Ode to a Grand Lady  

TiffanyBarbie 28F
1097 posts
7/31/2006 4:35 am

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9/12/2006 9:17 pm

Ode to a Grand Lady

I've been away from the computer since about early Saturday morning. I found myself online quite a bit this past week chatting, meeting new people online, even with all I had scheduled to do in Dallas. After calling it a night, chatting late into the night with my wonder friend TheMindFucker (interesting details and turn-of-events regarding him and Counttessa more on that to come), I was finishing up some odds and ends before heading to bed and thinking of all the errands I had for Saturday morning. Then it happend: one of those late night/early morn phone calls you hear about and dread, that scare you, frighten you and make you sad to know all of the details. You know that phone call holds no good news. I am writing you this Monday morning from California, my home and the place my parents call home. Actually on my laptop in my parent's house to be more exact. The call was about my paternal grandmother. She died early Saturday of a massive stroke. My pain is almost too heavy to relate, even as articulate as I think I am. After the call from my mom, and drying my tears, I put myself back together, finished what I needed to around the house and started packing for California. I think I cried the whole way home on the flight. I was seated on the Delta flight to a very sweet older man who was also in great pain and sorrow. HIs wife of 26 years was had left him and filed for divorce. We comforted each other in our grief, consoled each other with happy stories, and held hands as we cried. We promised to stay in touch. As I write this, I have no shame in telling you that I am crying now. My grandmother is gone and a piece of me too. She was born in 1919 and with many others, flocked to America from Sweden with her new groom, my grandfather. My grandparents came here for opportunity, freedom and a new life. They florished in the Vaudeville entertainment industry in New York with many rising stars later known in the 20s, 30s and 40s. They eventually moved to California to work in Hollywood, but later retired to start a family. My grandmother was always entertaining, espcially at family gatherings. She was loving, kind, generous and always captivated us with stories of entertaining on the road. She was proud of all of her grand kids. I always knew I was her fav being the youngest. She once told me at 10, "Men will go gah-gah over those pretty blonde locks Barbie" (she was the one who started calling me that, and the nickname stuck). LOL. She was right! She was grand and grande. An classic entertainer, a wonderful mom to my dad and his siblings , and an incredible grandmother to all of us kids. My special moments with her will always live in my heart, the things she did for me will forever echo in my mind with the sights and sounds of her jokes, the smell of sweet things cooking and the warmth of a sweet woman as she always told me a story and hugged and kissed me goodnight. Mammy, this post is dedicated to you. Rest in Peace, my love.


TiffanyBarbie 28F

7/31/2006 6:04 am

Good morning TMF! TY very much for your thoughts and I will pass your condolences. I so missed talking to you this weekend, and I got all of your IMs. TY! I will be talking to you today (hopefully). Take care sweetie!


counttessa 46F
16 posts
7/31/2006 7:17 am

TB am sorry sis that this happened,Hugging you to me hodling you in your mind you take care and talk to me when you can


TiffanyBarbie 28F

7/31/2006 7:33 am

Thank you Tessa. You and TMF are still the greatest and "this too shall pass". Didn't mean to start the week off with sad news. Thought a few would like to know what's going on and I don't mind sharing. Talk to you soon sis! Kisses & Love Tess!


tiny_hammer 60M
169 posts
9/12/2006 7:13 am

looks to me that your grandmother lives on in you. i grieve with you baby, and hope you grow stronger from the experience. sounds like you had in you family someone that truly knew how to live. very rare these days. just my thoughts and opinions.

hugs and light kiss on your cheek, david


sensualbear699 68M

9/26/2006 1:39 am

Tiff I know this is belated just going back to read ur blog and had to say how sorry i am for ur loss, but as Hammer said i think she lives on in u and sounds like u have strong family support. My Dad has been gone for almost 20 years and i still miss him so have an idea what ur loss must feel like cherish the memories and as long as u have those she will always be alive for u
Hugs & kisses Bear


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