what to do???  

aVirginBDSMsub 58F
29 posts
8/11/2006 7:14 pm

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what to do???

As you know from my previous blog, I have recently started seeing a guy, who was divorced early this year. after several months, his ex wife wants him to have full custody of the kids. The kids feel abandoned, unloved by their mom so he wants to spend all his time with them so that they feel safe and loved. He said that he will try to keep in touch with me as much as he can. (he also works full time and have many summer side jobs--landscaping, electric, plumbing. And he lives over 60 miles away.) well, it has been 3 weeks now, I have sent him emails called him 3 times and twice left messages but haven't heard back from him nor has he been online that i can tell. I have offered to go there and see him or cook him dinner or help him out.

what I wanted to know is should i give him more time? or what should i do? Btw, he has never lied to me so I don't think he is now. What do you think is going on?

SexGoddess2901 51F
207 posts
8/11/2006 8:06 pm

He may be having a hard time adjusting to having all the responsibility of taking care of the kids. I think I would go see him and see if there is anything I could do. He may need your help but doesn't know how to ask or may not think he should. Just a thought.

Hope it all works out for you!

rm_skyeone2 64M/45F
7186 posts
8/12/2006 5:05 am

I too hope it all works out for you, and if you do decide to go to help him out, make sure you let him know that you are ONLY there to help. Let him know that you are not there to take over mothering duties, that you're only there as a friend. You sure don't want to show up there only to have him upset because he thinks you're there for all the wrong reasons!

Best of luck,

Blessed Be

SirMounts 102M

8/12/2006 3:28 pm

Well, it's hard to tell, because you know Him far better than anyone who reads your post. If I were to suggest anything, it would be to trust in your intuition, and ask yourself how you feel about the situation. One rarely goes wrong, when doing that.
I like your blog, aVirginBDSMsub. *smiling*

sixstringbook 50M

8/13/2006 9:37 am

If he isn't returning your phone calls that's the first clue ... maybe consider leaving him one more saying something like "I don't know what, if anything, you want from me; why not give me a call and let me know? Until then I'll quit bothering you." Then keep your word and stop calling. He'll either call you and talk it out or he won't. Either way, you'll have your answer. Make it easy for him to call you, don't make him afraid that he's walking into a fight, but if he can't find 5 minutes in his week to talk to you it's 99% certain he's moved on.

Hope I helped ...

LoverNmidwest 60M

9/11/2006 7:45 am

As an outsider here looking into your blog (thanks for allowing me to)...I am also a gentleman who has met women during a busy time in my life. While I was consumed with my circumstances at the time, I always took the time to keep the lady in the circle of my thoughts...even if it was with a quick phone call or email. To do otherwise, gives the impression that she was fine for the moment, but not for the long run. Your desire for friendship and commitment seems stronger than his...just be careful. I have known some of my women friends who drug out their emotions out for a year or two before admitting, there were not getting anywhere in the relationship, and admitted they were waisting time. Time is precious, and there be another guy just around the corner who you may "miss" because you are waiting....for nothing.
Good luck...

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