The blogs can be hurtful  

_Bound4Pleasure 50F
338 posts
7/31/2006 12:14 pm
The blogs can be hurtful


Blogland, can be hell. Can wear thin on your last nerve. Not just what I have been writing, but reading. My O My...
I read one of these and wondered....sheeeeeesh is that me? You think something has been terribly miscontrued...so you ask, publically putting your name out there, ask if the blog is meant about you....no replies so now you know it HAS to be you! Being an adult, you know people arent all going to get along, however, you like for there to be a reason. Thankfully in speaking to another friend, who also thought the blog was about her. confessed to me, it wasnt about me....phewwww. I'm happy though, that my friend cleared up matters with this blogger and all is happy now......HA
I read abother blog from a friend of mine, a GOOD friend, who spoek of someone, and blasted them about an invitation. I thought the entire thing was misunderstood, and as much as I wasnt taking sides, I tried to explain how I saw it, and lets face it, aren't I always right. well NOT this time...I wish I had kept my mouth shut, wish i had not responded at all. I was totally mistaken on the invitation process.....LOL so mistaken, I didn't/couldn't score an invite either! My friend God Bless her, hasn't put this friendship on "iggy" cause I was so outspoken, however, I wish I hadn't said a friggin word.
I have been blasted in another blog, about a relationship I have with a friend. After that, I went to good friend, wpset....this blog really hurt... My friend open my eyes to just how hurtful this mode of communication can be, including MINE. I blogged about an incident, and actually was glad the girl came forward, and talked to me about it. I flew off the handle, I should have gone to her first, given her the opportunity to talk, before blasting her.
I have used this blog as a sounding board..great way to vent...if you don't care about others feelings. I do...so after realizing that...and being SO guilty myself, I'm dedicating this blog, for simple thoughts...no more venting! no more talking about other people, in codes or inuendo..
If I blog, its going to be out my simple life...
no more negativity. Maybe some erotic stories, who knows!
Michael, Jamie...thanks for helping me realize, I was using this in the wrong fashion!

so heres to happy thoughts! and a new blog fashion!

softnlush 53F

7/31/2006 6:37 pm

Hiya..nope blogs are for whatever you want it to be,whether it is just rambling about your feelings,or venting safely..not everyone reads them and if they do and see themselves,oh well..there is nothing wrong with stating a feeling,bad..good..or indifferent..dang I use my blog to emotionlly regurgitate almost every time lol..it is ok ..it is your place to say what you wish..and if they cannot take it..oh well..too bad,so sad..blunt but honest,that is me..keep bloggins girlie..it is healthy..even if you use it for just happy thoughts,it is your place to do just that

~~~snl~~~


_Bound4Pleasure 50F
204 posts
7/31/2006 10:34 pm

    Quoting softnlush:
    Hiya..nope blogs are for whatever you want it to be,whether it is just rambling about your feelings,or venting safely..not everyone reads them and if they do and see themselves,oh well..there is nothing wrong with stating a feeling,bad..good..or indifferent..dang I use my blog to emotionlly regurgitate almost every time lol..it is ok ..it is your place to say what you wish..and if they cannot take it..oh well..too bad,so sad..blunt but honest,that is me..keep bloggins girlie..it is healthy..even if you use it for just happy thoughts,it is your place to do just that

    ~~~snl~~~
I'm the one that can't take it though...
I dont think they are meant to be hurtful to people...
I don't want to hurt people! I don't want to be hurt.
I think it's just more grown up and bring it to the attention of the person that you have an issue with...
funny thing....many times we realize we worried, we were upset, we shed tears only because something was misconstrued. If we don't confront the individual, we will harbor ill thoughts, which isnt healthy for anyone!


softnlush 53F

8/1/2006 4:09 am

well it is hard sometimes to read something that may or may not be about you..but I guess we have to agree to disagree on the use for the blogs..as I have said hundreds of times,I liken the blogs to a diary..a public diary,true..but a diary nonetheless..and I do not know about you,but not only did I write in a diary as a younger person,I wrote everything I felt,whether it was dreams,fantasies,a crush,light hearted things,and the darkest of things,and people who hurt me and people I could not care less about,the difference is,my written diary was not read by others..this one is..which is the only reason I try to be vague..sometimes I succeed,other times I do not..about talking over my issues with those I have issues with,I guess I am cold hearted..I'd rather not,because I think I got em pretty much pegged as never gonna change,so why waste my energy? I do not want to hurt feelings outright,so if I chose to speak to them,more than likely that would be the end result..that is not good,right? I had someone write a blog about me..well actually,use a blog post that I had written(and deleted) against me is a better way to put it..I read it,did not comment and by ignoring it,they eventually removed it..my feelings were not hurt,but it showed me the person they were..so that was that as they say LOL ,but I definitely can relate to what you are saying..and I feel bad that you got some of the icky crap handed to you..write what you want to write about,but I just feel at the same time,do not censor your feelings either..just my 5cents worth of worthless advice ...be happy girlie


heavensent11236 52F

8/1/2006 4:14 am

Why in the world would I even consider putting our friendship on iggy? Thats the deal with a grown-up friendship, nobody ever said you had to agree all the time, people do have differences of opinions but I never considered for a second ending the friendship over it.
Friends also will tell you the truth, even if you don't want to hear it sometimes, again that what being friends is about, so no Susan we are still very definately friends.


Xeryien 51M
1445 posts
8/1/2006 11:12 am

Maybe some erotic stories, who knows!

Can I put my requests in?


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