Most Recent Encounter  

WickedWanda269 48F
52 posts
8/1/2005 12:22 pm

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Most Recent Encounter

I have debated for several days about whether I should post anything about this encounter. I'm a person that likes to keep things light and fun and not get bogged down in the negative. But if I'm going to be true to the intention of this blog (and myself for that matter) then I have to give an accurate account of everything -- good and bad. Also, I want to remind the ladies (and men!) out there that there are some whackos among us and we really need to be careful, cuz even the most cautious person can end up in a situation they can't get out of. If that inner voice is telling you that something isn't right -- don't ignore it.

All that being said, here goes...

My last encounter was horrible. Not horrible as in he had a small dick or he had a large dick and didn't know how to use it. Horrible as in traumatic. Nightmare inducing. Hospital visit requiring. As in I almost let my husband and friend put their "talents" to use (see my previous posts if you're confused).

I'm not going to go into major detail, because frankly, I'm not up to that, and as I said in a previous post, I don't kiss and tell. But what started out as two people hooking up for sex turned into forced oral sex and forced fisting, with him doing the forcing (in case you weren't sure).

Things went from consensual to forced when he didn't have a condom and got pissed off that I wouldn't fuck him without one. (For the record, I HAD a condom and WOULD HAVE GLADLY GIVEN IT TO HIM if things hadn't gone downhill as quickly as they did.)

Anyway. Once the "encounter" was over, I went home and took a 2 hour shower. Thank God we sprang for the dual hot water tanks. Yeah, I know I probably should have reported it...and yes, I should have gone to the hospital immediately but I couldn't face my husband or our friend, and I didn't want to face what had happened. So for 2 days I felt as if someone had taken a meat tenderizer my insides. Finally, earlier today, I went to the doctor and got an exam. From the fisting, I have some "internal" bruising and cuts. She gave me a saline wash (hurt like HELL!) and some pills for the pain. THANK GOD!

To make things worse, I am kicking myself for not listening to my inner voice that was telling me that this encounter was not a good one and that I should just excuse myself and get the hell out of there. What he did was wrong, but I was STUPID for not following my instincts.

Now to find a way to tell the two men in my life what happened. They both know something is wrong. I danced around it with K (my friend) this morning...but I think he's pretty much figured it out and he's not happy. As for M (my husband), well...I know what will happen there. If I tell him, he'll want to know EVERYTHING (and he has a right to know everything...I just don't know if I can tell him..maybe I'll send him here and let him read this)and then he'll talk to K and all hell will break loose. I don't need that right now. So, maybe I'll keep quiet about it at least until K gets back next weekend. I can always claim cramps. LOL

Anyway, that was my encounter and all the ugliness that followed. And, for the record, I don't blame AdultFriendFinder or online dating for this. The creep could have walked up to me in a bar, ran the same lines...and the same damn thing could have happened. This was not a wink on Monday, chat on Tuesday, meet and fuck on Wednesday thing. We'd been talking to each other for hours on a daily basis for a while.

So, ladies and gents, just be careful out there and don't ignore your instincts. I know I won't from now on.

bruin_1968 48M

8/1/2005 12:50 pm

I don't even know you and I am outraged at the actions of this piece of shit you encountered. I firmly believe that you should either tell the authorities or your men. You should not be the only one to have repurcussions from this encounter. Especially when you went into it in good faith and it was the other person who crossed the line. Seriously crossed the line. I would feel so much better knowing you sent a couple of dudes over and provided the bastard with a serious anal fisting right before they beat him within an inch of his life. Just one man's opinion.

CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
8/1/2005 2:01 pm

Another mans opinion : Please don't wait till the end of the week or later, I have to agree with [blog bruin_1968] this has to be told right away, this is in no way your fault, and therefore you should not have to suffer this long emotionally and physically.


redmustang91 57M  
8657 posts
8/1/2005 2:39 pm

Well assault and battery are crimes even if done in revenge. Taking the law into your own hands can lead to permanent bloodshed or prison. Besides he could argue that he thought you wanted rough sex and that you meant yes when you said no! ( I do not accept such arguments, just showing the line he could use if tried, as in Kobe Bryant's case, etc. ) Date is always tough to prove.

I am sorry you had such a bad experience and it is very sad. Do not blame all men for one bad guy. Hope you feel better soon!

WickedWanda269 48F
7 posts
8/4/2005 7:33 pm

Thanks for the words of wisdom, guys. I appreciate it.

Bruin, have you been talking to my husband and friend, cuz that is what they would do...if they were feeling lazy and didn't feel like conjuring up something more diabolical. LOL

redmustang, I agree that revenge isn't the best tactic, but sometimes that testosterone gets to flowing heavy and you guys aren't always thinking. Men are so reactionary -- it's facinating and exasperating at the same time.

CuteAZguy - I didn't wait. I told my husband who in turn told our friend..but I told them I would prefer to just put it behind me and stay on my quest for the perfect Friend With Benefits. I'm just going to be MUCH more careful from now on.

keitha777 59M  
364 posts
8/6/2005 10:56 am

To bad I wasnt close by I would have kicked the crap out of him.. Guys like that give us a bad name// I always just in case always carry aa condom.. Us guys like to play it safe also and unless you can completely trust the person then do not ever trust that person// Meeting are such that they should be a mutual 50/50 one on one situation where everything should enjoyable.. As for your encounter I hope I never meet him or I will just have to show him one of my moves that got me kicked out of a rugby match// Sorry

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