What's so hard about a condom?  

YesMissTia 43F
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10/25/2005 1:15 pm

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3/6/2006 6:37 am

What's so hard about a condom?

In the days that AIDS is so rampant why is it that so many people still don't like wearing condoms? It should seem like a no brainer to me. Help me out with understanding this one. If you're not in a steady sexual relationship that you know there's only the 2 of you why not? I mean we all know it's quite a few things we can catch with one on still but I'm not sure any of those are a guaranteed death sentence like AIDS is. Ok crabs crawl and bite, irritating but curable. Herpes eew the thought.(What's up with all the dam Valtrex commercials like the shit is cool or something?) Fellas help me understand this please.

cfManishere625 31M

11/2/2005 12:28 am

Alright, I'm safe everytime, definately. But have you ever had unprotected sex? I have a few times with a girl I really trusted, and let me tell you, I loved it so damn much, the condom is uncomfortable as all hell. Also, I've talked to a few women, quite a few women like the feel of an uncovered cock more than a covered one. Hell, I wanted to wear a condom with that girl I mentioned before after one time of being unprotected and she practically begged me to not wear the condom because of how it felt for her. I wear one every time unless I've been with her quite a few times and can trust she has nothing, but still, it's understandable that guys don't want to, just that they HAVE to...

YesMissTia 43F

11/2/2005 8:57 pm

Ok maybe it's me, but for the girl there really is no difference. It's in her head if she thinks there is. (unless she is allergic to latex that is). I have asked most of my friends, women of course. They all say it doesnt feel any different to them unless they are a bit dry there. Seeing if she was dry with or without it would still be uncomfortable.
The moral of this story is, don't let a girl con you into some shit you can't get out of. (Babies, diseases, or any other thing she can scheme on)

rm_detroitguy73 43M

1/5/2006 9:28 am

Protected sex only actually protects your from children. That's still not full proof. Wearing a condom should be done. But if you really want to be protected you would have to wear one during oral sex men would have to use dental damn when preforming oral on a woman. French kissing would have to be eliminated. Sure the risk is less but it's still a risk. The HIV virus is carried in all bodily fluids not just seman and vaginal fluids. With so many accessable STD's sex is not safe unless you are a virgin and marry a virgin.

Should we us protection YES. Are we protected? Yes, more than not using it. Only true protections is not having sexual relations. Will that happen? NOT TO ME... Great Topic.. I'm not sure if I answered your question but I feel like I have helped.

YesMissTia 43F

1/5/2006 11:14 am

Actually in order to catch AIDS from kissing you would have to be swallowing gallons of spit from the person. Seeing that I don't think thats possible unless you just open your mouth and they spit in it. As for what a condom protects from. Babies are number 1, AIDS, herpes, the claps as well as quite a few more things. What it doesnt protect you from is, crabs,scabies, mono (kissing disease) and a few others but all are curable. Accept warts. I will take my chances with one than without. Sure we have all been caught off guard and didnt but thats not any more.

1highsexdrive 47M
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1/5/2006 12:20 pm

Ok, here the real skinny on wearing condoms vs not wearing them. True women don't see any difference unless it an allergic reaction or they're just to dry for them to handle. But to men there is a complete difference between the two. Condoms cuts down on our sensitivity not yours. Understand the vagina gets wet for a few reasons. 1) So its easy to penatrate 2) To "ACT" as a stimulate for the head of the penis (just like the clit. Look at it this way. Most wonem enjoy getting there pussies eaten right? Just imagine if they was eating your pussy but not licking and sucking your clit. You be upset because that's part of it right. That's how we feel except instead there's no attention to the head. 3)We want to enjoy the wetness too if not we might as well just jack our dicks because in essence that's what were doing anyway with a condom on. So what's the use of having sex if you're not getting any pussy. 4) I can't understand this one, women will say put a condom on but first get down and suck a man's dick first. That is so ass backwards if you're really into safe sex. 5) Peronally, I don't like them because, outside of it cutting out the wetness that I like to feel. It also keeps me from feeling the different contours and textures inside the pussy. I like to feel where the head of my Dick is. Kinda like a real sensitive finger probing looking for all the spots to make her cringe, squeal, or be violently orgasmic. Not to mention it being as hard as a brick while I'm searching and destroying. If you have the right man, with the right dick and the right stamina unprotected sex is mind blowing with it its alright nothing to write home about. And that's how most men feels when it come to with or without. Now don't get me wrong with all the diseases you have to use them. But what I do is yeah in the beginning when I meet someone I wear them but as time goes on we go get checked and if when it comes back negative then we discuss birth control which is why you you'd be wearing them now that you know. I hope I shed a little light on the subject because its so easy for a woman to say put on a condom because it doesn't affect them so yeah you all wouldn't care but for us its a big deal. Happy New Year.

YesMissTia 43F

1/5/2006 6:51 pm

1highsex, yes you are so right. With the way that women are catching AIDS faster than the men. I don't care if you don't like it or not. put a little ky jelly inside the tip before you put it on or try the polyurathane condoms if you want more feeling. What it boils down to is this do i want you to feel me or do i want to feel the affects of, losing weight, shitting on myself, dementia, diarhea, as well as other effects. Just in case you didnt know those are some of the things you feel and do in the late stages of AIDS. I watched a friend die from it. It is fucking horrible. Again do I care about how much you feel vs me being safe. That's a no brainer.

rm_detroitguy73 43M

1/6/2006 1:32 pm

As far as kissing and gallons of spit... If the person has a dime sore the the mouth, Bit his tongue earlier at dinner or suffers from gum problems. The blood mixed with the saliva is enough to transfer HIV and Hepititus.

Condoms are a must... But You're not protected as much as you think.

YesMissTia 43F

1/7/2006 8:25 am

You know arguing this point is a moot point because you think your answer is right and im sure mine is so you do you and I will do me. It has gotten me pretty far.

Wurlybird9 37M

1/8/2006 4:16 am

You can always both get tested. Of course as soon you leave each others' sight, I guess the test is moot.

Maybe one day there will be some self-test that can be done cheaply and regularly.

Of course, there's always the possibility of some new disease that has not been identified by science.

I don't really like using a jacket, and I have gone without, but, I'm a risk taker. I figure as long as you have fairly current papers and you know the person well enough, the odds are slim enough. However, If someone doesn't want to take chances, I respect that, and I'll play that way.

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