READ THIS AND DEMAND JUSTICE!!!  

WhiteRoseOnFire 56F
10 posts
4/17/2006 11:52 pm

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6/18/2006 10:25 pm

READ THIS AND DEMAND JUSTICE!!!


I am writing this for a friend, LADYBLUE85... she had turned off her profile for a few weeks as she was dating someone.... turned out BAD!!!!!! yep, guy from here...... she came back online tonight and turned the profile back on, and re-vised her profile a little.... only adding NO SMOKERS.... she went back two hours later.... couldnt log on at all, getting messages that the handle and e-mail was not in the database. ??? I did a search and got the message that the profile was deleted or turned off. Of course she is very upset. After writing to the Help e-mails twice... she found out from a guy friend that the mail she sent to him is still in his box, but the body of the letter was removed by AdultFriendFinder because of violations of terms of service. ???? what gives?? she has only been onto the site this month to check blogs.... not even write to anyone. Is this a common occurance or what?? a 3rd message was jsut sent to the HELP desk but no response yet.

WhiteRoseOnFire 56F
6 posts
4/18/2006 9:11 am

ok, jsut got word from LADYBLUE85,. she jsut got an e-mail response from AdultFriendFinder... claiming her profile was shut down after receiving numerous complaints . ????? she has requested proof and dates.... as she was not active for a month. She suspects the guy from here she was dating for that period. In knowing this woman, she has always been polite in declining letters, unless they are nasty to start -- this is a shame because she is such a talented writer and creative person just looking for a soulmate and friend in what is an extremely difficult life lately. then for this to happen??


WhiteRoseOnFire 56F
6 posts
4/18/2006 1:00 pm

UPDATE --- seems AdultFriendFinder had complaints on LADYBLUE'S profile, after THEY approved a revision several months ago! talk about gov't bullshit! After being harrassed by several men who seemed to think this site is their free-for-all for sex and think all they have to do is snap their fingers and us, as women, should jump at the chance to fuck them -- LADYBLUE got pissed and added a paragraph AT THE BEGINNING of her profile that said something to the effect that, "...if any men think I am going to have sex on the first meeting because u think we are whores for having profiles here.... you better be prepaid to have cash up front....." LOL

UH......... seems to me that as usual, a few men who took offense at LADYBLUE'S irritation and sense of humor, filed complaints. I know for a fact, as her personal friend, that there were a couple of so-called men who wrote to her out of the blue calling her names, before and after that addition. Normally a calm person, she blasted them right back.... her right to freedom of speech, for being called a whore, esp. by those who she told politely she wasnt interested in them.

As far as we can figure out, from the short e-mail the staff sent to her, their Terms of Service violation seems to be they claim she was advertising for "prostitution!!" OMFG!!! ROTFFLMAO!! It really would be funny is she hadnt been fucked out by this site after being a member for 2 years!!

How many of u men, and the guys i know, respond to some broads on here, give them ur private e-mails, then get links to porn sites and/or naked cams??? I ahve seen it for myself on my guy friends' computers! Yet AdultFriendFinder does not crack down on them?? sure, crucify the
innocent for defending themselves and having a sense of humor.

I know for a fact, thru long chats and lunches, that LADYBLUE has met dozens of guys from here, 98% pure bullshit, gameplaying, assholes..... who know nothing about how to treat a woman as a friend or lover. She IS lucky she has about 6 that are still online friends. But she mostly used this site lately for blogging. If the staff does not re-instate her profile, even with that one paragraph removed..... we are all loosing a talented writer and potential best friend.


WhiteRoseOnFire 56F
6 posts
4/18/2006 5:27 pm

so now it seems the site chooses to delete replies to blogs?? I wrote a very long reply here earlier that stayed for quite a while, then mysteriously disappeared. In a nutshell, this was the latest on the situation with LADYBLUE'S profile and the probable cause for it's removal by the site nazi's.... (yeah, this free speech oughta piss them off good).

I am speaking as a good friend and neighbor of her's, knowing the facts AND knowing her very well for a long time. After many hours of chatting and lunches, I know all about the men she has met thru this site -- 98% pure knuckle-dragging assholes..... the other 2% are still good friends of hers.

LADYBLUE now believes the reason for her sudden removal, AFTER turning her profile back on is the following --- about THREE months ago, after constantly receiving NASTY unsolicitated e-mails from so-called men on here -- you know, the kind that think all women who have profiles on here are hookers on demand for their pleasure and expect us to be thrilled they offer to just fuck us.

She has revised her profile about 20 times in 2 years, and had one of THE BEST profiles, making it 100% clear what she was looking for. Many, many men would take it personally just reading the profile and send mean, UGLY letters calling her a skanky whore.... and sometimes those she politely declined. Normally a very sweet, calm person, yes she would get angry and respond blasting them AND reporting them for harrassing her.

THREE months ago, she added a paragraph to her profile THAT THE SITE APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In a very short description, it basically said, ".....if anyone thinks that they are getting laid the first time we meet, you better be prepared to hand over cash! If you are going to treat me like a whore, you better be prepared to pay me like one......."

