Reaching sexual maturity - a woman's POV  

VoluptuousXotic 40F
32 posts
10/27/2005 4:55 am

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Reaching sexual maturity - a woman's POV


Is it my age? I thought myself to be a "woman" for a long time now, however, I don't think I have given the proper weight to my sexual needs/fantasies/desires in my measurement of what it is to be a woman.

Embrace my responsibilities - check.
Be a good mom - check.
Be a good cook - check.
Excel in my career - check.
Be able to fully please my man - check.
Invest in personal development - check.

But WTF?? This list, and please don't infer anything by the order, was my high-level overview of what I thought it was to be a woman. Where is my sexual pleasure? My mate's made it on the list, however as women often do, self-sacrifice comes into play.

I wonder how many women out there are victim of this unbalanced descriptor. As a matter of fact I wonder how many MEN are unhappy because a lot of women do not make their sexual happiness and fulfillment top priority. I truly wonder how many affairs could have been prevented by the woman who instead of putting the kids, work and home ahead of the pack, embraced her sexual needs and understood this was a big key to her overall happiness. Hell - if I ain't happy, no one in the house is! Now I am not advocating choosing the option of getting some oral over the kids eating breakfast, however women need to differentiate between what the kids need vs. what they want. Their wants are totally negotiable, and secondary to my needs - including my sexual needs.

Recently I have enjoyed some experiences that have made me aware that my sexuality - what makes me cum, what makes me cum hard, what makes me tingle, what hurts - but feels good - this is all part of what makes me a woman. A well-balanced woman. A woman whose needs are being met. A HAPPY woman.

Ladies, there is a connection, between the woman you are in the day and the woman you are in the bed (using the term loosely). I have always viewed it separately, being one or the other but never both simultaneously, and dedicating time of thought and exploration of each only during those active times respectively. Well hell, I spend 12 hours a day being a lady, and that does not leave nearly enough time to fully embrace, dissect, experiment and ponder my sexual prowess.

I, at 29, am only beginning to realize the sensations I get from being fully penetrated on top, so that his penis is firmly pressed against my cervix and G-spot. Perhaps the younger me wasn't mature enough sexually to feel those tingles and have the awareness of orgasmic build-up.

Life is amazing, once you think you've reached the top, truly you've only reached high enough to see how far from the peak you really are! I am enthralled with notion that I am a baby in my sexual maturity (ok maybe a teen) but that I have so much more to learn, feel, experience, participate in and above all, advocate for that ultimate orgasm...

Women its time to get your priorities straight - and make you sexual happiness a gift that you give yourself and your mate!

musicalplaythg1 50F
2 posts
10/27/2005 5:54 am

You are very wise for your years. Most women catch on to that in their 40s if they're lucky! Congrats gf!


volcanoinu23 52M

10/27/2005 8:27 am

Well written and spoken...Thanks

In my situation, you have hit the nail right on the head. My wife will not, almost refuses to admit that she could be a sexual being. When I ask her about her sexuality or encourage her to explore it, she is squeamish. Sure, she does her best to satisfy me, but she doesn't thrill me!

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"I wonder how many women out there are victim of this unbalanced descriptor. As a matter of fact I wonder how many MEN are unhappy because a lot of women do not make their sexual happiness and fulfillment top priority. I truly wonder how many affairs could have been prevented by the woman who instead of putting the kids, work and home ahead of the pack, embraced her sexual needs and understood this was a big key to her overall happiness."


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