And Here Are The Numbers  

Wickedcurve 53M
281 posts
8/8/2006 5:59 pm

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And Here Are The Numbers

I am getting really frustrated with the results I've received on this site. I have grown tiresome of not receiving any replies from the emails I send, network invitations that still are 'pending' after a month or more after I have sent them, and when I spot someone in a chat room that I've sent an email and/or network invitation to they seemingly ignore me. So, this frustrating? You betcha!

The other day I did a comparison of the views of my profile, winks I've received, and the email's I have gotten on this site versus another site I am a member of. By the way these numbers are a reflection of views, winks, and emails that are unsolicited. They are also the numbers since 5/30/06. Here are the numbers,....

This Site

Profile Views: 153
Winks: 4
Emails: 6

The Other Site

Profile Views: 654
Winks: 74
Emails: 54

Now when I sat down and looked at these numbers I wondered to myself what is the deal with this site? This is nothing new really. This site has always been baffling to me as to why I hardly ever received any emails whether they were solicited or unsolicited. I think one lady I met one time was right on track when she noted that this site is full of individuals that are seeking nothing more than validation and rarely have the sincere intention to meet anyone.

There are a few of you that I have not met 'yet' that I am currently corresponding with that are sincere in their intention and I recognize that. At this time I will no longer send any unsolicited emails or network invitations out to anyone on this site. Tell me what you think of my analysis and if you want to you can share your experience as well.

Note: I will also add that the emails I've received do not include ones that I've recieved from the same person. I wanted to write that because there are some of you I have corresponded with on this site and have sent me more than one email. So when you see the number of emails I wrote that I've received here you might think to yourself,..WTH?,

luvrgurl20062 45F

8/8/2006 7:31 pm

Many people will be very upset with me when I say this and I've already mentioned it to you - you are on the wrong site. From what I know about you, I think you need to try a different site and I'll bet you that you will get more attention.

Wickedcurve replies on 8/8/2006 9:55 pm:
For one I don't think there will be a lot of people that would be upset if I left. I think I will be hardly missed. I know that you've told me that I am on the wrong site. Like I mentioned in the post I compare this site to another site I am a member of as well and Ray Charles could see the difference.

I would also like to mention that as far as attention is concerned it wouldn't matter if I receieved a lot or none. I would still be the same person as I am with or without the attention. My validation comes from inside me not from things on the outside of me although I will admit it has gotten frustrating at times.

Good to see you stopped by the lair!

Shazz1971 44F
1052 posts
8/8/2006 8:14 pm

Profile views since June 2005 : 5,743
Winks since April 2006: 79
Emails in the last 30 days: I've deleted so many, maybe a hundred?
Men I've met: 14
Men I've dated: 1 (for 7 months and I'm a bit heartbroken)
Men I'm "corresponding with" : I'll never tell
The times I've wondered "Why the hell am I on this site? It's like an accident on the side of the road, and I just can't look away!" : countless.

Steve, I think you'll be okay, LOL. wink, wink. You really are a good guy, perhaps even a great guy.

Wickedcurve replies on 8/8/2006 9:58 pm:
I know I'll be okay and thank you so much for thinking I am a really good guy,...maybe even a great guy! I think I am a pretty good/great guy myself.

Shazz1971 44F
1052 posts
8/9/2006 7:22 am

I think you would be missed. I think people enjoy your posts, as I do. I look forward to hearing what you're up too... As I've mentioned... this site really is female oriented... just the way it is. Hope you don't just disappear on me.


Wickedcurve replies on 8/9/2006 9:15 am:
Well thank you for the comment. I have known for the longest time that this site, as well as other sites mind you, are female oriented. Don't worry, I will not disappear anytime soon. I am just not sending anymore unsolicited emails and/or network invitations. I am a gold member and paid for a year membership sometime ago, so I will be here for a little while longer.

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