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Maybe it's just me, Part 2....
Maybe it's just me, Part 2....
*WARNING-"LEWIS BLACK" STYLE RANT COMING UP!*
Y'know, I know in reality I'm not the only person who experiences this, and reading blogs, discussion groups, and hanging out in the chat rooms, I know it's not just a "Mars/Venus" thing (i.e. guys do this to women too) but I thought I'd put it under the heading of "Maybe it's just me...." anyway.
I guess what I want to ask here is "Maybe it's just me", but has anyone else ever written to somebody on here, and maybe you've exchanged a few e-mails, and then they add you to their, and you add them to yours, and you have one or two nice chats then....WHAM! You see them online one time, and you say "Hey there, how's it goin'?", and they don't answer you back. So you figure, "Well, maybe they've got a bunch of other people they're chatting with already", or "Maybe they're busy and forgot to put their 'busy' sign up", or something. You know, giving them the benefit of the doubt and everything.
But then it happens everytime they come online! It happens even if you're already on, and they come on, and you IM them, and they still don't respond back! So you're sitting there going "WTF!?", wondering why this person you've been chatting with won't respond to you. "Is it something I said?", you wonder. "Is it this person decided they didn't like my looks after all? What, what is it??" You can't figure it out. So you IM them, maybe while they're on, maybe offline, and you ask them "What's up?" And they STILL don't respond to you! (Note: For some weird reason, IM still lets people's status show up on your friend list, even if they've removed you from theirs. You actually have to *block* somebody to keep from showing up on their friend list.)
So here's what I want to say: Is it SO FREAKIN' HARD for people to go ahead and tell somebody "Look, I've decided for whatever reason, or no reason at all besides that I feel like it, that I really am not interested in chatting/don't want to chat with you any more. Please take me the hell off your friend list, and leave me the fuck alone. Goodbye."? Now is *that* so hard? A little honesty?
Now some may say "Well, what's the matter with you? Can't you take a hint, hmmm?" Well, here's my point: I DON'T WANT TO TAKE A DAMN HINT, AND I SHOULDN'T FREAKIN' HAVE TO TAKE A DAMN HINT!!
I mean what's with people? Or maybe I should say what's wrong with people in this country? Because I hang with a lot of people from other countries in my social life, and I notice that they NEVER seem to have the problems with candor on emotional or relational stuff that Americans have. Sure, we're the bravest people on the planet when it comes to fighting wars, rescuing people trapped on mountainsides in blizzards, or rebuilding cities after devastation, but we are I swear the biggest damn WUSSIES sometimes when it comes to emotional stuff. "EWWWW! It's ICKY! I don't wanna deal with it!", we go. The French may suck at fighting wars, but they'll definitely let you know where you stand with them straight out every time! Personally, I think some of it has to do with same "We're Americans; we move forward, we don't look back" mentality that is unique to this country. I have no problem with that, BUT TRY FINISHING YOUR DAMN BUSINESS FIRST BEFORE YOU "MOVE AHEAD", HUH? OK? I guess the bottom line for me in all of this is "Just communicate straight out with people about what you do or don't want with them or from them. If you think they're a liar, say to so their face. If you don't want anything more to do with them, tell them so, for crimminy's sakes! It may hurt a little more a first, but it saves a lot of timewasting and bullshit in the long run."
*END "LEWIS BLACK" STYLE RANT*
P.S. For those of you who might think I was being "unpatriotic" with some of my comments above, all I have to say is that I do love my country, but I think that sometimes loving something, whether it be a person or a country, means being willing to say what you think is messed up about them or it, too.
10/2/2006 10:53 am
I so agree with this thought ,buddy! "So here's what I want to say: Is it SO FREAKIN' HARD for people to go ahead and tell somebody "Look, I've decided for whatever reason, or no reason at all besides that I feel like it, that I really am not interested in chatting/don't want to chat with you any more. Please take me the hell off your friend list, and leave me the fuck alone. Goodbye."? Now is *that* so hard? A little honesty?|
Its so hurtful- It tells me that I am nothing!Sorry I have not read your blogs before- I certainly could have made the bracum thing a reality.