Replying to Messages...  

View2aDream 51F
23 posts
1/29/2006 11:21 am

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10/11/2006 7:09 pm

Replying to Messages...

I appreciate the desire to at least have an acknowledgement of your message - I generally have that expectation as well. However, for those of you who get offended when someone doesn't respond - I thought I'd enlighten you as to why that might be happening. It could be any number of reasons:

1. Maybe we get too many messages? Egotistical sounding, I know. And I'm not necessarily one of those who get TONS of messages daily, but...

2. Maybe we're waiting to make sure we allow time for a "proper" response. It could be that we're skimming through, are interested, but don't have time to form, what we would deem, a good response.

3. Maybe your message got lost in the shuffle. This relates directly back to #1 and #2 above, in that we lose track of your particular message, even if we have the desire to respond. Sometimes, it could be weeks before we get back to it.

4. Maybe your message offended and doesn't deserve a response.

5. Maybe we're simply not interested?

Bottom line - not all messages will be responded to. One item of note - and I feel pretty strongly about this - If someone responds negatively because you've begged for some form of a reply - don't message back all offended! I've tried responding back with a negative - and all it netted me was additional nasty messages. Take it like a man - stop messaging and move on to someone who is more interested.

Now - for those that I've responded to in a postive way... Know that it's not because of the request for some sort of reply. I'm genuinely interested in you.

elysianpleasure 47M

1/29/2006 4:02 pm

Welcome to blogland... I think most of the men here are used to not receiving responses. There is something like 10 men to every women... such a life. You guys rule this joint!!!! Personally, I have found it much easier to meet and get to know people here in the blogs than through sending messages and trying to stand out in the crowd.

Han54boat 63M
11118 posts
1/30/2006 5:16 pm

What? Are you being bug about this? I agree with elysianpleasure. I tend to think of #5 and hope not on #3, wishing for #2. Yet, life goes on, and the men are still alive and kicking.

Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.

Spec662 62M

2/1/2006 7:25 pm

So why does anyone perceive online negatives as any different than being in a club and receiving a negative response there as well? I agree with elysianpleasure as well. It's all about the numbers, and the numbers are in a woman's favor. In the end, however, the goal is for compatibility in whatever form one desires. For me, I don't complain. I'm by no means a pompous person either, but if a person doesn't feel my genuineness from an email or two, it's their loss. That I do believe. No biggie.

View2aDream 51F

2/6/2006 8:19 pm

Yes, I've received my fair share of bugging about not responding. Usually guys continuing to (and how do I say this delicately...) whine about not getting a response. And there has been the rare - but what caused this blog - chastisement about a response I sent ("what, I'm not good enough..."), after they requested a response "out of courtesy."

Dripping_Sexy 54F
19 posts
1/21/2007 7:27 am

I am one of those who gets TONS of messages daily, but..."Egotistical sounding" I am NOT... and I would love to send each email a respond .....but then I would have no life...

I do send the ones that I'm clearly interested my phone number...sometimes I get a call and we check in or check off the desire to meet in person... sometimes I get NO call...hey I put it out there... why they don't call...must be a very good reason... and I accept that it wasn't meant to be...

I do reply with a quick reply "NO thanks, I'm not interested" if I have no desire in the profile at all...

The ones I just delete are the ones that are vulgar, tacky, rude or insult any woman that has brains... you know thw ones that just make you shake your head... you got love the ones that feel so anger at woman that they send you an email using the word cunt in the most negative way... hate mail...geez you gotta just laugh...

I check my email as quick as I can... verbage is the first on my checklist...just love a man with proper english, quality of picture,
height then location...

The gentleman can be right next door, 6'7" and have a great picture of his face... he talks like a 8th grader... for me that just doesn't do it... I might be his gal pal... for a while...eventually if i have nothing to talk about with him.... I don't seek him out...

A man that can charm you with his voice... ahhhhh... that makes my mind undress myself in front of him while he talks....what a rush...

This is just my personal opinion...if this had been a quote for all the woman in the world... you would of been notified

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