Judges and Jury  

Weebil64 52M
4 posts
9/28/2005 11:55 am

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Judges and Jury

I posted a question asking if anyone could suggest ways to pay for a membership so that my wife wouldn't know about it. All I got was flamed.

I mention in my profile that I am looking for a friend for discrete fun. I love my wife but our sex life has been suffering for a while now. I find it hard to believe that there aren't more people like me on this site. Many of the women here should know that there are lots of reasons that some women may not be interested in sex that have nothing to do with not being in love with your mate. My wife has some problems with depression. This in turn has a tendency to lead to weight problems. When she starts gaining weight she gets more depressed. I love my wife and I support her. I do everything I can to help her understand that I don't care what she looks like but it doesn't always work. I try to be as affectionate and loving as possible. But that doesn't change the fact that I do want some physical contact as well.

I had hoped that I could come to this site and find a lady that might be understanding of this and be open to talk or more. However, based on the feedback I'm getting it seems I might be wrong.

I'm going to stick around for a while longer. I might even pay for a month's membership to check this out better. But I'm beginning to think this was a bad idea.

redmustang91 57M  
8660 posts
9/28/2005 1:00 pm

Get a separate credit card that goes to work. Get a separate bank account to pay for it or use money orders. Get your wife to a doctor for the depression as it is treatable. Good luck!

bigfurrybear 41M

9/28/2005 2:23 pm

In order to avoid conflicts over who has "control of the money" me and wy wife have seperate bank accounts with an understanding her money is her money and mine is mine. We work together to ensure the bills are paid but aside from that we don't question too much what the other does with their money. This is how I pay for my membership.

I can relate to the difficulty of a sexless marriage. I love my wife dearly. We have almost 10 years under our belts together. However, she does have some serious health issues that make sex very difficult for her. Often times it is even painful. I support her and love her, and hopefully next year when I finish school I will be able to get a job with insurance so when can see about getting her taken care of.

This doesn't help me, though. A guy with a massive sex drive that gets really grumpy and moody if i'm not getting any. I used to just look at porn and "choke my chicken" to help curb this, but with limited effect. Not to mention she thought this was disgusting and she hated the thought of me looking at porn. That is what led me here.

Now I seldomly go more than 3 days without getting some no strings attached sex from different hotties, and my marriage has improved dramatically in the last month that I have been on here. I often wonder if she has noticed and what her reaction would be if she found out why...

rm_Action863 35F
1 post
9/30/2005 2:05 pm

I understand. I have an outragous sex drive and don't know what I wouid do without sex. But if you wife has this problem-take the $ you would spend on this and get her on some meds! My mom suffers from depression the same way and she went and saw a normal MD and put her on some anti-depressant/anti anxiety and she lost 10lbs in a week and is happy! If your wife is depressed now, think of how she will be when she finds out! And guys, we do find out... I wish you the best of luck! If you decide not to take my advise your best route would be to go to one of those check cashing places and get a pre-paid credit card...I probably shouldn't have told you that, I hope you will make the right choice.

rm_exlover63 53F

10/6/2005 12:01 pm

i totally understand your situation. a sexless marriage only hurts both of you.and hey if you can get it on the side then do so, just don't rub it in her face. what she doesn't know won't hurt her. heck she might secretly wish you were getting some. but she would be happier also on meds for depression!

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