WHY IS IT????  

VHJPED1 33F
26 posts
8/25/2005 9:24 am

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WHY IS IT????


Why is it that guys are such complex people? I mean seriously, sometimes it take you like three seconds to figure out what is on their mind (Sex, drinking, sports, sex, normally in that order) and then you'll say something and they totally take it the wrong way? I mean it's like I made a comment to a guy and normally he's laid back and easy going (All I said was, "Honey if you toned the abs then I'd bet you'd get what ur looking for") and he totally flipped out on me. He asked me if he was attractive, so I told him and he like told me that I was self centered and a judged him based on looks.... HE ASKED!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and then of course why is it that to find decent people you have to look a little over 500 miles from where you are? I mean does anyone ever notice that there is nothing in this area and it's a waste of a life? I mean seriously besides recreational sex, what is there to do? Oh and of course if a female mentions having recreational sex, then it's just wrong, but a guy can do it... Ok, so i'm not having the best day with the guys in the office right now, so I'm going to go before I get into more trouble with my mouth, as if it's a bad thing when they want it... Later as always.

rm_gulmunthos 30M
105 posts
8/25/2005 10:01 am

I dunno why guys are so complex.. but they do require a lot of ego stroking. and as for the whole distance thing.. yeah, i see where you are coming from.. though there isnt even recreational sex here for me!


redmustang91 57M  
8662 posts
8/25/2005 11:23 am

Many guys think women into recreational sex are great! If I was the guy I would be grateful you noticed and offered advice as it shows interest and concern. The problem is you are dealing with insecure younger guys. Try older ones! I am sure there are some nice hot guys at Madison Wisconsin with a big college there! Good luck!


rm_abebb 59M
56 posts
8/25/2005 12:37 pm

lol like the pot calling the kettle black. what if your guy friend said something like your butt needed toning or whatever. he would probably end up with a black eye. lol or what if he said your nose was crooked? you wouldn't be wondering about your attractiveness to opposite sex? i often see young guys at the gym picking up their shirts and looking at their abs in the mirror with an expression of grave concern on their faces. i often get a chuckle out of it. both men and women have insecurities. all i can say is from what i have read, studies show than women and men are wired differently and therefore communicate differently. you can probably find more info about the subject on line. women are constantly accusing men of judging them on their looks, breasts size etc. so when a women dose the same to us, we are shocked by it, since we are constantly being bombarded with mis information that women are not concerned with a guys looks. it is just a double standard, just like the one you mentioned about guys being able to have recreational sex, but frowning upon women who do. basically, it is all bullshit. if you are really this guys friend, just apologize to him and move on.. the truth is looks are important to both and as i always say, some things are best left unsaid. Do you honestly believe this guys abs are the answer to his dilemma.


Prof10001 56M
1489 posts
9/4/2005 8:05 am

abebb makes a good point but age has something to do with it also. Many, not all, younger men like younger women are still figuring out who they are an what they are about. As you gain life experience many, not all, sort that out and reach a point of.........consistancy (sp) ......understandability..........they are still complex, all human (well most) are but there is an orderliness to their minds.

good luck


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