The Year 2006 has already been good to me!!!  

VELVETGIRL69 50F
98 posts
1/3/2006 6:32 am

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The Year 2006 has already been good to me!!!

I have been extremely lucky for all the close wonderful friends I have.

I am surrounded by generous, caring, people who have given me so much support in my darkest hours. Life is good and I feel alive.

This New Years I had the time of my life.

Last year I stayed home while my ex was out at a party... working it and of course on the prowl. He had not wanted me to go with him because I would get in the way of him getting some.

He lied to me...but what wasn't a lie in our relationship? I stayed home alone and realized then I needed to get him out of my life. I packed all his belongings and he came home at 6am and all his stuff was waiting for him in the hallway. He was mad.

I spent the following 8 months trying to rid him from my life. Being a Narcissist, he played games with my head, and tried to lay blame on me. I knew this was going to be a tedious and delicate matter of trying to get him out. I was afraid of his rage and abusive nature and had to carefully and strategically set a plan in motion.

All my closest friends and family were aware of this and were extremely supportive and also worried about my well being.

Finally in September it happened. I was so relieved the sociopath was gone and I could now concentrate on healing.

It's been a little over 3 months and I feel reborn and so happy and content with my life and I am free. I managed to escape the horror I once lived with a man who tried to destroy me and was unable to.

He failed miserably. I was too strong for him and was never going to be a victim. I made sure of that.

So this New Years I celebrated with a bunch of my friends in a very colorful way watching raunchy stag flicks and sexy retro burlesque girls on stage at The Lamplighter in Gastown. I had the time of my life… very different from last year.



LilSquirt_4mfm 67M/67F
3394 posts
1/12/2006 2:27 pm

Velvet

So glad for you that you got away from that type of individual. Yrs sgo, I can relate directly, as was trapped into a situation with very similar person (according to your description), kids, my family sucked in by him etc etc. His masters of phsycology training made him even better at playing his game, and getting into my mind.

Finally I got away from him, took a while to get over the effects and get self respect back ... spent yrs single .... now have a real winner, for 20 yrs now.

Good Goin Gal!!!!!
You will be fine now.

Cum visit our blog Anytime.
Lil


VELVETGIRL69 50F

1/13/2006 11:35 pm

Lil

Thank you for your kind words and support. I feel encouragement and a lot of love and caring all around me. I find comfort in other people's stories and as I read them it helps me with the healing process. Thank you for sharing your story with me.

Velvet


veryromantic56 50M

1/16/2006 2:50 pm

I am sure you will have lot of fun in 2006. Hopefully you will visit California. Have a wonderful year.
PK


jamesbond0071965 51M
23 posts
1/18/2006 12:40 am

glad to hear that are healing. it takes time, but it is worth it. i to have been there, don't want to go back there. keep true to yourself, have lots of good friends, and lots of fun and laughs. thats how i got throught it and still continue to this day.

have lots of laughs,
have lots of friends,
and lots joyful times.

james


VELVETGIRL69 50F

1/21/2006 4:12 am

Thanx for the support and encouragement "jamesbond0071965" Good pieces of advice and that's why I am healing quite nicely.

I had the laughs, friends and joyful times before, during, and after that nasty, nasty man. An amazing amount of support and love surrounds me and I have never felt better. Of course there is some hurt but mostly a rebirth and an intoxicating wave of self assuredness. I am surrounded by many people. My positive attitude and genuinely happiness seems to be attracting new people more then ever before. Life is good and I am a very lucky girl for escaping the nightmare I lived for the last 4 years.

Since I got him out of my life, my luck started to change and I have had some pretty wild things happen for me. It could only get better from here.

Velvet


VELVETGIRL69 50F

3/6/2006 3:47 am

Smuthtuch...thank you for the nice words and compassion you project thru your comment.

You are right about caring for the spirit that resides within. Life has sure handed me some trials and tribulations but have always landed back on my feet with an even stronger, more confident, and feisty spirit that never gives up. "Bring it on," I say.

You are also right about the roaring flame... and that, will never go out.


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