide whether to move to Spain with them in August, as they were moving out there permanently. Having spent three and a half years travelling round Europe myself, I told her a little about what she might expect in life living in Spain, as I had been to Madrid many times. Furthermore I had a girl working for me at the time who was on permanent assignment to the Spanish office, and who lived in Madrid while this was going on. She, like so many others I came into contact with at the time, felt homesick and very depressed, normally within the first month or so of being there.

So, in other words, you were trying to manipulate Her into staying home and to bring up how home sick She would become so that Her 9 YEAR relationship would come to an end? You did this, I imagine, to get an "in". Let me guess... If he moved to Spain, without Her, She would come running into your arms, right? Gimme (Give me) a break! That is LOL funny! Although, yes, a very good Hollywood (movie) plot, it was poorly executed. Next time, why don't you tell Her how much Her cat will hate the travel? I think that would be a great way to really make Her feel bad about the trip and will ensure you get Her heart. As a matter of fact, the people such as your coworker are probably credible sources as well. Maybe you should allow your "special one" to interview your coworkers? However, I do feel you make a great point about how much She will miss home. Knowing She has you to return home to will definitely make Her move, in what I would guess, as little time as a week!

I also told her about an ex partner of mine, who was Italian, when I worked in the office in Milan for around 9 months, it was at the time when my own relationship back in the UK had soured, as I was working away from home such allot. This Italian girl and I got very close, to the point that she was to move over to the UK to live with me, but right at the last minute she said, she couldn’t come because she would miss her friends, family and country too much. I could see this was the way things would be with Tabs, as she has mentioned a number of times that her favourite pastime is spending days with her brother in London, and that she is very close to her mother and brother. This immediately made me realise that she would also be the same way. I tried a little gentle persuasion to hopefully get her to see this fact before it was too late.

"I could see this was the way things would be with Tabs, as she mentioned a number of times that her favourite pastime is spending days with her brother in London..." Right! You could see that, could you? You could see this whole thing through, based on a few emails?? When you look into your crystal ball, what do you see? Do you see Her 265 pound boyfriend's (Fiance now) hand reaching up and about to snag you by the throat? That's what I see, and I don't even have any email exchanges with you. Read that again, please. 265 pound (not to be confused with your currency) man, otherwise known as "Fiance of your 'special someone'". Hmm. What a long title, but well deserved none the less. LMAO

From that point on, she and I have through our relatively little communications become pretty close, or at least I have become close to her. She always told me right from the start, that if she decided not to got to Spain in August, she would love to get to know me much better. This I knew from talking to her was the right decision for her, whether she realises this at the moment or not. However, that is really not my decision to make, so she has to make that one for herself, I can only sit back and see it from a much wider angle as to what it was she is actually having to decide upon.

"...or at least I have become close to her." Now THAT's more like it! Finally you are coming around. You are becoming closer to HER, NOT, SHE was becoming closer to you!!! She would love to get to know you much better?? Dude, email, bro (surfer talk for brother which is also slang in this particular context). She probably was NOT hinting that you were going to have a go at it... I think you might refer to this as shagging, but it's been a few years since I've seen Austin Powers. "This I knew from talking to her was the right decision for her, whether she realises this at the moment or not." Are you freakin kidding me?? The only thing you know is that She stopped contacting you!

So strongly did I feel about this that things, not through my trying to get this message across, but through trying so hard, perhaps a little too hard to prove to her that she had someone in the shape of me that would love to be with her if she decided not to go. From this point onwards the communications between us became more and more scarce. This is when I was feeling so low a while ago, and when many of you offered me your hands of support and condolence, without really knowing what it was I was so upset about.

"So strongly did I feel about this that things, not through my trying to get this message across, but through trying so hard, perhaps a little too hard to prove to her that she had someone in the shape of me that would love to be with her if she decided not to go." Perhaps a little too hard? What gave it away, Her telling you that Her posts had zero to do with you? Someone in the shape of you?? Do you EVEN read Her blog? The Rock, Her fiance, Me (just kidding) have something in common. There is a common theme here of which you DO NOT fit. Let's see... Could it be that you are nowhere near what she is attracted to? She likes big, and I mean big, big, big boys. Fiance = 265 lbs. = Big... You = not so big. Did you stick your balls on the line by telling her this? I believe that you did. I actually commend you for that, as I did the very same. However, you are the type, from what I can tell, that thinks no actually means yes.

I developed a very powerful wanting and lust for Tabs right from when I first saw her profile and began talking with her. This is the subject of one or two of my posts, “Shining light” being one of them. It was from that point onwards that whenever I had a situation where I got a little frustrated, the first words that would come out of my mouth when I was in private was “Oh I need my Tabs!” This is something that with the recent events of having the two friends of mine to take care of, has happened all too often.