Evidently, the same kind of mentality that would read ANYONE'S profile and seek to respond venting unsoliciated opinions and evil, chose to report her to the site as being a prostitute! LOL This would be hysterically funny if it wasnt so sad the way the site is run now. You know, men esp., after finally getting a woman to answer ur e-mails, u exchange private e-mails, then her next letter is a link to a porn site or cams. Are ALL of these women reported for trying to make a $$$. Most NO! Men are too embarrassed. I have seen this proof for myself on my guy friends' computers. And jsut today in IMing another guy friend, he was offered sex for $$ by one of the women he contacted --- he told her she should pay him! lol

This is a very sad state of affairs for this to happen to LADYBLUE85 ... she has been here for 2 years, HAS met dozens of men, had relationships with many and yes, met quite a few LOOSERS!!
And i know has many friends on the site thru her cleaverly written and funny blogs. If they refuse to re-instate her profile, with or without that one paragraph in her profile, we all loose a potential best friend and entertaining, talented writer. To loose someone because of her sense of humor and for standing up for her right of free speech and demanding respect from men is totally unjust.... AFTER THE SITE APPROVED THE REVISIONS MONTHS AGO???? Something is seriously wrong here.

Go read all her blogs and write to AdultFriendFinder.... we all know how messed up this site is with everything that goes on.....


SirMounts 102M

4/20/2006 6:27 pm

Well, I hope it all works out for her. Snafu's do happen.
Welcome to the blogs, WhiteRoseOnFire. *smiling*


Ladyblue802 58F

4/20/2006 9:25 pm

Hi Rosey, well as many of my old listers have found out, i am back... even managed to slip my "new" handle past the approvers! ROTFLMAO!!! what pisses me off.... this was not a snafu, Sir. I did not want to call the office to bitch, i was beyond angry over this matter. I wrote 5 e-mails ASKING for a reason FROM a human!! each time I got a form letter, quoting the TOS about soliciting for prostitution!! And the morons approved what was written in my revised profile months ago --- so it was either THAT or someone decided to get real nasty and report abuse along those lines (have a feeling I know who it could be).... let's just say payback is gonna be a real BITCH with redhair!!

What really upsets me about having my profile deleted --- I lost ALL of my blogs!! Never had a chance to save to my computer --- and I had planned on using them in a book i was working on.


Ladyblue802 58F

4/20/2006 9:27 pm

P.S. - sure wish i had been getting paid for all the sex I did have over the past two years --- coulda had myself a brand new car!! LOL

>>! ?*


sex4fun1950 66M
182 posts
4/20/2006 9:31 pm

Part, and only a small part, of the reason men on this site treat the women the way they do is due to the advertising of the site. I get spam with the headline "Get a date with a local whore" and then discover the site is actually AdultFriendFinder. Well, if I was unable to read the profiles, I would expect that a simple "wanna f***" letter should work, given the enticement used to get me to sign up.

Why men can't read is beyond me, since I am both a male and a reader.

I read LADYBLUE85's new profile, think it is wonderful, and wrote to her not asking for a date but to support her in the effort to remove men making uncalled for nasty responses. She sent me to this blog, for which I thank both her and WhiteRoseOnFire; this is my response. I hope AdultFriendFinder eventually learns, but experience has taught me they wont.


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11238 posts
4/22/2006 12:29 am


has she gotten a reply to her asking for proof? The site should at least give her a chance to defend herself....


Ladyblue802 58F

4/22/2006 6:09 pm

No.... i wrote 4 times... the 4th asking specifically if my rant in my profile about " ... better be prepared to hand over cash...." was the reason because someone got their feelings hurt. I even asked for a personal, handtyped-human response. All 4 times I only received an exerpt from the TOS referring to solicitating for prostitution. Damn, knew i missed my calling somewhere along the line! lol


SirMounts 102M

5/18/2006 4:22 am

    Quoting Ladyblue802:
    Hi Rosey, well as many of my old listers have found out, i am back... even managed to slip my "new" handle past the approvers! ROTFLMAO!!! what pisses me off.... this was not a snafu, Sir. I did not want to call the office to bitch, i was beyond angry over this matter. I wrote 5 e-mails ASKING for a reason FROM a human!! each time I got a form letter, quoting the TOS about soliciting for prostitution!! And the morons approved what was written in my revised profile months ago --- so it was either THAT or someone decided to get real nasty and report abuse along those lines (have a feeling I know who it could be).... let's just say payback is gonna be a real BITCH with redhair!!

    What really upsets me about having my profile deleted --- I lost ALL of my blogs!! Never had a chance to save to my computer --- and I had planned on using them in a book i was working on.
Oh no. That's just awful, Ladyblue.
Yes, I know of another who lost her blog recently for a time. And yes, it's so hard to lose stuff when you assumed you didn't Have to save it. I'm sorry too that you lost materials for your book!


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