Did I understand what was going on????  

WntAMstress 44F
43 posts
10/27/2005 8:59 am

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Did I understand what was going on????

As I sit here , I am thinking back to growing up and well, Is it or was it wrong for a friend of family to be a Mistress....??? She was happily married and He was too but when they were together they had the time of their lives...They were happy and laughing and doing things and talking about their spouses with each other...He kept her with clothes, money, hotel rooms, whatever he decided and his wife knew everything going on... Her husband knew she took trips with this gentleman and that she would be gone from time to time but knew that she was secure in their marriage that she was not leaving him just having a change of scenery for a weekend ... or so... everyone was ok with it ... and as far as I know they are still doing this... am I wrong for seeing her as a "swinger role model" ...???? where is it wrong if everyone is happy... she doesnt work she is at the gentlemens beckon call and they respect and understand that FAMILY comes first... why cant we all get along this well???? well, that is my thought for now.... something to ponder I guess?????

caravan1952 64M/60F
12 posts
10/27/2005 11:11 am

well if everyone is happy so be it

mailmantrouser2 54M
534 posts
10/27/2005 12:37 pm

It seems like an ideal situation for all three you mention, but did the husband not want any other female attachments? Was the gentleman in question married or otherwise attached? If so, did his partner know and approve? If so, more power to them. Did they ever take group trips together, either three or four of them?

I must assume that you are the lady in the middle here, enjoying a wonderful situation. Enjoy it while it lasts and be wary of jealousy rearing it's head! How would you like it if your husband was involved with another lady, covertly or openly?

Wishing you well.


WildcatJunkie 42M

10/27/2005 9:56 pm

Morality is selective so right and wrong all depends on your personal beliefs. I say No harm no foul.

WinchesterKY69er 40M

11/4/2005 4:12 am

I agree totally that morality is selective...every decision we make is situational. What was right for her may not be right for someone else, but then again it could be perfect for someone else. The most important key to a marriage is communication. As long as you have that in working order, everything else is just icing on the cake.

rm_marinecando 105M

11/15/2005 8:53 am

If you don't tell your partner that this is the kind of life style that you want to live and make the partner think they are the only one that is going to be your sex partner then I feel it is wrong because then you've miss led them and betrayed them. If you are straight and up front about your life style and they agree to it then it is OK.

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