Ok, up until this point you were considered kinda kooky flyboy. After this sentence, you got relabled to that of, "Flyboy Wanna Be Freak (stalker)", or stalker for short. You say, "...had a situation where I got a little frustrated, the first words that would come out of my mouth when I was in private was 'Oh I need my Tabs!'" This is the most insane thing that I have ever, and I mean ever, read on this site!! I have read about [blog bulgingboy]'s scat, I have read about bardicman being gay, but your Tabs??? This, my fellow blogger (almost slipped and said, my friend) is where your brain must've shut down. Where in your RIGHT mind did you think you would ever get away with saying that? Your Tabs? Fact: She has a fiance!!!! You knew that when you wrote this post! You knew that b/c you read what the rest of us read about her gift. If you need to borrow my meds, fine, but you need some! LMFAO - And you wonder why She asked you to go away??

When I went to the funeral of my friend some weeks ago, this was in Kent, in the South East of the UK, which is exactly where Tabs lives, so the one thing that kept me going throughout that very emotional ordeal was the fact I kept thinking to myself “My Tabs lives round here somewhere”

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, but what? "...the one thing that kept me going throughout that very emotional ordeal was the fact I kept thinking to myself 'My Tabs lives round here somewhere'". Kept you going through your friend's death? Your friend died, and the ONE thing that kept you going was a girl that you've never met lived near the area you were standing. A girl that hinted to you to quietly go away lived near there? That is what kept you going? lexapro is the medication I'm on. It's for anxiety, but maybe it could help you through the voice you hear... I can't believe you actually had the balls to write "My Tabs" knowing she had a fiance. I thought I had balls, with all of the fighting I do, but you, sir, have a brass pair!! I would NOT want that giant (man, sorry) after my ass, and I like to fight.

I have learned this morning, through reading her blog, that she has in fact decided she will go to Spain, which is something, well, I’ll let you work it out for yourselves.

"...which is something, well..." you will not get to participate in. That's what it is.

Therefore, not only because of commitments etc. but mainly for this reason, I am going to have a break away from Blogging for the foreseeable future. Some of you I have become good friends with, I have exchanged external email and messenger details with, and others I haven’t. If anyone else would like to chat with me, by all means email me your external contact details, and wherever possible I will endeavour to chat to you. I will not be checking this site that often, but, I will be notified through my personal email of any new emails I receive here, so if I receive any, I will wherever possible login purely to check my email and if necessary respond to them.

You will so be checking this site often... You'll be checking back in to see if the Love of Your Life has written her unnanounced obsession for you. Sheesh! Will you respond to my email?

If Tabs doesn’t see this post for herself, which as she’s read and commented on my blog once in the last month or so, I’m not sure she will, then if any of you reading this regularly frequent her own blog, maybe you would like to point out that this post is here and that she may like to take a look at it.

Maybe I will point out to all the females on this site to stay clear of your post and blog... She may like to look at it? Oh do I believe she and her fiance would love to read it to each other aloud!

As you all can see, I may have messed up with another female blogger on this site, but what do you all think about this guy? Do you think this is "normal" behavour? I know for certain this has deeply upset Her and I know that She is a little scared. I pointed out that She should not worry, as Her fiance is the size of most smaller lofts here in the Atlanta area... Yes, I care for Her, as She is a very great girl. I do, however, respect my boundaries (learned not long ago) and have completely backed off. What you read above, however, is, in my opinion, well out of line. He has zero respect for Her fiance and that should speak volumes about his character.

EroticaXTC 49F

5/25/2006 12:39 pm

that's scary

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:25 am:
That's what I thought as well...

elbman 41M  
2566 posts
5/25/2006 4:35 pm

The phrase "Terms of Use" comes to mind........

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:26 am:

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
5/25/2006 5:13 pm

I think you are giving him the attention he seeks and we should just leave him be and move on! Tabitha can block and ban him if she so desires.

Purry {=}


aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:26 am:
Well, yes, there is that way of looking at it, but I was also going for public embarrasment.

whats4dessert2 49M

5/25/2006 9:00 pm

I agree with you aas but, equally as imprtantly, I agree with Purry

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:26 am:
Thanks, I think...

Knot4Everyone 40F

5/25/2006 10:10 pm


aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:27 am:

alphuctup 40M

5/26/2006 1:10 am

Blimey Charlie!

aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:27 am:
Who's Charlie? What's a blimie?

SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
5/26/2006 8:38 am

I think you are so valiant to look out for TabithaElectra79, but beware of promoting this guy. It may turn out that several of your readers feel more sympathy toward him than anger.
I think this guy is a complete frightening freak. Good for you to point him out. *kiss*


aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:28 am:
Thanks... She was my New One, so yes, I was going to defend her.

evil_lolita 34F

5/27/2006 7:51 am

I think I agree with Purry, to be honest.

Being that I don't know the extent of the interaction between them, I'll tell you my gut reaction to just reading this - he's nothing to worry about. He's some kinda freak, lacks emotional intuition and social graces, but a ban and block would take care of him and that would be the end of it. IMO.

Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.

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aascrompn replies on 5/27/2006 10:29 am:
Yes, it would've, but it was very uncool to drag her handle into it...

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