My priorities seem out of whack!  

_Bound4Pleasure 50F
338 posts
6/19/2006 8:00 am
My priorities seem out of whack!

Made plans to spend evening with folks. Cookout, poor mom had to do everything....but they are the ones that decided to move half way across the state, and didn't want to come to Pinellas for dinner.
Its a hike, i know it, i go up often, try to once a week, but lately its been every other week. They usually have a "honey do" list for me. I glady do it. Its now June, I can't count hoe many times I have been up that way. My sister, her first trip since Christmas!
Oh her kids are up there alot, she sends them every other weekend- the weekend they are not at their dads, but she hasn't made her way up there. just too far she says!
I was kind of surprised she agreed to go up last night. Once she got out of work, we were on road!
Guests included- other than us, a family friend, my dads twin brother, and his daughter, my sister's best friend!
Dinner was hardly over...actually dessert hadn't even been offered yet. Nancy and Donna announce they are going out, to meet someone at a local bar.
Now I figure it out. she didnt buck going up there, cause she set up a date! They asked if I wanted to go, but I said nope, here to spend the night with dad, so Ill watch the game with him.
We had plans to spend the night, which thrilled both my parents.
Well Nancy got back to the house, at about 11, saying she really needed to go home. she just didnt think she should spend the night and leave the animals alone, for that long. The dog really needed to be walked.
My dad suggested to send one of my kids over to walk the dog, she said oh no, we would just leave. I Could see the disappointment on their faces, Nancy seemed to be blinded by that. Back to Pinellas we went.
We got home, and she hopped on PC, that dog NEVER got walked!
Not until i walked him at 8 AM when I got up.
I tried to talk to her about, "maybe it would have been nice if we stayed with mom and dad"
She proclaims, she has a life and must live it!
already had "wasted" 7 hours.
LOl she failed to realize, she hadnt, she incorporated a date up there. LOL she was still "living her life"
I understand we have lives, and I know they can be busy, but don't we have an obligation to our family.
Our parents we wonderful to us growing up, sacraficing alot, so we had what we wanted!
Shouldn't we do the same now, sacraficing a few hours, a few days, of our "precious" time - just to make them happy!
My parents don't want or need for anything materialistic. they just love spending time with "their girls" Doesn't seem like that much to ask for.
Maybe I'm mistaken here, maybe family shouldnt be in the number one spot, maybe someone will prove me wrong one day. Honestly though, I hope not! I enjoy every minute I spend with them and do it as often I can!

LovableAscending 59F

6/19/2006 9:53 am

Isn't it funny how two people can grow up in the same house and be so different? You and Nancy are like day and night. I do agree with her in that each person needs to live his/her life to the fullest, but not at the expense of someone else's feelings when a pinch of time is all they want.
I know I have been guilty myself of not spending much time with my parents lately, and you know the whole story behind that. But they understand my job situation has changed and I am still recovering from some serious emotional blows. Even when we were going through our rough times I never refused an invitation from them. I just couldn't hurt them that way.
We have resolved most of our differences, and even if we don't put all of them to rest I will never turn my back on them. They are my parents. I love them dearly and I always will. And I know I won't have the luxury of their presence forever. I hope Nancy realizes that before it's too late.

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