Sex Education  

WikkdBrnSugAnCrm 86M/51F
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3/9/2006 10:05 pm

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Sex Education

During and shortly thereafter, there was very little adult supervision of pre-teen, teens, and young adults. Everyone worked within the war effort, and then to rebuild the industrial complex, and convert it back to civilian consumer products. The end result was that half a generatin of kids grew up pretty much on their own.

There is a sharp parallel in today's society - because kids no longer have any economic value, many parents pursue their interests and occupations without much concern about their progeny. When I spoke to one pair about leaving three kids at home for six hours while they partied, the reply was "We have HBO!" - as if the TV was a competent baby sitter. This neglect produces predictable results.

Of the 50 within my circle of friends in Jr. Hi. - all of the males except two served time either as 'juvies' or adults. In the family next door, the four girls between the ages of 9 and 21 were all sexually active. I stole cigarettes and traded them to a friend who had a supply of condoms from a brother in the service (you couldn't buy condoms in those days unless you were male, 21 or married). I smoked from age eight and could never buy cigarettes (even from a machine) - but they weren't difficult to steal.

My salvation was a series of very good and thoughtful teachers - I had bad ones too, but they didn't count as much. I was not 'forced' into an irresponsible pattern in Hi School - the coach and I had an agreement - I wouldn't do his stupid workbooks (which were the 3rd. exposure to the same material), and he would give me "C"s. fair enough! My deficiencies in English were helped, but too little - too much emphasis on syntax and not enough on the correction of spoken and written English. But an excellent instructor in my first year of college turned me around - eventually I obtained an English/Journalism minor at the BA level.

But I see very little of the caring, insight, and the needed attention today. The kids are falling thru the cracks, and becoming institutionalized, in grinding poverty, hopeless marriages, and dead-end employment.

Neither parents nor schools nor society as a whole takes responsibility for educating kids about the really important aspects of their future lives. The sex education programs today need to contend with movies and TV that exploit sex in such a way as to warp the minds of adults as well as children. Little is done to curb early pregnancy, beacuse the Pope says it's a sin! Ruined lives is the real sin. And the evidence that the church is in the forefront of negative teaching and activity is pouring into our courts.

A big part of good sex education is good economic education - if you can't pay your today's bills today, you surely will not be able to pay today's and tommorow's bills tomorrow. Easy credit is a deep, dark hole that traps those who aren't taught to avoid it. Investment in durable goods hasn't changed all that much - a refrigerator costs two weeks wages and lasts 15 years - very much as it did in 1940. But a fancy set of wheels can put a person with a good job in financial straights - during my generation and the two before me, and good car (new or almost) was first acquired at about the tenth wedding anniversary. Now the peer group pushes kids into impossible payment plans before they graduate from High School.

Kids are not ready to have kids! Accidental pregnancy is just that - an accident, that has repercusions and solutions. Too often people who have nothing to loose push those who do, into untenable decisions and situations. Abortion is an option. Adoption is an option. How many of those carrying placards outside clinics have ever even considered adopting - none! Check the number of Downs syndrome children born to very young girls - then check who adopts them - certainly not the Pope.

People in general could use some real instruction in the art of making love to a loved one, and that kind of advise could be used very early - slightly before the kid becomes sexually active. But because of the lack of it, many adults are unnecessarily unhappy. The movies and pornography are not the answer - they raise unreasonable expectations - even AdultFriendFinder engenders the idea that there are a lot of people 'out there' that are into what you want - when actually, often what you want isn't what is best for either of you. The best result comes from mutuality, not the satisfaction of an individual 'want'.

rm_jst4blog 48M/48F
37 posts
3/9/2006 11:22 pm

As parents, we consider it our responsibility to educate our children about sex. We think that they are comfortable enough with us to come to us with any questions they may have. Our 17 y/o has been coming to us for the past 2 years. While we wish he had waited ... we do remember what it was like to be 'feeling the urge at that age'. Where abstinence is not an option he wishes to partake, at least he isn't basing his knowledge on what he has learned from TV or his friends.

WikkdBrnSugAnCrm 86M/51F

3/10/2006 5:50 pm

Good for you! It seems today that most parents don't converse with their children - we had a rule that we always ate supper together, and the parents mostly listened, but were in a position to offer advise if asked. Abstinance is a really difficult goal in any time or place, but is particularly difficult here and now.

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