What Do You Think Honestly?  

Wickedcurve 53M
281 posts
6/3/2006 7:29 pm

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6/4/2006 8:33 pm

What Do You Think Honestly?

It has come to my attention that I've upset someone however this is, was, and never will be my intention to do so to anyone. We've chatted many times and all the while flirted with one another. It was really fun getting to know them. Now they've gotten upset with me because they have seen some of the the flirtatious replies I've made to various people on my posts. We met only once but the truth is it upsets me to upset anyone.

If you've read any of my responses to any one individuals comments to my posts you will have noticed that I come across in a respectful yet flirtatious manner but at the same time not overbearing and offensive. It is all in fun. It is natural as well. Men and women flirt with one another. Now of course if there is an agreement between a man and a woman that they are an exclusive couple then I believe the flirtations should be kept between themselves. I am single and until such time there is a discussion with another indivudual about changing that status I will remain as such. If there are no discussions of that nature wouldn't it be safe to think that you're still single and still be able to flirt?

I understand completely how emotions can be. I've been on both sides of the fence. I can remember a time when I used to hold out for that one special person. Then when I would meet them and lets say we would become physically intimate I would be completely captivated by them. Now of course at the same time I cannot say they were on the same page as I was however I would believe they were. Almost always it would come to a ruinous end. Then I've been on the other side of the fence where someone would become captivated with me. That would almost always come to a ruinous end as well. These are all unfortunate events.

So where is the middle ground? I've met and went out with quite a few women over the years. Over that period of time I've met some wonderful women and have had some wonderful times. However there have been a few times that feelings were hurt although not intentionally. These events would upset me because it is not in my nature to be that way. So it came to a time where I told myself that I was finished going out with women until such time I would find someone that I felt I wanted to pursue something more than just a good time with.

It was just a few weeks ago that a lady I had been seeing for a couple of months emailed me saying she wanted to cease dating me. She said that she just didn't want anything long term right now. The email was a result of me telling her the week before that I enjoyed spending time with her and enjoyed being around her. I didn't think what I said was that serious however I guess she took it that way. So once again here I had held out for someone that I thought there would be a possible LTR in the air and then that happens.

I really don't know what the answers are. I guess I said it best in my profile when I wrote,...

'If I had the choice between having sex with a different woman everyday for the rest of my life or making love to the same woman everyday for the rest of my life I would choose the second choice. Until that happens I'll go with the first choice.'

I would like to know what any of you think. Maybe I am wrong,...I've been wrong before.

goodatpoetry2 67M
13203 posts
6/3/2006 10:01 pm

I know NOTHING about what happened between you and the other person, so my comments WILL NOT BE ABOUT THAT.
Let's make that clear.

But so much of what you said here hits home with me.
Your thoughts and feelings, and past echo mine ALMOST EXACTLY, except, you word it much better than I could.
I, too, have stopped dating mostly for those reasons. I HATE hurting women and DO NOT want to be the cause of it.
But I miss firting very much, thus, I'm here.
Until I am involved with a woman seriously, I will continue to flirt, but only on here, probably. To even flirt, in real life, seems to cause problems sometimes,but on here the distance between me and them keeps it safe. Usually.
I was shocked when I read your post. You've put into words one of my deepest problems. Better than I could.

AGAIN, I know nothing about what happened and I AM NOT taking your side. But I do understand what you've said here, maybe more than most. I look at what you've written and can't believe that this isn't my blog.
It's spooky.

Wickedcurve replies on 6/4/2006 4:31 pm:
Thank you for your comment to my post brother.

countryheart_71 45F
8082 posts
6/3/2006 11:26 pm

It sounds like the wrong woman at the wrong time or atleast in different areas of each of your lives at that time. You can't give up or you will never find it. Take a break and just enjoy life to it's fullest. You never know what life may have waiting around the corner for you. I agree with you on the flirting part, if you are in a committed monogamous relationship, then the flirting should be kept between the two involved. But if you aren't committed in any way and nothing has been discussed of this happening, then there is nothing wrong with flirting. Some people's feelings do get hurt very easily. I have been there before but I have learned alot since then. Maybe this is an area that she has not learned in yet. I'm not trying to insult anyone at all. That is not my intention by that comment. We all go through different things at different times in our lives, so we all have lessons learned differently. I hope this makes some sense and helps you. Like you said, you have it stated in your profile, just as I have stated in mine what I am looking for. Whether the person reads your profile or not is up to them. If you didn't go up to her and say that you wanted to be committed to her, then there shouldn't be any feelings hurt here. I know that's easier said than done. I for one look forward to seeing that you have created a new post and do enjoy reading them.


Wickedcurve replies on 6/4/2006 4:32 pm:

Hydragenias 56F

6/4/2006 8:57 am

"I am single and until such time there is a discussion with another indivudual about changing that status I will remain as such. If there are no discussions of that nature wouldn't it be safe to think that you're still single and still be able to flirt?"


Wickedcurve replies on 6/4/2006 4:35 pm:
Thank you for viewing my blog ss well as comment. I mean that sincerely.

Just_a_touch_of_ 50F
23 posts
6/4/2006 7:25 pm

Well....I have been on both ends also...flirting & being flirted with. However....if nothing has been said about being commited to each other....then it is the one who has been offended who has the problem. Whether it be male or female....if they believe they are the only one that is being flirted with by the other party....then something definitly needs to be said ahead of time. Good Luck Hun!

Wickedcurve replies on 6/4/2006 8:33 pm:
Hey there! I am glad that you came to visit my blog and thanks for the comment. I hope you're doing well and stay in touch!

madiemoon 52F
2090 posts
11/11/2006 6:49 pm

Wickedly handsome
Wickedly devilish
Wickedly flirtacious
Wickedly wicked

Wickedly ... hmm babe, sounds like she has issues. too bad for her. certainly her loss

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