Odd Ducks...  

XesSex03 50M/49F
99 posts
10/15/2005 3:21 pm

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Odd Ducks...

I guess I'm strange...abnormal...different...OK, weird, even.

One of the guys at work has taken to hanging around at lunch, and sits in the office and chats with me. We have some really great conversations. We started off talking about the differences between men and women, why they think and do the things that they do, and we moved into relationships, and of course, Sex. We have shared some VERY interesting sexual conversations. He is astounded that I am open enough to feel comfortable talking about sex. Of course, sometimes I enjoy making some comments just for the shock value...You should see his FACE!! LMAO

Anyway, Mr. Xes and I have a very open and secure relationship. Mostly secure anyway, I do have my little idiosyncracies. (he is required to kiss me goodbye anytime he goes somewhere, and tell me he loves me a gazillion times a day)But I do not have any jealousy...nope, not a jealous bone in my body. If he wants to go out with the guys? "Hey, Babe, have a great time!" Going to the strip club? "Make sure you visit the VIP room with the cutest one ". I catch him craning his neck to look at a nicely rounded ass in a cute pair of jeans, and I just smile and shake my head. After all, he's married...I didn't have his eyeballs removed just after the ceremony! I have always been of the opinion that if he didn't want to be here, then I didn't want him. My self esteem has never been so low, and my confidence so lacking as to believe that I have to use any controlling method in my arsenal to keep this man...any man. I also am of the (probably not so humble) opinion that, if he took off to greener pastures, well, I'd certainly be able to hook me another bull by the horns! Don't misunderstand. I don't WANT him to leave, and I would be heartbroken. But I would survive, and I would not use guilt or other manipulative means to convince him to stay. Mr. Xes is the same way about our relationship. He is not jealous when I flirt with other guys (or women for that matter). He loves for men to crane their necks to look at me in my mini-skirts, and try to guess IF I have panties on. This is just the nature of our marriage. We are honest with each other, non-possessive, non-controlling and very, very satisfied and content.

Apparently, this makes us strange. According to my co-worker, this makes us "not normal" and means that we don't really love each other...It can't be TRUE love, not "from your heart, Forever kind of love". I guess I don't understand the type of love that he is talking about. I don't understand a love that harbors jealousy, envy and anger. I don't understand love that is controlling and manipulative. I don't understand love that is not giving, sharing, and above all does not want the other person to be happy, even if their happiness lies in the heart and arms of another.

If that is what love is like for the rest of the world, then whatever it is, I want no part of it. I've seen the misery, discontent, desolation and despair that kind of "love" leads people to. I've seen the broken homes due to distrust. You folks can keep it all!! Mr. Xes and I will continue our brand of love that appreciates the lack of complication that is brought about by that other type of love.

We'll just continue to be strange.
Mrs. Xes

AmberSolaire 42M

10/19/2005 8:52 pm

strange can be a good thing.depends on perspective

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rm_NEEDSsex24_7 37M

10/20/2005 1:08 am

First I thought I'd take the time to say thank you for posting on my blog. I thought I'd return the favor by posting to yours, especially on a topic that I feel very strongly about. I guess you can say i'm not normal either because I also try to live my life without the jealousy and anger that most relationships have. One simple way that works for me is being honest with each other. That's it. If more people would stop being so afraid to speak their mind, epsecailly to the one they're supposed to love, a lot of divorces and break-ups could be avoided. When your unhappy in the relationship, rather than look elsewhere for happyness, talk to the one you love about why your unhappy and work on it. At least give them the chance to solve the problem before giving them the boot because nobody's perfect. Most problems in relationships stem from a lack of communication. Rather than talk about what they like and dislike, couples tend to bottle up things because they're afraid of what the other might think if they told them. So now what was once a little problem, boils into a major issue that the other had now idea about util it's too late. If your partner is unwilling or unable to fix the problem then at least you tried and you go your seperate ways. If you truly love someone, you want them to be happy no matter what. Even if it's not with you. So to Mrs. Xes, I say continue being "not normal" and love each other the way that works for you and always be upfront and honest with each other. I wish you both well.

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
10/20/2005 2:09 pm

It is strange. Most people dont trust each other at all and let jealousy run their lives, I think you guys are great.

rm_jojoyoyojojo 56M
73 posts
12/21/2005 3:41 pm

You are the luckiest strangers in the world. My wife and I play but it can never involve others. I like it when she dresses provactively and other guys check her out. I think she likes it as well. I love to point it out to her when guys are flirting or noticing.
The converse is not true! She hates it when women even begin to flirt with me!

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